Pregnant at 47. AIBU to be dreaming up responses to the innevitable sarcy comments?

[MarieFromStMoritz]

So. Pregnant at 47. I just know that when I post this news on Facebook people are going to be saying things like, "ooh, you certainly know how to make life hard for yourself!" (I have 4 kids already), or "ooh, are you sure it's not the menopause?". Stuff like that. I don't want to tell anyone. This morning for a fleeting second I thought of telling people that we adopted the baby. It was just a fleeting second until I realised how ridiculous that would be.

AIBU to be a bit sensitve about it? I haven't even told anyone and already I'm pissed off

Congratulations!

I'm 48, youngest is 19 and secretly (very very secretly) I would be thrilled to have another baby. You must do what is best for you - knickers to anyone else!

OMG click on the overalls item - pictures are sooooooooo sweet!
Where can a get a miniature petrol pump????

My Granny had her 5th at 43, my mum was 16 and used to knit booties in maths lessons . She is 85 now, has 10 grandchildren, 5 great grandchildren and still very active.

I'm pregnant unintentionally at 45 and have had all the same thought processess as you. Having read this thread with you at 47 and the other poster at 46, I am now feeling like a young thing! So thanks for that!

I havent actually had anything negative said (to my face). However having had twins at 43, I am convinced that everybody was sure I'd had IVF (cue internal screaming dialogue."they are bloody identical, think about it!!"). This time around they will all probably think I am just using a a remaining embryo! This is all in my head you understand as nobody has said any such things.

I havent actually told many people , and am now approaching 28 weeks. Have discovered its amazing what you can hide up your jumper when you are A/ a bit porky to start with and B/ It isnt twins.

My birth announcement on FB will be a hoot though, so many folk saying "EH? WTF?" Just going to enjoy the uproar.

Are you being unreasonable about what?

I think the only that would bother me would be people assuming I was the grandmother.

I'm 48 and take 2 yr old twins out once a week to softplay (am a Barnardos volunteer), and am regularly taken to be their granny.

I don't have grey hair or that many wrinkles either!

Why does it bother you so much? If your friends are mean minded about it, or can't see beyond their own lives - then that is a sad reflection on them - not you!
FWIW, by cousin had twins last year at 46 & is loving it.
Many congratulations to you - I hope all goes well with the pregnancy & birth.

My Nan had number 7 at 45!

I don't see 'rather you than me' as sarcastic, just a statement. I suspect it's often not meant nastily, just as something to say to fill a gap in conversation. If that makes sense? It might not make sense, to be fair, as I'm having a mental day.

Anyway, congrats! And if you're doing the photo thing, don't do what my friend did and kneel on the counter in the bathroom for the best access to a mirror. She got stuck up there at about 36 weeks and had to get her other half to help her down. When we suggested he could have taken the pictures she did the full 'light dawning' routine.

Pregnant women (of which I am one) rule

Better you than me.

When I was a child we had friends where the mother and daughter gave birth the same day . . . impressive. My father remarked that that had been one hell of a family tea party.

I think the "rather you than me" or "not what I'd want" kind of comment is vaguely critical. It implies that the other person is making a decision or doing something that you wouldn't. By saying it out loud you are making the other person aware that the path they are embarking on is not one you would do in a way that does make a judgement.
Comments like that invariably irk me, because it is like the other person cannot step outside of their own boots for two seconds to see it from the other person's perspective!
Sorry, bit of a rant there - but I do understand why the MarieSM might find it annoying.

Congratulations! If anyone says anything that irks you, fuck 'em! X

I've been known to say "rather you than me" when in actual fact I'm envious, and basically protesting too much.

Anyway I think you should take a leaf out of montys book and enjoy the uproar

congrats.

I love the ''did you mean to be so rude comment''

Congratulations!

Babies are a gift, whenever they arrive.

When you are pregnant, people always feel they have the right to comment on anything: what you eat, what you wear, your size, your age, your job.....
I hate that.
It comes with the territory. Just be ready to send them back where they come from.
Congratulations and don't let other people's comments get in the way of your happiness.

My answer to any sarky comments would be a BIG laugh (or possibly a LOL if via Facebook, naturally) followed by a 'You do know that the polite thing to do is offer congratulations, right?'

No, I really mean better you than me. That would be my idea of the world's biggest disaster, so DH has been sterilised and I have an implant on top of that. I'm not envious at all.

I'm 41 and am knackered, need more sleep than ever before, find my 3-year-old very challenging and tiring, wish I'd stared all this ten years before I did.

If it works for you, grand.

congratulations.

I had my first at just a month shy of 43 and want another one if I can.

I know lots of mothers in their mid to late forties at the moment, so its not that unusual.

If you are happy, then it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks

When I was 42 I had fixed braces fitted on my teeth. I had several friends say "Aren't you a little old for that". I loved the expressions on their faces when I told them I was also pregnant [hgrin]

Congratulations!

And Happy Birthday to Bucharest. I'm 50 today

congratulations. Always best to have something prepared, (I am too slow to think of these things on the spot) and in my experience of this site, there's nowhere better to ask for that perfect response!

Congratulations.

I'm 43 and 27 weeks pregnant with dc 1.

I have had my paranoid moments about peoples reactions to my age but haven't yet had any comments about it (but have had lots of other very annoying questions/comments).

Am a bit that people have gone ahead and made ^exactly] the comments you've said youre dreading, op.

Congratulations from another old gimmer !

I had DS4 aged 44.
I got very a bit fed up with the comments re were we trying for a girl, '4th time lucky, eh ', etc etc.
Other than that, I really enjoyed the pregnancy and had a great birth.

So, v best luck to you and to what everybody else might think.

Do you think you might be overthinking this very very slightly ??
I'd come out all guns blazing: 'Yes, I am delighted to be pregnant, yes, it was planned, no, we are not insane, yes, we have TV and comprehensive SKY+ package and we have central heating'.

And re FB, fuck FB; I am a paid-up member of the What's The Point Of FB Party. Tell people you want to know about it in your own time individually.

BTW, my own mother thought I was mad: she had 2 DC and was done by the time she was 25 .