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Original poster

to think my lazy DH may have caused this to happen???

85 replies

tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 24/10/2011 21:08

For the first time ever, I have been attaching DH in my sleep :( I have no idea I am doing it and this morning he showed me the stratches I made last night.

I seem to think someone is about to 'get me' and scream for DH to help etc.

The only thing I can think of that is triggering it, is the worry I feel as DH often forgets to lock up at night. It is really making me cross as we have 2 small DC in the house and it is scary to think the doors are not locked.

I have never had anything like this before but it is becoming a very regular event. DH's arm looks terible today! :(

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AbbyAbsinthe · 24/10/2011 21:10

Can't you lock up at night? I'm a bit of a compulsive checker with things like that, so I just do it myself so I can sleep well.

gushofbloodtothefloor · 24/10/2011 21:10

Can you not do a check of doors & windows last thing to reassure yourself. Why does DH have to do it?

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 24/10/2011 21:11

you could try locking the doors yourself and cutting your nails?

Ormirian · 24/10/2011 21:11

?

You scratched him and it's his fault?

Could you perhaps lock up at night?

DoMeDon · 24/10/2011 21:11

YABU to blame him for attacking him Confused YANBU to think it's lazy not to lock the door.

Why can't you do it?

birdsofshoreandsea · 24/10/2011 21:12

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Trills · 24/10/2011 21:13

You scratched him in your sleep.

He is not blaming you.

And you decide to blame him, and call him lazy?

YABU

Bourbonchops · 24/10/2011 21:13

Yep, my DH is very forgetful so I take it upon myself to lock up every night even if he is still up after I go to bed.
It does annoy me that he can't just remember these things though!

Cheeseandseveredfingersarnie · 24/10/2011 21:14

lock the door yourself and get some mittens.its not his fault!

BimboOnABroomstickNo5 · 24/10/2011 21:14

I wondered where there hell DH ended up when you said you were 'attaching' DH in your sleep...

Kayano · 24/10/2011 21:14

Is this real Hmm can you not handle a key?

squeakyfreakytoy · 24/10/2011 21:14

Get some scratch mittens.. and cut your nails..

Oh, and lock the doors yourself... :)

callmemrs · 24/10/2011 21:16

Eh? Why on earth don't 'you lock the doors before you go to bed??
Seems an odd thing to blame this on anyway. You need to seek medical advice I think if your sleep patterns have suddenly become disturbed. There was a high profile case of someone strangling their partner in their sleep a couple of years back! Don't wish to alarm you but if you're causing injury and panicking and screaming in your sleep, its really only responsible to do something about it

SolidGoldVampireBat · 24/10/2011 21:17

Is there something else you are angry with your H about? Or anything else stressing you? Because you can't continue attacking him at night and blame it all on him, so you need to identify the actual problem and fix it.

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 24/10/2011 21:17

Sure I can lock up, but he goes to bed most nights much later than me and is in and out the back doors after I have gone to sleep. I dont think IABU to think last to bed should lock up.
birdsofshoreandsea I am asleep what can I do! Glad its not you if it would make you feel "mortified, upset, guilty and worried". As my post states, I do feel very :( for DH but it is lazy to not bother when we have DC in the house anad I have said so many times to please remember.

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loolooskiptotheloo · 24/10/2011 21:17

haha when i read you were attaching him, i had an image of you latching him on!
YABU

squeakyfreakytoy · 24/10/2011 21:19

Why is he in and out of the back doors all night?

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 24/10/2011 21:19

He is massive! I have no chance of killing him!

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Thingumy · 24/10/2011 21:19

Lock the door yourself.

Sleep somewhere else until you sort out your night terrors.

Maybe a gp visit is in order?

callmemrs · 24/10/2011 21:19

Write a large notice on your back door reminding him. And another one buy the bed in case he forgets.

DoMeDon · 24/10/2011 21:20

As you can't lock up due to him coming to bed later, you have every right to be annoyed. It is a safety issue and he is letting his DC down. It could well be the worry making you act out but I'm gonna take a punt there's more to it.

Original poster
tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 24/10/2011 21:20

From outside office, wood stack etc etc.....

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 24/10/2011 21:22

THANK-YOU callmemrsand DoMeDon

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smackapacca · 24/10/2011 21:22

My DH gropes me in my sleep - I know he's asleep. Not his fault. Still irritating to be woken up though.

Can you review your entire bedtime routine? Like with babies we try for calm time. No loud TV/Music. Cool bedroom, cotton sheets. That sort of thing.

Write down your worries before bed?

ASByatt · 24/10/2011 21:23

hmm I've had a recurring nightmare for years that causes me to kick really hard in bed, and I've drawn blood on poor DH's shins before (I have the same dream, but luckily only occasionally!)

It has never occured to me to blame DH Hmm