to think my lazy DH may have caused this to happen???

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For the first time ever, I have been attaching DH in my sleep :( I have no idea I am doing it and this morning he showed me the stratches I made last night.

I seem to think someone is about to 'get me' and scream for DH to help etc.

The only thing I can think of that is triggering it, is the worry I feel as DH often forgets to lock up at night. It is really making me cross as we have 2 small DC in the house and it is scary to think the doors are not locked.

I have never had anything like this before but it is becoming a very regular event. DH's arm looks terible today! :(

have you told him that you think this could be why its happening?

I really can't think what else it could be though. I do worry about someone getting in and attacking us, then the children being alone with some monster...... I know what is causing it.

I sleep with my back door open, always so the dog can get out.

ASByatt I expect because your DH isnt causing the bad dream!

Cheeseandseveredfingersarnie Yes, in fact moments ago he laughed and said one morning he came down and the door was wide open! :0 Well that is just great! I think he knows he needs to sort this out now though as it is causing stress.

Still think blaming your husband... Who is asleep! Is wrong though.

If he did it to you while you were sleeping and injured him, and then he turned around and said 'well it was your own fault because xyz' you would not be pleased at all, no matter what xyz was! You would be te innocent party!

Can you get a deadbolt that locks automatically when you close it?

It's not going to stop unless you are sure the door is locked, so even if your DH starts remembering you're unlikely to stop.

Agree cut your nails really short. I attack myself in my sleep sometimes and it does help.

Fabby is right....get a nice big barky dog. No one will come in without you knowing.

LOL re the dog! Always an option!
TeWihara thank you that is a good idea.

Kayano of course I feel bad I hurt him.

Lock the fucking doors yourself.

YABU to blame your husband though.

It is your anxiety which is causing the attacks, if it wasn't the doors it would probably be something else. Long term, therapy might be a good idea to find the cause and deal with it. Short term, locking the doors yourself before you go to bed (if DH wants to go out again after you have gone up he will just have to unlock and relock them) or getting deadbolts and cutting your nails short will probably help.

Re big, barky dog; all well & good unless the baddie drugs a steak/bowl of chum

Unless you live in either Midsomer Parva or some grim drug-riddled hellhole estate, I think your problem might be that your fears are irrational and you are developing an unhealthy obsession which is causing your parasomnia. So go and see your GP. Because it is not acceptable to attack your DP repeatedly and expect him to put up with it.

I know you feel bad you hurt him, but you're also trying to blame him!

You're totally missing the point.

If my partner attacked me in his sleep regularly, I would still be pissed off! How many people are kept awake by snoring and it drives them mad? Just because the 'perpetrator' isn't aware of it doesn't mean it's not horrible.....

You can't help it, when you're asleep - but you won't take any responsibility for it at all, it's all his fault.

Why does MN get so OTT to fast!
Thingumy clearly hasn't read the thread.
SolidGoldVampireBat it is not repeatedly - I said "for the first time ever"

TBH if I am now going to bed worrying you all think i am some nutter I am likely to do it again . Right I am off for a glass of wine and to relax, all in the name of a peaceful sleep AFTER LOCKING ALL THE FUCKING DOORS MYSELF!

I don't think you're a nutter. I just think that you would rather blame him for some imagined slight, than seek treatment for your strange sleep disorder.

AbbyAbsinthe a few night terrors for the first time ever is not "a strange sleep disorder"

I agree with SolidGold. Do you live in a crime ridden area? If not then stop worrying so much.

However, you'd think your DH would remember to lock the doors if it causing you so much stress. Especially as you have attacked him. Why does he forget?

Sotty x posted. I don't think you are a nutter. I actually think DH should try to remember as it's causing you so much anxiety.

It is pretty strange - I'm not judging, like I say I've done it too.

Working out what was making me stressed/anxious and tackling that made a huge difference.

Blaming other people for not locking doors didn't.

(Doors were a trigger for me too - I live in an utterly safe area, and everywhere I have lived has been equally safe. Never robbed etc. I had to dig a lot deeper than that to find the issue. Which is where the therapy came in. It very rarely happens now.)

Hold on, you said it was 'becoming a very regular event' - but now it's the first time ever

Lock up yourself if you can't rely on him to remember. My ex was lax in this area too and I woke up with a man in my bedroom one night. Whatever kind of area you live in don't chance it, only takes one opportunist to try your door handle (police told me this is v common).

AbbyAbsinthe read my first post luv.

Jamesmumhasgotitgoinon seriously???

That would totally panic me not knowing for certain that the doors were locked. Poor you!

Since you can't trust him, I would get up and do it myself when he comes to bed. You will sleep better that way. Or couldn't you tell him to go and do it when he comes to bed? I'd rather wake up for that early on than have a whole disturbed night's sleep.