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To knee jerk react to this?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 20:42

Just read a FB comment from old school mate which went along the lines of..

Eating my tea whilst breast feeding now that takes some doing!

Or words to that effect.

I immediately thought you just want the world to know you're breastfeeding.

I'm I bitter cos I didn't feed very well or very long or are you with me on this one?

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ThingsThatGoFlumpInTheNight · 16/10/2011 21:58

In short - you don't sound like the FB 'type' (as I'm not either, clearly).

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:59

I thought more people would agree with me!!!

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OhMyGolly · 16/10/2011 22:00

Tbh this thread comes across like you are insanely jealous of her. I'm sure you are not and you actually dislike her for nicking your bf in y5 or something, but really, being happy about your wedding and bf your child is not venom worthy.

ThingsThatGoFlumpInTheNight · 16/10/2011 22:00

Woo Hoo! Over here Grin

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:01

I don't think BF is twee, bragging about predictable things is twee IMO.

Always though 'luv' was just a northern thing!

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nomoreminibreaks · 16/10/2011 22:03

I can understand you feeling pissed off about it but I think there's nothing wrong with being proud of breastfeeding - it can be very hard work as you know.

I think there is bitterness there but breastfeeding is a very emotive subject. That's why I wouldn't specifically mention it on Facebook - I have friends who have struggled and decided to formula feed and been hard on themselves because of it.

Breastfeeding is something to be proud of but not smug about.

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:03

Great to be happy - genuinely and I have no doubt she is. But stop shoving it in everyone's faces whilst pretending that you're not.

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:04

Things - it's good to see you kidder Grin

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EllaDee · 16/10/2011 22:05

Oh for goodness' sake. Seriously? You don't want her to let people know she's happy because sometimes she's sad too?

Grow up.

MrsCampbellBlack · 16/10/2011 22:06

Oh dear.

And this is why I pretty much never mentioned that I bf mine unless asked directly.

And eating with a tiny baby and bf is hard when you're struggling to get the position and latch right to prevent your nipples being mangled.

I think its nice to just be happy when things work out well for other people [polyanna] - seriously I had rubbish first birth and then

TheBestWitch · 16/10/2011 22:07

I think she meant pretending not to be shoving it in peoples face ella.

MrsCampbellBlack · 16/10/2011 22:07

And then 2 further c-sections but am delighted when I hear of people having lovely birth experiences.

FontOfAllEvil · 16/10/2011 22:07

I once scattered cous cous all over DD...

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:07

No she's playing the whole disguise boasting game - and winning.

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Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 22:08

"I thought more people would agree with me!!!"

so you didn't actually post to ask if you were being bitter, you just posted to invite other people to join in the bitching and maybe give their own stories for you to snigger about.

grumplestilskin · 16/10/2011 22:08

WTF YABSOOOOOOU!
you spend most your bloomin day BFing its your main activity for SIX MONTHS of your life if you BF! it takes FOREVER and if your not BFing your expressing... are you supposed to pretend it doesn't happen? what the hell?

Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 22:10

are you the same poster who was whingeing the other day about a FBer posting about her anniversary and how the 5 years (or whatever) had been great?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:10

Nope just light heartedly wondering if anyone else ever feels like this!

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JeremyVile · 16/10/2011 22:11

The more you talk about this woman and your reactions to her, the more unhappy and insecure and neurotic you sound.

Did you think that was the normal way of viewing other people? Cos, ime, it's really not. Most people are pretty happy for other people to be happy.

We all have our own issues that we might feel touchy about, but it's not standard to project your issues in this way. Can't be very nice for you either.

grumplestilskin · 16/10/2011 22:11

"I have never irl witnessed or been subjected to a conversation about feeding."
really? for the first year I would kiss someone if they talked to me about something OTHER than feeding or percentiles or poo or dummies or sleeping..

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:11

No Boooo (and of course I would never ever do that)

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:12

Vile - I quite like it - hence the thread

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Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 22:12

do what?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 22:14

Advertise my anniversary number

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nomoreminibreaks · 16/10/2011 22:18

I have a friend who always went on on FB about how amazing it was being a mummy and how wonderful life with a baby was etc etc (which is lovely). However while I was struggling recovering from a horrendous birth, had a colicky baby and PND her FB updates would drive me mad thinking I was the only new mum having a really hard time. Now I'm past all that I can see she was just happy and there's nothing wrong with that. They were my issues, not hers.