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To knee jerk react to this?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 20:42

Just read a FB comment from old school mate which went along the lines of..

Eating my tea whilst breast feeding now that takes some doing!

Or words to that effect.

I immediately thought you just want the world to know you're breastfeeding.

I'm I bitter cos I didn't feed very well or very long or are you with me on this one?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:04

Oh gawd - you are all such good people Blush and you're all like that!

I can't deny my evil side, always known it's there.

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Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 21:04

southeastastra, it doesn't say she was actually posting whilst Bfing and eating, just that she managed the two combined.

and yes it can be hard to feed and eat at the same time. baby across tummy being supported with one arm, trying to break food up with your knife alone, then swapping for a fork, with your chair pushed out from the table, then having to swap baby to other breast and manage it all left handed without spilling anything on baby.

FearTricksPotter · 16/10/2011 21:04

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Midori1999 · 16/10/2011 21:06

I sometimes post things about BF on Facebook. I hope I'm not smug, but I overcame (am still overcoming) a lot of problems, maybe none of which were extraordinary, but there were/are lots, to be able to BF and am proud of myself.

Sorry you couldn't BF when you wanted to though, I didn't manage to BF my first 3DC successfully.

JeremyVile · 16/10/2011 21:07

I don't think it's any weirder a thing to post on FB than anything else.

Fb is shite, a new mum feeling proud of BFing is not. Though tbh, I don't even read it as a brag, just a pointless, dull fb update. Like every other fb update.

skybluepearl · 16/10/2011 21:07

Bitter!

There is a real art to multi tasking while BFing. Good on her.

southeastastra · 16/10/2011 21:09

booyho it does

'eating my tea whilst breastfeeding' suggests it is happening in the present?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:10

I'd find it far easier to read if she just said....

Proud of myself for BFing

I would have thought you should be it a massive achievement. I think it was the wrapping it up in a twee comment that finished me off!

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piprabbit · 16/10/2011 21:10

Perhaps she had been struggling with breastfeeding - feeling like shit because she couldn't get the hang of it until finally, today, she had a bit of a breakthrough and decided to share her relief with her friends and family.

You know how hard it can be, give her a break.

TheBestWitch · 16/10/2011 21:10

YANBU. I've bf and ff and bf can be done hands free. With ff you need something that can be eaten with one hand.

blackoutthesun · 16/10/2011 21:13

yanbu

what is so hard eating while bf?

Midori1999 · 16/10/2011 21:14

I'm impressed by anyone who can BF 'hands free' whilst eating their dinner!

At least with FF someone else can take a turn while you eat your dinner.

Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 21:15

"I'd find it far easier to read if she just said....

Proud of myself for BFing"

you see i get the impression you wouldn't have at all. i think you would still have had an issue with that and would consider that braggy/rub your nose in it aswell.

and maybe she hasn't found BFing hard at all so isn't particularly proud of that but is proud of managing to do something else whilst feeding because she has found feeding a bit restrictive?

sorry SEA, think we've just interpreted that line differently.

TheBestWitch · 16/10/2011 21:16

True.

It's tricky to eat anything hot either way as it tends to drip on them - not that that's happened to me or anything Blush

Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 21:16

blackoutthesun, have you BF whilst eating?

JeremyVile · 16/10/2011 21:17

What?

I didn't BF (well I did briefly but it was a blink and you'll miss it sort of affair) and even I can see that it could be difficult to BF and eat at the same time.

Bit of toast, fine. But a full on meal, at the table? Course it could be tricky.

Midori1999 · 16/10/2011 21:18

I think that's the hard bit, avoiding dropping bits on the baby or even just keeping it on the fork/spoon whilst getting it from the plate which has to be miles away... Grin

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:21

Booooooo

She's just trying to get a BF mention in there surely, the eating tea bit is irrelevant I reckon.

Just getting to the point would have gone down better with me :)

Maybe I've missed the point completely!

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TipOfTheSlung · 16/10/2011 21:22

currys fine for breast feeding
ever tried chops at the same time? Cutting anything can be difficult

Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 21:26

ok well it's clear you have decided why she posted so no point anybody here trying to give you an alternative viewpoint. not sure why you asked the question really?

blackoutthesun · 16/10/2011 21:27

yep i have

ZillionChocolate · 16/10/2011 21:27

It's a dull update, but probably no more dull than any other baby related status.

EllaDee · 16/10/2011 21:28

I can understand why you feel crap about it, but she's not doing anything odd IMO.

What I don't get is all the snobby anti-facebook stuff. FWIW my brother and SIL are on the other side of the world and I haven't seen their new baby yet - I love getting updates about all the routine stuff, it makes me feel closer to them. I think a lot of people forget facebook can be very good if you're isolated from family and, sorry, a bland 'proud of myself for breastfeeding' may be more socially acceptable but would not have made me smile in the same way.

TheRealMBJ · 16/10/2011 21:31

Sorry it didn't work out well for you OP Sad

However, as a new mum, she has a right to feel proud about little achievements regardless of how dull they are

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:32

Yeah I'm pretty sure - just wanted to know that there's others out there with my realistic bitter view on things :)

Seems I'm in the minority :(

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