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To knee jerk react to this?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 20:42

Just read a FB comment from old school mate which went along the lines of..

Eating my tea whilst breast feeding now that takes some doing!

Or words to that effect.

I immediately thought you just want the world to know you're breastfeeding.

I'm I bitter cos I didn't feed very well or very long or are you with me on this one?

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Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 21:32

then how do you not get that it can be hard to master blackout? do you have an extra pair of hands Confused

BoastingByStealth · 16/10/2011 21:34

Sounds to me like she's boasting by stealth. [hgrin]

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:35

MBJ - yeah you're right there, I totally get that. I suppose it's just not the way I'd do it and that's why I knee jerk deleted.

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TheBestWitch · 16/10/2011 21:36

Haha only just noticed you deleted them! My tolerance has to be higher than that or I would be a Facebook billy no mates.

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:38

Its the first time I've deleted, but after frantically getting my friends number up and feeling popular I'm now less number orientated and more personality driven.

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TheBestWitch · 16/10/2011 21:39

I deleted 90 the other week but it was persistent offenders.

ThingsThatGoFlumpInTheNight · 16/10/2011 21:40

Sorry but you do sound bitter. Just remember all that frowning at the screen will give you wrinkles....

IMO there's nothing wrong with being proud of BFing - it's bloody hard work at the start and I was pretty proud of myself when I managed to do it successfully (see how I sneaked that in Grin). But at the same time, you (or anybody) also shouldn't feel guilty about struggling with doing it yourself Smile.

thisisyesterday · 16/10/2011 21:42

you deleted her just because she said she breastfed while eating??

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:45

I don't feel guilty - only ever really think about it when I'm on here and feeding is mentioned.
I just don't think she would have posted it at all if she was FF, and because of that I've made my mind up that it was definate a BF brag

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EricNorthmansMistress · 16/10/2011 21:45

YABU!
She's proud of herself. I've seen far more banal statuses on facebook in my time.

ThingsThatGoFlumpInTheNight · 16/10/2011 21:45

And if its any consolation, I ate so much during BFing (because it made me bloody ravenous), I put on loads of weight. So, add her back; then sit back and enjoy the bigger and bigger version of your 'friend' on her pics as she updates them

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:46

Yes yesterday and her vom inducing wedding profile photo

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madmomma · 16/10/2011 21:46

bitter I'm afraid. I'm sorry you feel that way though; it's horrible when you can't feed the way you want to.

EricNorthmansMistress · 16/10/2011 21:47

So what if she was bragging? It's not a personal attack on you or anyone else. I'm also a bitter failed BFer and would not take this badly at all.

comedycentral · 16/10/2011 21:47

Bitter, very bitter.

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:48

Things - I deffo need a bitch emoticon - perhaps they could use my photo!

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TheBestWitch · 16/10/2011 21:48

If it's a repeat smug offence I think you were perfectly within your rights to delete her. And if she's go previous form then that could be why you assumed it was smug rather than just boring. Like if she was the type of person to say she couldn't find her GUCCI handbag.

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:50

I just knew she would type this sort of thing.

So maybe I'm saying she's predictably twee and it can't possibly be me being bitter

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Booooooyhoo · 16/10/2011 21:51

she had her wedding photo as her profile pic and that is offensive? i dont get it. do you jsut make up reasons not to like this person in particular or are wedding pics as profile pics a big crime? surely your wedding is the day you look your best and is a really happy day so why not choose that one as your profile cover?

EllaDee · 16/10/2011 21:52

If she's predictably twee, sounds like you don't like her. Delete her - no need to analyze why!

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:53

Boooooo

It's just bloody twee, it's so very keeping up with the Jones', no?

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cantpooinpeace · 16/10/2011 21:55

Ella, just a bit of mumsnet fun and chat that's all my luv :)

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OhMyGolly · 16/10/2011 21:55

I don't think irl (well mine anyway) that bf would even be something to brag about, I have never irl witnessed or been subjected to a conversation about feeding.

I didn't manage to bf any of mine past 4 weeks, but I can't see any malice in her post. You are the one who is feeling bad and attributing superiority. I would be impressed by anyone who fed either way managing to feed and eat tea at the same time tbh.

I think you need to find a grip and get it asap.

ThingsThatGoFlumpInTheNight · 16/10/2011 21:58

Out of interest though - is she a real-life friend or just someone you linked up with on FB? I was only on FB for about a week and in that time I had about 70 friend requests from people I never see - a few of whom lived in the same town, still had my number (probably) but for whatever reason, neither them or me had bothered keeping in touch. It seemed so daft I got pissed off with moaning about it everytime I went on there and removed myself completely, being the grumpy old bitch I am.

EllaDee · 16/10/2011 21:58

Hmm, I would think 'luv' is a lot more twee than breastfeeding.

For someone who just wants 'chat' you're quite passive aggressive to other people chatting, aren't you?

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