to not invite cleaners grand daughter to DD's birthday party

[soandsosmummy]

Hardly dare post this in view of the other birthday party thread but...

cleaner has LEFT A NOTE saying that she saw DDs birthday party invites were on the desk and her grand daughter was staying with her that weekend as her mum would be recovering from an operation and it would be lovely if she could come along.

Very fond of cleaner and she's been with us for years now but not sure about this. Apart from anything else DD's never even met the girl.

WWYD invite her along or just never mention it again? (DD will be six and cleaners grand daughter is 5) Should I invite her anyway? We're doing it at home so could probably fit in a extra but it will be a bit weird for her not knowing anyone

Lovely of you to invite her, I'm glad you did. Bit cheeky of her to ask but you did the right thing.

Really kind of you, you sound lovely.

Just invite the poor child, your cleaner, probably knows she gets fed up at grandmas. I used to get very very very fed up at grandmas!

Oops should have read the thread

Good for you, I hope everyone enjoys the party x

Come tothis late, but personally I'd so much rather someone asked me straight out rather than sighed 'I don't know what I'm going to do' and left a meaningful pause.
When people just ask, I feel fine to say yes or no, when they hint it all gets messy. And I'm always grateful when people take responsibility for asking for what they want rather than leaving it to me to guess. But I am a simple soul.

I think you should invite her too. As you say, you have enough of everything and I don't think 5 year olds would be embarrassed at not really knowing the other kids in the same ways as older kids probably would be. Go on; think of it as your good deed for the day (and also, you don't want to risk being seen as a snobby cow, as another poster pointed out!).

Well done you.

I don't think you had any option but to ask her, but suspect if I was the girls mother I wouldn't be happy at granny forcing another parent to invite my daughter to a party where they would know no-one rather than granny looking after her.

Just caught up, good you asked her, hope she has fun.

LadyEvilEyes - had it not occurred to you that most people who have cleaners aren't in the house when they are cleaning so don't really get chance to chat? Everyone I know who has a cleaner has the cleaner booked to come in while the family are all either at work or school. It's perfectly normal to not know what's going on with them.