I don't care if this is in the wrong place I just want to gently remind EVERY parent

[TheLadyEvenstar]

To keep an eye on their teenagers incase they are being bullied.

Please if anybody ever listens to me for any reason let this be the one.

A 14yr old boy I have watched grow up killed himself yesterday because he was so badly bullied at school.

His family are devastated as are all who knew him he was a gorgeous and lovely boy.

I am not looking for arguments or silly comments but it just brought home to me how serious bullying can be.

Genuinely crying here - so so sorry to OP and Everlong.
My DS was bullied at primary for being tubby and starved himself to anorexia at 15 and self harmed... a terrible terrible time and I thought the situation had been dealt with - the words never left him.
I was very worried this could be him and my DH thought I was mad.
He is older now and ok and he told me he considered it.
Awful awful awful - my heart bleeds for these bereaved families.

Good grief.

Am sitting here with tears running down my face. Absolutely heart-wrenching.

Poor boy. Heaven help his family.

I have just spoken to a mutual friend.

It was actually his dad and 16yr old sister that found him

Everlong, Thankyou I will pass it on to her when I see her next week. She is bringing her younger DD to school.

My deepest sympathies to that poor family (and you LES)

everlong So very sorry for your loss x

So sad and sorry to read this, LadyEvenstar. Poor lad - it must've been awful for him.

Did he ever talk about being bullied, or did everything seem 'fine' on the surface?

What are the signs that a parent could look out for?

I am sorry I am still so very upset.

This little boy used to look after DS1 when he was bullied in school. This is why it has hit me so much I think.

There was just a year between them.

I am very , that is awful. He sounds like a lovely boy

Piglet yes he was lovely. A real gem.

I am going to print this thread for his family so they know that there are others out there who didn;t know him but care.

Im always struck when things like this happen that "there are others out there who didnt know him but care".

None of us knew this boy or his family. Or Everlongs
Yet we are all terribly sad and heartbroken for his family.

I hope the bullies will now know just how utterly miserable they made this child (and so many others) feel. Maybe now the bullies will be more considerate to the feelings of others (Im optimistically hoping.......)

So very sad :( :(

My heartfelt condolences to the family of that poor lad and to you and yours too, Everlong.

May I just say to anyone whose child is experiencing bullying or who knows a child who is, that there is an excellent charity which schools severely bullied children and which also gives advice and support to those who aren't in their schools. It's called Red Balloon Learner Centres - they are the only schools in the country for such children, the LAs have nothing like it, which is a bloody disgrace and a shame on our governments past and present.

Although they are fee paying schools places are often funded by LAs. Parents have to fight for funding IME but Red Balloon will support you all the way. The help they give ranges from holistic support and rehabilitation package, tailored education within their schools (a home from home setting with circa 15 pupils per school) and support for the whole family too in a warm, caring and loving environment, online schooling (Red Balloon of the Air) and advice and help in dealing with schools and LAs.

If it hadn't been for Red Balloon my daughter might not be here either.

Taken too soon.

A young life snatched away too soon
An empty space in every room.
A smile that once shone through
Will stay in everyones memory of you.

Once a grinning face we'd see
Now an absence where you should be.
Your mums arms will reach out for you
Your dad forever searching for you.

A young life taken too soon.
A shining star you will be.
The brightest one in the sky
As bright as the twinkle you had in your eye.

Times will be hard for all who cared
Those who have memories they and you shared.
Wishing they had one more moment with you
Hoping its a dream and really not true.

An unbelievable desire to shout
Needing a way to get it all out
The pain inside that is tearing them apart
The empty space left in their heart.

You will be forever a shining star
Looking down on friends and family forever from afar.
Your love for them will always remain
Their lives will never be the same.
Sleep in peace beautiful boy
You brought so many so much joy.

A life taken away too soon

©VMRH

So sad. If that ever happened to any of my children I would make the bullie's lives hell as well.
Can't they bring these people to court? There should be a law against it

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It's very sad news but I'm not sure you should be posting very private details about the circumstances on teh internet. It's fine to warn people and share in sadness but I think posting about who found the child is wrong and other details isn't a good idea, that's down to the family to put out there if they wish.
One of ds's friends died in similar circumstances. Very sad for all.