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I don't care if this is in the wrong place I just want to gently remind EVERY parent

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TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2011 09:06

To keep an eye on their teenagers incase they are being bullied.

Please if anybody ever listens to me for any reason let this be the one.

A 14yr old boy I have watched grow up killed himself yesterday because he was so badly bullied at school.

His family are devastated as are all who knew him he was a gorgeous and lovely boy.

I am not looking for arguments or silly comments but it just brought home to me how serious bullying can be.

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Everlong · 07/10/2011 15:51

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beakinthebeeswax · 07/10/2011 15:55

I send my condolences.

I was bullied at school, it's like a cancer, it needs weeding out.

What a waste of a young life.

(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))

WorzselMummage · 07/10/2011 16:00

How awful.

I think it's important to keep an eye out at watch for our children being bullies aswell.

I think we all naturally think our children wouldn't be so bloody awful but some of them obviously are.

I was horribly bullied at school and it's affected my whole life, YANBU Tles, it's a terrible shame this poor boy felt had to do such a thing :(

bibbitybobbityhat · 07/10/2011 16:06

I am really sorry to hear about this TLES. What a shock for you and how utterly horrific for his family Sad. I have had heart to hearts with my dc when they are being bullied at school, I have always told them I can make time to talk to them about any little thing, and hope they will come to me rather than bottle things up.

Don't name it - but did he go to a local school? I am looking at secondaries for my dd right now and I live near you, so I'm afraid its a question I can't help but ask.

CheerfulYank · 07/10/2011 16:15

So terrible.

I work with eight year olds and the students had a pretty hardcore anti-bullying lesson today. I really hope they keep some of it with them when they're older.

That poor poor boy, and his family. :(

lemonmuffin · 07/10/2011 16:29

Dreadful. We need to start taking bullying a lot more seriously in this country.

Proon · 07/10/2011 16:31

Everlong I remember your thread Sad

GypsyMoth · 07/10/2011 16:33

Thing is, it's moved on a bit now from being 'at school'

It's via text and bloody Facebook is rife with it!

Poor boy, I have teens and can see how it happens. Kids these days know how to dodge the school and they are well aware consequences from bullying don't touch them

GypsyMoth · 07/10/2011 16:34

Everlong, I never knew that. So sorry. X

ellenjames · 07/10/2011 16:39

so so sad, am going to go and give my 3 dc's big hugs x

thefirstMrsDeVere · 07/10/2011 16:40

(((Everlong)))

I am very sorry to hear this news TLES. It is a wicked terrible thing to happen to a child and such a waste.

My friend found her child hanged. He was 12. The most beautiful boy, so lovely and talented and so very very loved.
He was bullied. Thats why he did it.
I wont say his name withought his parents permission but bless him and Everlong's boy and the boy in the OP and all children who have lost their precious lives in this way.

ouryve · 07/10/2011 16:42

Oh that's so awful. He must have felt so desperate :(

Floggingmolly · 07/10/2011 17:16

I have no words. Sad Sad Sad

Pinot · 07/10/2011 17:20

Oh Everlong. My heart just aches for you. Genuine tears for your precious boy. He was too precious for this world ((((love and respect))))

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TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2011 17:31

His Mum found him in his bedroom last night Sad

Lets hope justice is done to the bastard bullies!!!

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TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2011 17:32

Everlong so sorry about your precious boy Sad

this boy had hung himself as well.

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MadameCastafiore · 07/10/2011 17:52

This is very very sad - I come across lots of kids who have been bullied at work and they have often been driven to attempt suicide. Thankfully they come to us when they have not been successful.

Bullies very rarely have perfect llives with parents that teach them how to behave in an appropriate manner though - remember that sometimes these kids are as much a victim of circumstance or bad parenting that means they end up taking their anger/frustration out on others.

We can all do our bit by standing up to others and saying something if we see something going on. Eqaully saying to our own children that they must talk to us if they know anything about someone being bullied or themselves being bullied and we must equally make them aware that you never feel better putting someone else down as this is what is really at the route of bullying!

madhairday · 07/10/2011 18:01

:( So very sad, I am so very sorry TLE.

I was also bullied as a young teen and it made me utterly close up into a shell of who I was, it took years before I got out of it. It's a horrifying thing. My dd now seems to attract bullies and I am so scared for her.

Why are some kids (and adults) so very very nasty? :(

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 07/10/2011 18:02

Fuck. I thought I was having a bad day Sad

begonyabampot · 07/10/2011 19:06

This has stayed with me all day, his poor, poor mother finding him like that - it really is so horrific, beyond words really. When children are bullied do you leave it to the school to deal with or can you get the police involved if the school can't sort it out?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2011 19:20

The police will take it seriously BUT only this can be done if the child fels able to talk up about it.

Sadly some children don;t mention it and it becomes too late Sad

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MangoMonster · 07/10/2011 19:23

Sorry to hear your news. So tragic :(

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TheLadyEvenstar · 07/10/2011 19:24

It makes you wonder

How afraid of the bullies must he have been to be less fearful of death?

Sad
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runningwilde · 07/10/2011 19:25

I am so so sorry to hear that. It is horrifying how some young kids are these days - they have no feeling or care for anyone. That poor, poor boy driven to such despair. I am so sorry x

Earthymama · 07/10/2011 19:31

So sorry to hear this and sending blessings to this young boy's family and to Everlong.

It's beyond belief, we need to ensure we teach our children empathy and self confidence in equal measure.

May these young men find peace. I will light a candle and hold a space tonight.

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