to find some people attitudes, such as "i work hard i deserve it" really sickening

[carriedababi]

was reading some magazine in the dentist, there was a woman from dragons den iin the mag.
saying how she had a wardrode worth 3 million.

and she went onto say well i work hard for it.
so ideserve it.
and something todo with she sees her expensive clothes as a symbol of how sucessful she is.

really made me feel sick, how a horrible nasty attitude to have in life.

i'm sure even if i was a millionaire, i would not be proud about spending that much on clothes.

i don't know its just the arrogant im entitled to this that got me.
and dont they think people how have less also work hard. probably alot of them work alot harder

what do you think

And hideous ideas involving meatballs

20 years ago the press had a field day when Imelda Marcos was reported to have "in excess of 300 pairs of shoes" - it was seen as wildly extravagent and beyond the comprehension of ordinary folks.

2011: Step forward Ms. Carrie Bradshaw and every other perma-tanned slag in a locality near you.

I was responding to Hully about the Ikea man by the way, not what bibbity might spend her money on

Unfortunate cross post...

I quite like a meatball tbh!

I was just about to say that Bibs has some truly hideous ways with meatballs

hullygully Koch lampshades...

I had no idea, that's awful.

I guess you won't be able to buy matzah balls or gefilte fish in IKEA any time soon then.

Well if you get your £5 million imagine the meatball purchasing power

Oh yeah. Me and my million pound collection of meatballs, check me out!

AlpinePony - let along the Shopaholic Books which are frankly worrying.

You could start your own meatball museum, to challenge the excitement of the pencil museum in Keswick

anyway, maybe it's just an addiction. My mother (who worked bloody hard and became boss at her company) just can't stop buying clothes, even though she doesn't and won't spend a lot on any individual item. I probably spend more but have a fraction of what she has.

i don't think i'd buy any status symbols or binge shop even if i were wildly successful.

I like her she is down to earth.

She has her own haulage business from what I remember and I think she has taken the rough with the smooth especially with her son...

She has given lots of money away to charities.

somewhat strangely, i have, in the last couple of years, started to earn....oh... 10 times one of my closest friends from school and maybe 4 times more than most friends who would consider themselves financialy sucessful.

to do this i have to be utterly ruthless with myself. to have no compassion if i am tired or ill or fed up. it is 'go go go' pretty much all the time.

& god i fail....& sometimes publically!

i am not material in the general sense. i have an old car & dont spend much on clothes. my motivation is the thrill of business - beating the completition. i find the pressure exciting.

for me money is just like a scorecard of how well you are playing the game of commerce. i sell you something to make your life easier & you pay me money.

do i deserve to be sucessful? no. what you 'deserve' seems to be an irrelevant concept. if you have a good start in life & make the right choices & nothing you cannot recover from happens, you will be successful.

can i see how i do things differently than other people & do i think the choices i make explain why i make more money than them? Yes. Every single day of my life.

Does anyone remember that childhood song:

"On top of spaghetti, all covered in cheese, there sat my pooor meatball, til somebody sneezed..."

Yabvvvvvvu. Iam a bit shocked why that should make you sick and why you see it as nasty. Why not, she is right it's her money to do as she pleases. There are some strange op around today

There's a pencil museum in Keswick???

YY LeQueen - I have my own business but there's no way I could say I was an entrepreneur as my attitude is very different (at the moment!).

I was pondering this as I was picking up DS actually - if I had three million to spend I would buy art, probably (not meatballs, oddly) which would enrich a couple of artists and their agents. My DH would buy cars (completely inexplicable to me). Are these better or worse than a designer wardrobe?

YY kenobi. Too much so, it freaked me out as a kid.

Ours was 'on top of spaghetti, all covered in sauce, I lost my poor meatball, when somebody coughed'

I think she comes accross as very down to earth as well

I think HD comes across as a right laugh, and a really genuine person.

I'd rather 100 of her, than one overpaid bratty footballer or a talentless reality TV 'star'.

YABU. The big difference between people like HD and people such as carers is the level of risk they take. With big risk comes big reward.
HD seems to have not only worked hard but taken massive risks and made sacrifices to achieve her success against considerable odds. She deserves to do whatever she likes with her money. She is ENTITLED to do so. It's all a question of scale. She deserves to spend a vast amount of clothes, whereas a lower paid worker can only afford to deserve a new lipstick or a night out - it's all relative.
IMHO the sickening attitude of entitlement is from those who think that they are entitled to a certain level of material goods "because they're worth it", but without putting in the effort.

Actual lol at Dandy accompanied by a tea-splutter. Good work

Anyone think there's a certain chippiness in self-made millionaire HD saying "I deserve it"?

it contrasts with the the Made In Chelsea kids who would never say that. It wouldn't even occur to them that they didn't.

Kenobi I didn't want to derail the thread but since you asked... To me (and obviously I don't know HD, I am commentating on her media persona) she is a classic working-class matriararch made good. She spends her money lavishly and conspicuously (sp?) - although I bet there's more than a few million wrapped up in trust to look after her family - and uses her wardrobe to say 'here I am world, what you going to do about it'. Even if you look at the style of her clothes, these are not quiet classics.

She is using her wardrobe to say 'I've arrived.' And some of the thinking that such visible spending is 'vulgar' is aligned to an upper/middle class suspicion of 'new money'.

(Derails arguement somewhat to say, it was in Downton last week when the newspaper baron turned up in new tweeds.)

It was ever thus - the haves conserve their money and the have nots take pleasure in spending it.

Obviously I'm generalising.