No family here and family in UK are "Oh dear well I don't know what to say" (my mother) and the unspoken "You should have stayed with him for the children's sake" from my brothers.
After I reported him it was "Oh you shouldn't have done that it will make things worse" from mother but lots of supporting messages and phone calls from my brothers. But I can't call them and weep and rant, if you know what I mean.
Mediation - yes, we had one meeting and he cancelled any further after I reported him. His lawyer's letter stated it "failed" which isn't true. We agreed to look at selling the house if that were the best financial option.
The whole house thing is tricky, the property market isn't anything like the UK. I love the house but I would sell it to have a home h can't appear in as and when he likes. The financial side is all up in the air as we don't know if his contract will be renewed in January so how much money there will be to rent or buy is so uncertain. Hence my reluctance to put the house on the market - I do not want to be stuck renting somewhere I can't afford. I know what's on the market here, renting and buying and it will cost us more than the mortgage on this house. It is an emotional decision on AH's part, not a rational one.
He has ds1 and dd for the weekend and I'm worried what he's saying to them, especially ds1.