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Original poster

to think that Facebook is for the vacuous and banal

157 replies

FunnysInTheGarden · 22/09/2011 22:25

On the whole?

I mean it's worse than I thought. Am a recent convert, but the shit some folk post about their lives. I mean REALLY who is interested?

Pages and pages of my 'friends' most detailed stream of boring consciousness.

Mebeez I need to log off!

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LeBOF · 22/09/2011 22:27

It's usually only that bad if you friend the world and his wife. I have a rule that if I wouldn't be happy for the person to phone me to catch up, then I'm not that interested in seeing the minutiae of their lives on facebook.

fluffles · 22/09/2011 22:27

yabu. get some friends that don't need quotation marks.

worraliberty · 22/09/2011 22:27

Not really

On the whole it's just for normal people

Maybe you should rethink your list of friends Grin

southeastastra · 22/09/2011 22:28

says more about your friends Wink

BakeliteBelle · 22/09/2011 22:29

You are a 'recent convert'. I used to be shocked at the banality of it all. Now I find myself guilty of posting nonsense quite regularly. Avoid the trap

worraliberty · 22/09/2011 22:31

If they don't stop making wanky 'improvements' to the newsfeed, no-one will bother with it in the end Hmm

VelvetSnow · 22/09/2011 22:31

I find LeBOFs rule works.

YABU.

pigletmania · 22/09/2011 22:33

I know, the trash some people spew from their minds. Some of it really should be private.

bibbitybobbityhat · 22/09/2011 22:35

I am not a big facebook fan but then, last night, was having a conversation with an old group of friends who are now in Boston MA, London and Melbourne and it was kinda lovely.

KrispyCakeHead · 22/09/2011 22:40

It's not about "who will be interested in my banal comment" it's about "how can I present myself in this moment of this day and have people regard me differently as a result.."

We all do it.

And not just on Facebook.

On here.

In Life!

This should be on the Judgey Pants thread!

pigletmania · 22/09/2011 22:43

I usually love FB but do not want to hear about people's bouts of DnV and their poos are a bit runny and they are chundering all over the place thanks.

pigletmania · 22/09/2011 22:44

or how someones got to go to the bog as they need to pass the brown turtle Envy

Original poster
FunnysInTheGarden · 22/09/2011 22:44

ah see BOF, I tried to only have real friends, and then loads of others send invites and it would be rude not to, hence loads of thicko's posting banal comments. Sigh. And now I can't defriend them which would be rude, so am stuck with their banality

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KrispyCakeHead · 22/09/2011 22:44

Eww. Never seen that. You have some yukky friends piglet...

bibbitybobbityhat · 22/09/2011 22:47

Funny - you HIDE them. You really can do that on fb. Tis great.

pigletmania · 22/09/2011 22:49

I know Krispy Grin. I am pg and for the first few months i had very bad morning sickness, noway would i publish anything about it and the ins and outs of morning sickness on FB for all to see.

pictish · 22/09/2011 22:51

Yabu. Your friends sound very dull.
Mine are a right laugh, and very insightful.
Nae luck!

UsingPredominantlyTeaspoons · 22/09/2011 22:51

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DownbytheRiverside · 22/09/2011 22:55

I decline friends requests frequently, some from children at the primary school I work in.
The result is that all my friends don't need quotation marks around them, and are an interesting and diverse group. People that witter on about D&V, nappies and poo are probably as tedious in RL and thus not worth listening to on FB as well as when you have to.

DuelingFanjo · 22/09/2011 22:55

isn't complaining about facebook for the vacuous and banal?

2tired2bewitty · 22/09/2011 22:56

I am 'friends' with some of DH's role playing buddies as it seemed rude to ignore their friend request. They are mostly lovely in person, but they don't half post some boring drivel of the 'X has got to work safely, had a cup of tea and now on with the emails!' kind of crap. I have unsubscribed (as it is called this week) one of them today because his habit of always referring to his wife as The Better Half and never by her actual name was driving me nuts. But he'll still see me as a friend so be none the wiser :)

KrispyCakeHead · 22/09/2011 23:01

Ah. Better half. That's quite nice. DP just calls me his woman, refers to me as such and even calls me "Woman". He is a caveman. I quite like that Blush

ViviPru · 22/09/2011 23:14

Worra too true, I'm on the verge of sacking it off altogether after this most recent round of fixing the unbroken.

I have FB to thank for introducing back into my life a variety of fantastic old pals I'd previously lost contact with through circumstance rather than choice. I also think its great for sharing social photos.

But generally, these days, FB and in particular my DPs BF who is the most tiresome of all the boasters is holding my interest less and less.

harrietlichman · 22/09/2011 23:21

I have deactivated my account tonight after being totally addicted to it for ages...I found myself getting more and more wound up by the crap on there, and the final straw was one of Ds1s friends mums posting that her DS was at home crying because his girlfriend liked someone else. That 'someone else' was later announced to be my DS. Loads of 'poor you, and your DS' comments. They are six.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 22/09/2011 23:30

I not only decline friend requests, I regularly go through my friends list with a big fuck off scythe and cull anyone who commits any of the following facebook crimes:

  • cut and paste statuses, any
  • endless farmville updates
  • text speak
  • disgusting declarations of love to someone sitiing FIVE FEET AWAY
  • 'Liking' things that prove them to be an idiot
  • begging posts badgering me about sponsorship

My facebook is now populated only by the cool, hip and achingly witty.

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