What would you do about this? DH didn't even realise he was gone

[Zoggsrus]

I can't work out if this is a big deal or not
The more I think about it, the more upset I am

We had a barbecue on Sat, DH was faffing about getting the barbecue ready, and he was really stressed. We didn't have any ice, so I said I would go and get some really quickly.
He was still faffing around outside, so I just said bye, I'm going, I'm taking DS with me.

Anyway, we had to go to 2 shops for ice, and DS wanted everything in the shop, so we were about half an hour.

Came back in and DH said, oh I didn't even realise he has gone with you.

DS is nearly 4.
If I am in the house with him, I don't go for half an hour without checking on him
Also, we have a second lock on the front door, like a chain, so if DS is in the house it needs to be locked as he will try and follow me, and he hadn't locked that.

so he didn't notice his son was gone, didn't check on him for half an hour.
He thought I had gone out alone, so should have locked the door behind me

what do you think?

Oh yes-the first time they climb-it´s never on the only wobbly chair that they have placed on a cushion or toy, is it?

For some strange reason we used to keep boxes of cereal in a cupboard that was on the kitchen floor rather than wall iyswim.

When it was quiet, that´s where they´d be.

Sitting on the kitchen floor stuffing cereal down themselves!

My kids at 4 could play quietly on their own for half an hour and I wasn't constantly checking on them. I'm amazed that you think it is your husband's job to lock the door after you when you go out rather than yours as I presume it was locked before you went out, seems bizarre not to just lock it behind you, like you would if the house was empty. Why give him an unnecessary trip to the door when you are there anyway? It sounds as though you are looking for things to nag him about.

frankly you seem to have too much time on your hands. You must sit there thinking what can I worry/stress about next - even silly tiny little things seem disproportionately worrying to you.

I would worry about that first if I were you :) Either that or get a hobby love

2rebecca- the OP said it's a door that locks from the inside.

Swinging - some people are much more anxious than others and that's a fact of life. Anxious people may irritate others but you can bet they irritate themselves too.

Lol @ the cereal diddl. Ours is in a really high cupboard with a child-lock on it. The DCs have broken the child-lock and just stand on chairs to get at the cereal. I swear, if we took all the chairs away, I'd find them balancing on each other's shoulders, human-pyramid style, to obtain the contraband.

Af- i think you might be right about me cracking first
2rebecca- The door can only be locked from the inside. It's just a hook rather than a key lock.

swingingbetty, that's the most patronising post I have heard for a long time. To someone that is asking for help? Cheers for that. I'm biting my tongue

Ballstoit, thank you for caring, I do think I will go to my gp. But I'm not quite sure what they can do.
I know depressed people. I'm not depressed, just struggling

"The door can only be locked from the inside."
then it isnt safe frm burglar point of view - doesnt your hosue insurance require a chubb lock on main door?

get an extra chuibb lock that you lock from the outside

cant see what u are being concerned about tbh

To be clear
We have on lock that is just a regular turn the knob and it opens, with a snip
DS can open that one, easy
We have a chubb lock on the bottom that gets locked if we are away or out for any length of time
Neither dh or I want to be "locked in"
So the chubb lock is not used when we are in the house

Since DS took am interest in the door I have attached anothe lock at the top, that DS can't reach.
I can't for the life of me remember what it is called, but it's just like a hook that hooks over and can be opened quite quickly, but too high ip for children

Ll31, thanks, we've concluded that I am overreacting, I'm just responding to questions now