aibu to ask dh to calm down his social life?

[WoodrowButNoPaddle]

I've really debated on whether or not to put this in relationships. I've decided to put it here as I really need honest opinions. don't even bother with the tampon crap this morning please.

Dh and I have been together 7 years, 1dc together (I have dc from 1st relationship) Monday to Friday he is a mostly a great partner and Dad. works, comes home spends time with dc etc. helps around the house (not as much as I think he should but thats another thread.) We have some intimacy issues but I don't think that is related to this problem.

atm I am on Maternity leave (back in work monday) and he hasn't been working much (freelance) so we have been spending loads of time together. he will be dd's primary carer when i'm back in work as his job is so flexible and mine is better paid.

the problems start when it gets to friday, he has always gone out on a Friday. Not a problem for him to go to the pub even onto a club. I go out with my own friends as much as I want to. Lately he has been staying out later and later, the last few months has been between 5am and 7am every week.

to get it out the way now, I can 100% say it's not another woman. End of. i know exactly where he he is and who he is with.

I could live with this every so often but every week? I don't think so.

we've sat down before (pre-dd) and i've told him I'm not happy with it and he has agreed to stop. He'll come home at a reasonable time for a few weeks/months but then it will all start up again.

i've tried asking him to stop, i've tried telling him to stop and i've even begged him .

he strolled in at 7am this morning and will now spend all day in bed. he'll get up about 7pm for an hour (just as dd goes to bed) then tomorrow will be another quiet day as he wont be 100%. so when I go back to work we will have barely any time together during the week, then friday comes and he will off to the pub asap and in bed all weekend. when is my time?

I've told him I can't do it anymore. I'm in a part time relationship. It's making me fucking miserable. I'm sick of being on my own. it's not normal is it?

yes I have friends but they have families of their own, and funnily enough they actually spend time with their dh's!

how would you react in my place?

I am going to tell dh today that i am not ready to give up my nights out,lie ins,nice figure,daily gym trips,funky sports car,exotic holidays,weekends away,designer shoes etc etc, not sure what he will say tho imagine if we all did that.

NOT READY!!! Is he actually serious here? Why did he not tell you that he was not ready to grow up before he decided to become a parent? Ready or not, he has a baby, and even if he doesn't like it and doesn't feel "ready" that is tough shit. You are letting him off too easy. He will just be a miserable shit when you drag him out of bed and will spoil what could have been a nice day for you.
Why isn't once a month, perhaps twice if a special occasion enough? Why does it have to be every bloody weekend?

OP saying his not ready to stop is very childish behaviour . He's not a teenager or a student at university. He is an adult with family response abilities. Going out occasionally is. fine but coming in at 7am and then sleeping all the next day isn't. Even my 21 year old DD has stopped doing that.