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Original poster

To put my baby in her sling just before visitors arrive?

43 replies

broomformychin · 16/09/2011 15:06

My dd is 9 weeks old. Every time we have visitors she gets passed around from person to person ends up missing her nap and ends up very over tired and grumpy. I have tried explaining to visitors that she is still very young and needs lots of sleep so can o have her back please. In response I get choruses of no no you need your rest have a sit down. So I have now decided to put my dd in her sling so no one can actually take her in the first place. aibu?

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pootlebug · 16/09/2011 15:08

Very sensible IMO

ArmageddonOuttahere · 16/09/2011 15:09

I used to do this. Didn't stop my stepmother poking him through it Angry

borderslass · 16/09/2011 15:09

Or you could put her in bedroom to sleep in cot carrycot.

NinkyNonker · 16/09/2011 15:10

This is what I did and what I will do for the next. Slings are brill.

treas · 16/09/2011 15:10

Agree with borderlass - this solution appears less barmy and pfb

FagButt · 16/09/2011 15:11

yabu - it is lovely for visitors who come round to see the baby to actually give her a cuddle.

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 15:11

If only borderlass. I've spent the past hour trying to convince her the Moses basket is where she should be sleeping but she disagrees. I put her in the sling and she fell asleep straight away. Sad

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DoingMyVeryBest · 16/09/2011 15:12

Visitors have no right to boss you around in your own house, and about your baby.

Be assertive and do what's best for you and baby. If that's the sling, go for it - or if it's wrestling her away from an overassertive aunty in a no-nonsense way, give it a try too.

Good luck.

Aislingorla · 16/09/2011 15:13

I hated that 'pass the parcel' lark! I used snuggle them into my chest and pretend they were feeding !

HandMini · 16/09/2011 15:15

Visitors who know anything about babies will know that you will relax most if your baby sleeps, preferably in the place you want her too. Be firm and clear about that.

However, she is 9 weeks now, surely not napping all the time, so couldn't visitors just time their visits better?

blackcurrants · 16/09/2011 15:17

YANBU - weeeeeeeeeeeelll you are B a bit U not to just stand in front of the person holding her and say "GIVE ME BACK MY BABY" with a steely glint in your voice, until they hand her over... but if that's too hard on a sleep-deprived new mum, the sling seems a reasonable response!

DS didn't go to sleep in a cot for aaages either. s'fair enough. He got there eventually, and slings are brill!

CoralRose · 16/09/2011 15:18

barmy ? What's barmy about it?

NinkyNonker · 16/09/2011 15:20

Hell, I know many babies that won't lie peacefully in a cot at 9 wks, they haven't been outdoors for long! If the visitors genuinely are a pain then yanbu, the along will help calm and reassure the baby and she can then come out for cuddles when ready.

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 15:20

Whenever thy come they stay for such a long time that she ends up being awake for hours. I know I am being a bit pfb but it's so hard work getting her to sleep at all that it makes me really angry when people come round and wake her up. Sigh.

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NinkyNonker · 16/09/2011 15:20

Sorry, the sling will help calm...

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 15:31

And I did ask them if they could visit another time as she had her first injections this week and has been grumpy since. Although I am now wandering about trying to look busy so that when they get here they don't realise i've done it on purpose which really is ridiculous. I'm sure I used to be normal Blush

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Bootcamp · 16/09/2011 15:35

Yadnbu. Please do it. Very sensible, hate babies being passed firm pillar to post.

NinkyNonker · 16/09/2011 15:39

Dd spent many happy hours in her stretchy wrap when she was little, people always wondered why she cried so little...go figure! Grin She still loves it now at a year old (not the stretchy obviously!), it is our fall back nap spot.

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 15:52

My sister text me an hour again saying they would be here soon. They still aren't here. I've called her and apparently by soon they meant this evening. Angry my dp gets home at 6 and we start dd bedtime routine at 7 in the vague hope she might actually be asleep by 10. If I have visitors round in the evening I doubt they'll leave before 8 and I won't get to sleep until midnight and I'm so so tired! All this after I've already said evenings are not the best time for us and asked for them to come early afternoon if they have to at all. Ehh dear.

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NinkyNonker · 16/09/2011 15:54

You need to reassert who invites who! If I invite people it is at a time (not set, but roughly). Regardless of babies, it is your home!!

NinkyNonker · 16/09/2011 15:56

Ps: at 9 wks we didn't really bother with having her sleep elsewhere, it's very little for routines. Dd just slept on us till bedtime. Go easy on yourself.

sleepevader · 16/09/2011 16:01

Your hous= your rules

I would say no visitors after 7pm til you get through the first few months.

Sling is a great idea. I'm nicking that idea.

blackcurrants · 16/09/2011 16:03

YEah, say "Oh, this evening? Sorry, that won't work. I said noon would world. How about tomorrow? "

Seriously, put your foot DOWN.

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 16:06

I am trying to take it easy but my sister always goes Hmm when I say I can't get her to sleep in her Moses basket and was appalled when I said she wasn't sleeping through yet. Her ds has always been a really good sleeper. I have now told them not to come now. She very angrily said fine and then passed the phone to my grandma so I could have the same conversation again and get an extra dollop of guilt just to make me feel extra chirpy. On the plus side can now sit down and have cuddles and biscuits Smile

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hiddenhome · 16/09/2011 16:06

Don't forget to apply superglue to the bottom of the sling in case they attempt to drag her out of it Confused

I think the sling is a very good idea Grin

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