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To put my baby in her sling just before visitors arrive?

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 15:06

My dd is 9 weeks old. Every time we have visitors she gets passed around from person to person ends up missing her nap and ends up very over tired and grumpy. I have tried explaining to visitors that she is still very young and needs lots of sleep so can o have her back please. In response I get choruses of no no you need your rest have a sit down. So I have now decided to put my dd in her sling so no one can actually take her in the first place. aibu?

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Paschaelina · 16/09/2011 16:09

Well just say to them at 6.50pm that you're going to start bedtime shortly. And then do it. I found the easiest way to get it done was to just get on with it, visitors or not.

Or text her saying great to see you but you won't have long as baby goes to bed at 7pm. Dont give in, just do it with a smile.

Tinkerisdead · 16/09/2011 16:09

Oh i used to get so upset by this. My mil was worst. My dd would cry and cry and i could feel my let down, my boobs would feel all static and uncomfy and id be saying 'can i just take her?' my mil walked out conservatory into the garden saying ignore silly mummy look at nanny!

I never had the balls to let rip. Im expecting dc2 in feb and i'll get the sling out like you i think. Unless i grow balls of steel beforehand.

Paschaelina · 16/09/2011 16:10

Xposts! Excellent. Maybe in future she won't be so flakey on times.

sittinginthesun · 16/09/2011 16:13

I learned the hard way with DS1. Second tine round, I just said no visitors after 5pm. Blanket rule, worked a treat.

Flisspaps · 16/09/2011 16:13

You are very sensible, and your sister is being a PITA - soon is not this evening if you're texting at 3pm!

If she has any more children she might be unlucky enough to get one who never sleeps and then she'll be kicking herself.

Enjoy your biscuits and cuddles

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 16:15

I know doctors wife! I usually get she can't possibly need feeding again you just fed her while she's practically trying to eat someone's arm off!

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 16:17

Flisspaps is it terrible that I secretly hope her next baby doesn't sleep as well as her ds1? He's only 2 and apparently this week he put himself to bed at 6.30 and didn't wake up til 9.

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golemmings · 16/09/2011 16:23

re the evening thing we used to talk DD upstairs at 6 for her bath and only come back when she was tucked up in bed and we were ready - usually around 7-half 7. She was 2 before my MiL saw her in the bath. Of course rather than being delighted to join in the bed time routine, MiL had to comment that "this is the ONLY grandchild I've not seen in the bath..." Silly moo. We figured DD and her routine were more important. And I will fight my MiL on that point every time.

Moomoomie · 16/09/2011 16:31

We adopted our dd when she was six months old. I used to "wear" her in a sling constantly when she first came home because we were creating a firm attatchment.
Lots of people used to ask me for a cuddle, but i was very strict with them all. One friend grabbed her from me once. I have never forgiven her for that.
Pass the baby is not a good game. :)

Meglet · 16/09/2011 16:34

Yanbu.

Why didn't I think of that when mine were little. XP's sister came round once and held DS for 2 hours, result I didn't get a break and he woke up and screamed the house down as soon as they left.

giraffesCantChaChaCha · 16/09/2011 16:38

What does a 3 hour bedtime routine consist of?

MalkieFraser · 16/09/2011 16:39

yanbu, I lived in fear of this situation with dd1, my in-laws 'popped in' constantly and stayed for ages. I was too meek to retort. Now we live far far away from them so visits have to be pre-arranged :)

Tinkerisdead · 16/09/2011 16:42

My dd never ever slept(still doesnt) and id have people coming after work staying til eve, we didnt get to eat til about ten. Then they'd leave and we'd be up all night with a colicky baby. We used to drive up and down the motorway so she fell asleep, switch off the ignition for her to wake again.

Then the next day they'd be back for another game of pass the parcel baby and we'd be dying on our arses. I think back and she'd even be in her gro bag all ready for bed. I'd be feeding and then as i'd start winding her the guests would hover at my shoulder arms outstretched. God i cant believe we're gonna do it again soon. I did have a notice on door to ward off visitors but these would be the close ones like grandparents.

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broomformychin · 16/09/2011 16:43

Giraffes it mostly consists of holding an over tired screaming baby trying to calm her down and get het to sleep. On better days she gets a bath and story.

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Mishy1234 · 16/09/2011 17:52

An absolutely brilliant idea OP. Just stick to your guns and make sure your DH supports you. This is YOUR baby and she only really wants you and your DH. She doesn't give a rat's arse about anyone else at this stage.

festi · 16/09/2011 17:55

yanbu i used to put dd asleep in another room or in swing or sling.

PenguinArmy · 16/09/2011 18:02

sympathies OP

IME the majority of people who've only had good sleepers believe it is down to some technique of them as parents rather than the babies themselves.

She'll get there (although there will probably be many dips)

campergirls · 16/09/2011 18:34

why on earth is having your baby in a sling barmy and pfb? what a truly weird thing to say

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