over bridesmaids dress argument?

[doublechocchip]

I am getting married in 7 weeks I bought my bridesmaids dresses in february, all tried on and said they were happy with them. I have 4 bridesmaids who are size 8, 10 , 12 and 22 so it was really hard finding dresses that they would all feel comfortable in. I wanted a chocolate brown as we are getting married in autumn, not satin as it isnt flattering for a lot of people and not strapless as I hate seeing bridesmaids hoiking up their dress all day.

Now this weekend my mum has said she hates the dresses and has been telling my sister who is a 10 that is does her no favours so obviously she is really worrying about it now. I am sure it is because my mum is a label snob and knows how much these dresses cost and therefore isnt enough. The price to me wasnt really an issue although wanted to try and keep it under £100ish. AIBU in telling my mum it is now her problem and she can sort it out, Im already a bit stressed out with all the final details, dd starting school and ds starting pre-school. It is now too late to order any made dresses from reputable countries just from places like china where I hear really mixed reviews and cant buy off the peg at places like coast as they only go up to an 18. Am really angry at my mum to have waited till now to tell me she hates them and turning my sisters against them AIBU?

[pigletmania]

It looks lovely btw

[chickydoo]

They are lovely,YANBU

[Imjustagirl]

I really love fashion and I would tell you if they were horrible, but the dress is lovely. Elegant and classic. Perhaps the perceived problem is the fit? If so do you know anyone who could take them in a bit to flatter each bridesmaid?

[unitarian]

I like it very much. It's wearable after the wedding which so many bridesmaid's dresses just aren't and the gold accessories will work well with it on the day. It will look good on all sizes too.

[minipie]

Lovely dress. And even if I didn't think it was lovely, it's you and your bridesmaids' views that matter, not mine or your mum's. Tell her to stop stirring.

[worraliberty]

Oh they're beautiful

The most important thing is that you and the bridesmaids are happy. Your Mum has no right to be adding to your stress....just try to ignore her.

[PamBeesly]

Fab dress OP. Good choice, its not your mothers wedding as has been stated, they are your bridesmaids not hers. Tough luck if she doesn't like them. If your sister says anything just tell her that its your wedding day, the dress is beautiful and its not your mothers business. Honestly as if you don't have enough to be worrying about

[whackamole]

The dress looks lovely, and even if I didn't agree, I've got about as much say as your mum in what YOUR bridesmaids wear at YOUR wedding that presumably YOU are paying for!

I would get your sis round with the other bridesmaids try them on, make sure YOU are happy with the fit (incidentally, a good tip if the neckline slips to show bra, you could sew the top to the bra cups with some running stitches) and accessories etc. Tell your mum to butt out - DON'T tell her to buy what she wants as I guarantee you will end up with some horrible, expensive monstrosities totally against what you wanted yourself and probably ill-fitting as she may not be able to get them altogether at this late stage.

But mostly, congratulations and have fun!

[MonarchoftheGarioch]

I think they're lovely, and a really good choice to flatter all your bridesmaids. Has your mum actually seen the dresses on? Because I imagine they might look like nothing much on the hanger, but look great on.

whackamole's suggestion is a good one anyway about getting everyone together to try them on - especially to make sure they all still fit when it's been a while since you bought them. My BF was slightly stressed about the fact that I had put on a bit of weight and our other friend had lost quite a bit between buying the dresses and her wedding date coming around... Luckily when we tried on each others they fitted just fine

[doublechocchip]

Thank-you for all your nice comments:) I am going round later to look at my sister in the dress to see just how wrong it can be and if I am happy with it i will stand my ground!

[troisgarcons]

Chocolate Brown sounds lovely actually - very autumnal - which are this seasons colours!

[pippilongsmurfing]

Ya defo NBU, I can't believe someone's Mum would be so insensitive about this kind of thing.

On another matter at people saying linky instead of link.

[MeconiumHappens]

Tell her to f to the off

[ViviPru]

OP make sure she tries it on wearing the right underwear, shoes and accessories. And stick to your guns, I'm on a dress hunt atm and its DAMN HARD!

[WhoseGotMyEyebrows]

AIBU in telling my mum it is now her problem and she can sort it out

Yes tell her to fuck off instead! I can't help feeling that she may be jealous of your day and might be trying to cause trouble.

Even if the dress was awful it's up to the bride to chose and nothing to do with your mum and in a way even your bridesmaids. I always think if you accept the invitation of being a bridesmaid you are accepting to wear whatever the bride decides on (within reason).

BTW I absolutely love the dress and think it will suit all the sizes. Well done! Slightly unusual for a bridesmaid dress in a tasteful way. Really nice and what a bargain!

[WhoseGotMyEyebrows]

I had a friend who was a bridesmaid for her MIL (second wedding thing) and refused to wear most of the colours her MIL found as they didn't suit her skin tone, never mind the fact that there were 2 other bridesmaids to consider. She caused so much trouble and stress, selfish cow.

[MyMamaToldMe]

Lovely dresses - let us know how your sister looks in hers.

[spiderpig8]

I think your sister is being unreasonable.She said she liked the address so what if she's changed her mind.@s she really so vain that she cannot for a few hours wear a dress that might not flatter her.the day isn't all about her.YANBU but you are blaming the wrong person!!

[Fuzzled]

Nice dress.. tell your mum to hold her wheesht!

Been looking for a dress for DS's christening... they've got some nice stuff!

[LydiaWickham]

Could you send your DSis this link , hopefully after 10 minutes or so looking at what she could have ended up with, she'll be super super grateful for such a lovely dress she'll tell your mum to wind her neck in...

[Flisspaps]

Your mum is gutted because she now knows that the bridesmaids are all going to look way better than her There's nothing to sort out.

The dress is lovely

[WhoseGotMyEyebrows]

spiderpig8 Really? Are you sure you read it right? The mum has said she now doesn't like the dress and has been telling the sister it doesn't make her look nice (BTW what a horrible thing to do!). I got the impression that up until that point the sister was perfectly happy with it. I think for anyone, if someone was telling you that you looked horrible in a dress you liked, you would start to feel self conscious in it.

[dribbleface]

I think they are lovely, your mum needs to be quiet! why would she say/do that, granted if they were hideous, and even then if everyone else is happy then she should keep quiet.

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

I love them! (Just bookmarked to look at with my bridesmaids)

[MrsCampbellBlack]

Pretty dresses but maybe a little clingy - perhaps thats what your mum is referring too. If so - send them all out to buy good underwear/spanx to smooth out any lumps or bumps.

Am assuming they're a sort of jersey material as viscose and know that I tend to wear spanx under such dresses for ahem smoothing purposes.