To be irritated when women play the 'birdlike appetite' shit?

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Went to wedding. Every course that came the woman next to my dh bellowed 'Oh my gosh, that's too much I'll never eat that, does anyone want mine' and shoved her food on to his and everyone else's plate - standing up to do so for maximum effect.
The starter was TWO king prawns, the main was TWO slices of roast beef for cripes sake - I inhaled them in seconds.
Why not just leave some on the plate instead of drawing attention to her 'tiny, feminine appetite'?

I have a friend who does this all the time.

She is tiny, in a gorgeous way, and cares very much about staying that way (think Posh Spice kind of woman). She can bang on about portion size, when we have fish and chips she is "shocked" at the portions, and always says her family eat a portion for 1 between the 4 of them.

She will eat half a pita bread with some salad for lunch. or at a BBQ, half a sausage and some salad.

Funnily, her DH is very skinny too, always ravenous, and goes to the 7/11 for secret top ups and snacks.

She just hates being fat, and is very determined. It makes me aware how much work it is to be a size 4/6 aged 40, and makes me actually feel I get the better deal (eating nice food).

I don't mind, it's just how she is. But she is now putting her normal (completely normal, slim but not skinny as her mum) sized 11 year old DD on a diet, and we (friends) have been challenging her on that!!!

I hate being judged when I'm eating and hate pathetic women who pretend 1 slice of cucumber can sustain them for a day.

Maybe she didn't want it to go to waste

Ha ha, I once was in a restaurant and watched some competitive 'non-eating' on. It was hilarious. One lady clearly wanted to finish her plate, but the other one was pushing things round the plate and going on about it being such a big portion. My mate and I just scoffed ours and sniggered.

YANBU, there is having a small appetite and there is 'look at me, I barely eat!' People who have the former don't mention it. Your table mate was clearly the latter. Boak.

I believe the OP is commenting on it precisely because the lady made such a song and dance about her appetite, in a formal social setting.

If the lady had had good manners she might perhaps have not commented on the portion size, and just eaten what she desired, and left the remainder, with her knife and fork placed in the 6 o'clock position.

In the same vein, no-one should comment on people leaving their food, so that guests with small appetites are free to leave what they cannot eat.

On the other hand, waste is a terrible thing and sod manners. If people want to share grub out, then that's great.

But ... it's not a great experience to have people banging on about food consumption at social events which traditionally incorporate the shared consumption of food.

I'm torn.

My mum does this. It drives me bonkers.

You go out for lunch, and straight away its 'oh my goodness, I can never eat all this, I feel quite sick looking at so much food.'
Then 'Oh RHP surely you will never be able to eat all of this, it really is a ridiculous amount'. etc etc etc

Then in the evening at home, we then get 'I don't think anyone will want any tea will they? Not after the massive meal we all stuffed ourselves with earlier.'

Well actually, I only had an average sized scampi and chips, and now I quite fancy a sarnie.......

Cocoflower .... Planet "doesn't share food"

Joey!!!

My mum only ever ate small portions, and was completely overfaced if you were to put a large dinner in front of her. She was always very slim, and as a dancer, needed to watch her figure.

I dont eat like a bird, but I certainly couldnt eat two huge platefuls of dinner at a carvery, that is just greedy and unnecessary.

Portion size is often way too much. I know people say that American portions are huge, and they are, but it is customary in the USA to ask for a doggy bag and take home what you dont eat.. not try to stuff as much into your belly as possible!

Im lost. Did you two mention chips?!

Im confused at how Joey has been taken to be a reference to Linerunner?!

Squeaky I agree that portions are oversized and I'm the first to admit I am a seriously greedy pig at wedding type scenarios! But it's the drawing attention to it that's so annoying.

Btw - the woman in question was actually a right laugh and proceeded to get absolutely twatted (hadn't lined her stomach!!!!!) heckling all the speeches in a most amusing way!

OK, I do this ALL the time!

In my defense, I have had a gastric bypass and my head still hasnt caught up with my stomach. So, if there is a buffet- I will quite often get a massive plateful and then only eat a couple of pieces of food before starting to feel very full.
If we were at a wedding where the food was already plated up, I would probably eat what I could and then give the rest to my h- otherwise it is embarrasing sending back a plate full of food.
Sometimes I dont really think about who Im talking to and will say "oh I feel so full" etc- I did this the other day at work and a lady at work kept saying to me, "but you have hardly eaten anything"- I felt like I could hardly move!

I hate it when certain women do the whole , little old me couldn't possibly eat /lift / fix that I need a big man to help me
makes me vom every time especially if it's accompanied with a giggle.

I don't go put for meals often but when I do I eat whatever I want , I just stop when I'm full .

If a persons definition of naughty is cake I feel for them and want to show them what being naughty really is.

"I feel for them and want to show them what being naughty really is."

Oh-er Mrs Whiskerson!

All week i eat like a bird, healthy, small portions, 3 meals and nothing else.

When im on holiday, or on a saturday when i eat what i like, man i bet i could eat any of you under the table, even dh has stared at me open mouthed in the past at the amount i can put away.

I am tiny, and exercise a lot, but i bloody love to eat. If i didnt control it and didnt exercise id be 30 stone and confined to bed

YANBU

mosschops... ... can we have an example of your week's menu? I'm fascinated...

And what/how much exercise do you do? Thanks!

YANBU to be irritated by the fuss. I get irrationally irritated by 'oooh poor ickle me' type women - there are a few around- to deny that it madness!

We have a senoir manager at work who turns on a girlie voice for the male big bosses - really sickening to watch. She talks to the 'inferior' males like shit too - she's a bit of a caaah.

Having said that - the woman at doo may have been self concious about eating out- shame she made the big fuss though.

This thread made me feel hungry.

Why? Its nothing special
typical day is:
Porridge with blueberries
Tuna salad
Chicken and veg (no carbs at dinner)

On a typical saturday:
Toast and marmalade
Macdonalds or similar shite
Chinese, crispy beef, rice, kung po chicken, chips, spring rolls, prawn crackers
Blue cheese and biscuits
Syrup sponge pudding swimming in cream or chocolate eclairs

Typical week of exercise
Yoga
Body pump class
Body combat class
Swim
Personal training session
Plus walk to and from school every day

My mother does this... 'oooh I cannot eat all that' thing in restaurants and starts shovelling stuff onto other people's plates.

When DD was about 3 she listened to my mother going on about how little she ate and said, loudly,... 'so why are you so fat grandma?'

[grin

Trying to remember if I have ever done this (hope not) I truly have a tiny appetite. My eyes tend to be bigger than my belly. I order everything but can rarely finish it all.

YANBU - It would have pissed me off as well.

Thanks Mosschops... I was just being nosey. Sounds nice actually, having a splurge once a week only and being super-healthy for the rest of it. It's probably harder to intersperse healthy and treats on a daily basis.

Are all of your sessions about 1/1.5 hours?

Well, I'm one of these people than doesn't eat much, and always leaves something on my plate, I just have a small appetite.
You're all welcome to my chips.

Domedon - oh the baby voice at work thing is so mega grating! I tell my 7 year old daughter to cut out the baby talk and tell her she's a madly intelligent person who should never use such tactics to garner favour. But that's an entirely different thread!