To be irritated when women play the 'birdlike appetite' shit?

[Proudnscary]

Went to wedding. Every course that came the woman next to my dh bellowed 'Oh my gosh, that's too much I'll never eat that, does anyone want mine' and shoved her food on to his and everyone else's plate - standing up to do so for maximum effect.
The starter was TWO king prawns, the main was TWO slices of roast beef for cripes sake - I inhaled them in seconds.
Why not just leave some on the plate instead of drawing attention to her 'tiny, feminine appetite'?

I think its an age thing as well. Thinking about older famale realtives, they get really twitchy about leaving food on the plate.

MIL always apologises to the waiter if she leaves anything.

Exactly nearly namesake Proudfoot, exactly!

haha i went out this afternoon for a curry with my DP and 2 other couples. The other 2 ladies ate about 2 spoonfuls and I demolished everything on my plate and half of DPs.
I felt like such a greedy fucker but ah well.

YANBU I know exactly the type of woman and its all about drawing attention to their ladylike appetites. Its bloody irritating and pathetic.

maybe she doesnt like to see waste???

however if she was making a big deal about it it would annoy me too.

Oh no, my mum always leaves a bit on her plate to demonstrate how utterly overwhelmed she is by such a mountain of comestibles.

She recently remarked to my sister, when Dsis mentioned giving blood 'oh, of course I've never been heavy enough to give blood'. My sister, please note, is a former anorexic. (I just have Food Guilt and Body Image Guilt.)

yanbu,worse still is the picky eater who tastes everything and says "thats vile" or "ugh i cant eat that" etc etc just shut up and leave it you are being rude.
Sil does this and i once witnessed her have a meltdown when her dp took a chip from her plate and "touched one of the others with his hand"

What gets me is when my colleagues leave half their meal because "I'm on a diet", then chug down half a dozen double shots half an hour later. Personally I'd rather get a main and a pudding, then drink a glass of wine, keep a clear head and last the night out. IMHO cake calories taste way better than shots!

YANBU. A few years ago DP and I invited his uncle and aunt and mover and stepfather over for a curry. I was all excited for my curry because I love my food and then felt really fat and greedy because I ordered a korma and rice, while the two women talked for half an hour about how they couldn't possibly eat all that food and how they were going to order special rice and share it between them ecause a big meal like that was much more suited to their husbands. I was only about 21 at the time and his aunt and uncle haven't been invited back since because they made me feel so uncomfortable!

I do think people should shut the fuck up about their eating habits unless specifically asked.

YANBU.

What I hate even more is when women say 'oooo shall I be naughty? in a silly voice when presented with a cake.
FFS - naughty? Get a grip.

This ridiculousness knows no class or age or educational barrier.

I have heard successful business women say it and unemployed leftschoolat16ers say it.

To see a 45 year old, power dressed head of social services go all coy over a pastry makes me want to hurl.

I haven't forgiven a friend's ex who did similar twenty-five years ago.

Women like those, MrsdV, need to get out more. And learn what naughty really means

YANBU. I hate this too. Me and my sisters have an amazing appetite. When we go to the Toby Carvery all together we usually end up eating at least two loaded plates each. Stuff eating tiny portions, that's no fun!

I second the lack of appetite being unsexy thing, my boyfriend often comments when we go out for meals that he loves how I actually eat food!

That's interesting that you think that Eurochick, I always find it really unsexy when women eat as much as men. Imo, it is very unladylike, but I expect to get flamed for that.

Fact is, the average woman doesn't need as much food as the average man, and if they do eat as much, they end up overweight.

Saying that, I can see why it's unattarctive for a woman to go on about only eating very little, or appear to not enjoy their food beacuse they have ordered a caesar salad then complained about the amount of dressing before eating none of the croutons.

MIL is one of these. She only orders a starter, then steals everyone's chips. Or says "oh no, I won't have a pudding" and tries a bite of all the others.

She knows not to ask me. I have told her "if you want it, order it, but you're not having any of mine".

Then she's searching about for snacks when we get in after dinner.

I eat like an old person - 3 big meals a day but not really a snacker.

YABpartlyU. I really struggle to eat in front of others at times- I am an incredibly slow eater. I can never ever eat all that is on my plate in time, when we are at functions like weddings. I am often starving, but often the portions are too massive for me and I would rather give it to OH than waste it. People just don't get it when I try to tell them! However, I also hate it when people who clearly have 'issues' with food make a big song and dance, ie being 'naughty', wittering on about diets etc.

In my experience, the people who have genuine problem issues with food do keep it to themselves as much as they can, and hate any attention being drawn to it.

It's the ones that are paranoid that people think they are greedy that make the most noise, when in fact, no one else cares!

I am one of those annoying women who orders salad and then nicks their DPs chips. In my defense tho' I don't fancy a whole plate of chips, I want a salad and a couple of chips.

I sometimes struggle to finish a restaurant portion of food, but I don't make a big show of it because tbh I find it quite embarrassing wasting food. I think the thing is, in a restaurant kitchen they don't know if the dish is meant for a large man or a very short woman (i.e. me) so they obviously go for 'man size' portions rather than appear stingy.

I also nick bits of my friends starters and puddings!

Oh God, when I go to the loo/the bar they must all gossip about my annoying ways

If you went out for a meal with me and tried that, I'd stab your hand with my fork.

Who was it who coined the phrase "Steal my food, feel my fork", I wonder

slavetofilofax I think you are totally right. I have a lot of issues re weight and I keep completely silent as I do not want anyone noticing what I eat or don't eat. However, even if I was fine with my own body image chat about diets etc is just plain dull!

YANBU, I have a friend who does this and I hate going out with her because she always wants to "share" because the enormous portion are too much for teeny ol' her - only her idea of sharing is eating the lot! And I agree completely that cake is not naughty, sinful, decadent ... It's just cake.

Omg yes! Highly annoying. And the women who order a starter as a main course (everyone has to know about it) or who want to share everything.

And if you don't want to share or order a normal sized main course you feel like Billy Bunter's sister.

Im with you OP!

Nearly every female in my family does this. I hate it!

The worst is when they say "are you going to get a dessert? You ARE?! Realllyy..." like some big massive stupid guilt trip whilst drawing attention to the fact they wouldnt dream of such a thing...

GRR!

Oh and BTW

At the risk of sounding like Joey from Friends it is HIGHLY irriating when you order chips and the other person makes a huge deal of "only having a light salad"... and eats all your chips!

GRR again!!