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AIBU to be upset and think this is unfair

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woowoo2 · 07/09/2011 12:38

My landlord has just emailed me to say he won't be continuting my tenancy when it ends as his friend wants to move in to the property.

When we moved in, he assured me that it would be a home for the forseeable future and now he just wants me out so his friend can rent it instead.

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storminabuttercup · 07/09/2011 12:39

Not BU to be upset, but it's his house unfortunately it's his say! how long do you have to find somewhere?

GypsyMoth · 07/09/2011 12:39

Oh no! Hope you can find somewhere new easily!

mummymccar · 07/09/2011 12:41

Upsetting but unfortunately legal as long as he has given you adequate notice according to your contract. Do you have long to find somewhere new?

itisnearlysummer · 07/09/2011 12:44

Yep, people in this country should be more like our European counterparts and be happy to rent and not so fixed on buying...

This is why renting is so undesirable in this country!

YANBU to be upset or think it is unfair, he appears to have gone back on a gentleman's agreement which is a bit shitty.

Hope you find somewhere else soon. x

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 07/09/2011 12:50

YANBU to be upset but it's his house and if he doesnt want to re-new the tenancy thats up to him, he isnt doing anything wrong.

Still annoying for you though but one of the pitfalls in being a tenant.

ChippingIn · 07/09/2011 12:50

YANBU to be upset when he led you to believe it would be a long term arrangement :(

I hope you find somewhere quickly.

CustardCake · 07/09/2011 12:53

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LRDTheFeministDragon · 07/09/2011 12:54

Annoying, but 'foreseeable future' in that context means what it says, I guess. He expected you'd be able to stay and now something's come up and you can't. That's renting.

Humourme · 07/09/2011 13:06

Tough. My sympathy. The same happened to me many years ago. I was six months pregnant at the time and we only found somewhere else to live at the very last moment. It was very stressful. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do except live and learn. There's some hard people out there and they think nothing of lying at the drop of a hat if it suits them:(

slavetofilofax · 07/09/2011 13:10

YANBU to be upset, but it's not unfair if it sticks to the terms in your contract.

I have heard of many arragnements like this between friends going wrong though. Either tennant making late payments or ruining something, ll taking too long to fix a problem or whatever, its hard to sustain a friendhip when problems arise in a business relationship. He will probably regret it when you have moved n and have settled somewhere new.

miniwedge · 07/09/2011 13:10

He didn't lie, he said the forseeable future. At the time he probably didn't forsee he would want to rent to his friend.

I'm sorry you're upset but it's his house and you have to move on when he gives notice.

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woowoo2 · 07/09/2011 13:12

Its so shitty, I honestly feel like crying. I have been moved on by arsehole landlords so many times selling their property/moving back in.

When will me and ds feel secure and not have feel like gypsies!?

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Tanif · 07/09/2011 13:17

YANBU it's not so much the moving that would annoy me it's the associated costs. Now you not only need to find somewhere, you need to find agents fees and a months rent up front for a deposit. Not exactly easy when you won't get the deposit back on your old place straight away.

JodieHarsh · 07/09/2011 13:19

Shit. I'm so sorry

Renting is hideous from this perspective. You have my every sympathy.

Quick tip if you'll bear with me: when we moved into our current flat the letting agent suggested we ask for a 2 year lease, saying the landlord would take a slight reduction in rent for the improved security from his POV. It meant we were all happy.

I guess that teaches a valuable lesson in not ever taking any bugger's word for anything with notarised proof

Big hug. I feel for you. I know how it feels.

itshappenedagain · 07/09/2011 13:21

it very unfair, but unfortunatly can happen, in fact a friends landlord asked if he could put in new windows, she thought great, when all the work was finished, he handed her a letter saying she had 28 days to find somewhere new as he wanted to move back. she had asked him to renew tenancy a week previous.
have you put your name on the housing list? especially if you are on your own with a child? least they wont want you out so they can move in!

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 07/09/2011 13:22

Poor you, that's rubbish.

Have you thought about maybe looking into whether you'd be eligible for shared ownership somewhere instead of renting?

CustardCake · 07/09/2011 13:22

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Humourme · 07/09/2011 13:22

Woowoo2, you have unintentionally made me laugh.You are definitely not a gypsy! Most of the travellers around where I live (and there's plenty) appear to be somewhat...static:o

Have a good cry and then put your brave face on for your DS and start to look for another property. Make plans. Remember a house is just bricks and mortar - a home is where the heart is and that's based in your relationship with your son.

Just a thought are you eligible for council housing? Might be worth looking into...

JodieHarsh · 07/09/2011 13:24

Well said Custard.

I don't think those lucky enough to own their own homes will ever quite udnerstand the sadness and insecurity of having no option but to be a private tenant

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 07/09/2011 13:28

YANBU to be upset, but I'm afraid YABU to think it's unfair. That's renting, sadly. Unless a rental period is specified in the contract, verbal assurances should be assumed to mean nothing. Everyone's life changes and now your landlord's friend needs a place to live and that's his solution.

I only bought my first property a couple of years ago and was a (happy) renter until then, so I do know exactly where you're coming from. It is upsetting when you have to move on, and many other aspects of renting also make you feel as if you have no control, but I second Humourme when she says home is where the heart is; you will find somewhere else and you will be happy there.

Loads of sympathy and very good luck finding a nice new place!

chubbleigh · 07/09/2011 13:29

The friend is a giant shit as well, I couldn't move into somewhere if I knew the tenant had been booted out for no other reason than to make room for me. I'd say renting to/from mates is full of pitfalls, I wouldn't do it, it could go horribly wrong.

Empusa · 07/09/2011 13:34

YANBU at all. It's a horrible situation. Hopefully your next place will be wonderful and you'll look back on this place as being a bit shit and be glad you moved.

LRDTheFeministDragon · 07/09/2011 13:34

Btw, I rent myself - last place we were in, they promised us it'd be a long-term thing and the week after we signed they sent us notice we had to move out in 6 months.

It is crap and rotten and annoying, and I would be upset too. But I'm sorry, I think it is ridiculous to say the friend is a 'giant shit' - the tenant isn't being booted out for no reason, it's the end of the tenancy and it's not being renewed!

ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs · 07/09/2011 13:46

YANBU to feel upset. We were tenants for the last 11 years. None of them in England. DH is still living in Belgium in a rented house. When we signed the lease, it is for nine years. Nine bloody years. If he moves out next year as he plans to do, he'll have to pay two months rent.
Can you ask for a longer lease? Speaking as a LL, I'd bite your hands off for a tenant who was prepared to stay a long time.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 07/09/2011 13:47

Chubbleigh - what a strange comment to make........ I agree with LRD, a bit ridiculous!

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