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Original poster

Daughter wants to sleep at friends house two doors down

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BimboNo5 · 05/09/2011 18:51

They are always in and out of each others houses, they are both six. I have said yes but now im wondering if its the wrong thing and worrying about everything that could go wrong.

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WoofToYouTooLady · 05/09/2011 18:52

presumably the other child's parents are going to be present? In which case embrace the peace Grin

usualsuspect · 05/09/2011 18:53

what could go wrong?

catsareevil · 05/09/2011 18:54

What do you think will go wrong?

LadyBeagleEyes · 05/09/2011 18:54

Do it and return the favour.
Win win.

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BimboNo5 · 05/09/2011 18:55

Fires, people breaking in, what if they dont lock the front door etc etc.

I feel im being neurotic and was the same when she went to her rainbow camp sleepover (the church hall is next to the pub and I kept imaging drunken yobbos storming in)

AIBa total Nob?

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curlycat · 05/09/2011 18:55

my ds was 6 when he started staying the odd night at his friends house and loved it. the way our houses are angled i could actually see into his friends bedroom. the worst that will happen is you'll get a knock at the door at 3.00am with an overtired dd in her pjs and a grumpy friends mummy!

zukiecat · 05/09/2011 18:55

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BimboNo5 · 05/09/2011 18:56

My overactive imagination but I keep thinking what if the kids are on the child protection register and there are serious social concerns? How does anyone know what their neighbours are REALLY like? Argghhh!!

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2blessed2bstressed · 05/09/2011 19:00

Seriously? I think you're stressing a bit unnecessarily....just a tad.

bucaneve · 05/09/2011 19:00

It'll be fine. I always used to sleep at the little girl across the roads house at a similar age. A few times one of us got home sick and went home about 10.30/11ish but it was fine because we only had to cross the road to go home.

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BimboNo5 · 05/09/2011 19:01

I think I probably am- god knows what im going to be like when shes 15

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curlycat · 05/09/2011 19:06

my dd is 11 and during the summer i think she hardly spent a night in her own bed but by then you have got to know the other parents pretty well - the worst thing is when it's your turn to have 5 of them at yours!!

exoticfruits · 05/09/2011 19:09

If something goes wrong and she has second thoughts it isn't far to collect her.

duckdodgers · 05/09/2011 19:10

You want an honest opinion? You are seriously over thinking this and causing yourself a whole lot of unnecessary worry. God help you in the future if this is what you are like about a sleepover a few doors away.

PotteringAlong · 05/09/2011 19:15

I think you also need to be careful you don't pass these irrational fears onto your daughter.

She will be fine :)

FabbyChic · 05/09/2011 19:18

My son had sleepovers at aged 5!

Cheeseandharps · 05/09/2011 19:18

It depends how reliable the friend's parents are. DD went on sleepovers at that age and was fine. If the parents have never given you cause to doubt them, then don't overthink it and let her go, she'll probably have a great time.

ragged · 05/09/2011 19:21

You have to go on gut feelings; if your gut feelings say that the other family are fine then you should go with that.

Fires, people breaking in, what if they dont lock the front door...kids are on the child protection register

Does that kind of thing happen a lot on your road? Wink

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BimboNo5 · 05/09/2011 19:27

Of course it doesnt and I know im totally overthinking it but shes so precious to me i'd hate anything to happen that I could have prevented.

When she went on her first school trip I thought what if she runs away, what if the teachers dont watch her what if what if what if oh dear Blush

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CheerfulYank · 05/09/2011 19:33

Yes, YABU and neurotic, but I'm sure I'll have a few twinges when DS starts going on sleepovers. :) He's 4 and has slept over at various relative's houses but never a friend's.

2shoes · 05/09/2011 19:34

yabu, but sweet
she will be fine and have a great time,
or be home at 10 as she is homesick

CamperFan · 05/09/2011 19:59

Agree with ragged, and presumably if they are in and out of your houses anyway, then you know the other family well anyway? She will be fine.

LeBOF · 05/09/2011 20:02

You can't say it's about how precious she is to you- do you think that less stressy parents just don't give a shit? Seriously, this level

LeBOF · 05/09/2011 20:03

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...of anxiety is a problem you should address, or you will end up depriving your daughter of valuable experiences and the opportunity to develop independence normally.

CheerfulYank · 05/09/2011 20:17

I have a friend who has anxieties like this, but she is an ex-soldier with PTSD. She's really, really trying to address it so her DD's can be independent. (They're 7 and almost 6.) She has a hard time letting them go to friend's houses, etc.