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to think attitudes to disabilities in a themepark should be better...

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LunarRose · 03/09/2011 12:16

We have exit passes for DS with ASD.

AIBU that "I'm going to kick their head in" cos they're "queue jumping", was neither clever nor original (especially after the third time my DP heard it during the day)

AIBU that pushing DS out the way (in the chest with some force) because he failed to respond instantly to your demand he "get out of your way" (whist waiting at the disabled exit) was just plain unpleasant Angry (I was bending down to move him at the time)

So many more similar incidents through the day.

I normal circumstances I wouldn't want to wish my son's disability on anyone, nor the days over backache that a themepark trip entitled before we knew about exit passes (from carrying DS through Queuelines kicking and screaming) however....

We shall retreat to Chessington where we have always found people lovely!!!

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TandB · 04/09/2011 21:47

It won't.

Because he/she is an arse. And that is an incurable disability.

wasuup3000 · 04/09/2011 21:47

spiderpig8 you have a dug a hole and there is no graceful way out for you accept to apologise and admit that you are wrong.

ChippingIn · 04/09/2011 21:48

herbietea - please, let the comments stand. Otherwise people will only be back tomorrow saying everyone has been nasty to the poor little thing. It's good for people to be able to read what one idiot thinks.

No one should get deleted

herbietea · 04/09/2011 21:50

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PersonalClown · 04/09/2011 21:51

Why the fuck should we have to wander around, bored shitless, trying to control an increasingly anxious child, just so you feel that everything is 'equal' in your eyes??

TandB · 04/09/2011 21:52

Only a certain type of person, herbietea. I think we are all getting a lesson in how to spot them as soon as they open their mouths.

Going to bed now.

I am going to close my eyes, turn around three times and wish really hard. Then when I wake up in the morning the world will be a nice place.

Won't it?

Glitterknickaz · 04/09/2011 21:52

Spiderpig PLEASE come and take my children's DLA, our motability car, exit passes whatever you like. You are welcome to them.

In return you must forsake use of a part of your body, lose your ability to mobilise or have your brain damaged.

In return my kids will be 'normal'.

Up for that?

herbietea · 04/09/2011 21:53

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Claw3 · 04/09/2011 22:02

Spiderpig, the whole point of the fast track passes for disabled people, is so that they dont have to wait for an hour, because they are unable to. As i already explained many children with disabilities have no concept of queues, time, waiting etc, etc.

As you say 'DO YOU GET IT NOW?'

ChippingIn · 04/09/2011 22:03

KungFu - try to get some sleep and just be grateful you are not a stupid arsehole... nor are you alone in this x

Clown - you shouldn't. Timed passes have obviously come about to appease fuckwits such as arachsnort - hopefully the theme parks will see the error of their ways.

Glitter - I get the distinct feeling that arachsnort already has at least one of those conditions.

Herbie - I guess someone needs to report it for them to see it. However, I don't think they should delete posts - they should let them stand and let everyone see people for what they are. It's been said, deleting it can't make it hurt you less :(

ChippingIn · 04/09/2011 22:05

I really think people that completely cannot see the point should be made to go and live with a family with a child with a disability/sn until they are begging to be forgiven.

PersonalClown · 04/09/2011 22:06

We shall see. We are attempting Legoland in a few weeks.

Hopefully less arseholes as schools have gone back and Christmas not too far away.

Mouseface · 04/09/2011 22:09

Agree that all posts should stand on this thread. Once and for all. These threads come and go time and again, the disabled being treated to preferential treatment, special passes, their own platform at concerts, days out.

Whatever next? Hmm

So what? What does it matter really?

I mean really? How will that make your life worse?

As the one banging on and on and on about the disabled having the life of Riley, how will that make your life better?

Just get on with it. Get on with your life and leave those who can't defend themselves in most cases alone.

What is it you think you are missing out on here?

Pissing yourself?

Shitting in your pants?

Sitting there waiting to get to an appropriate changing area if you are out to be cleaned up?

Missing out on your childhood milestones? Walking? Talking? A relationship? Sex? Love? Companionship? A career? Driving? College? Uni?

Holidays?

Days out?

Nights out?

Days in?

What is it that makes you want to begrudge the disabled so much?

What's so unfair about being disabled?

ChippingIn · 04/09/2011 22:12

Mouse - it's shit isn't it :( I think it's probably time to stop engaging with someone who is never going to have any empathy - well, not unless she ends up having a disability herself or within her family. (or his). Sometimes you just have to rely on karma to sort it out.

Claw3 · 04/09/2011 22:13

Exactly Mouseface, I really dont understand the mentality of some who regard things like this as 'perks' of being disabled. Why cant they see that these so called 'perks' just enable disabled people to do the same things as 'normal' people. Disabled people are not being given the advantage, they are being given the opportunity to do the same as you.

5inthebed · 04/09/2011 22:14

Some people, like myself, have children with and without SN. Now, when I go to a theme park (like Ive said the SN one I have is obsessed with them) I queue like and "normal" person. If I am taking DS1 or DS3 onto a ride, we queue like everyone else. However, we fast track DS2. If DS1 or 3 happen to be going on the same ride then woohoo, they get fast tracked as well. My "normal" DC can queue, they might get a bit grumpy but they do queue, and no, they do not throw a hissy fit because DS2 gets to go on rides faster than them. That is because they are decent human beings.

Mouseface · 04/09/2011 22:18

I'm going to bed. My disability means that I need to rest when my disabled son is asleep for the short time that he will be.

I hope that when you wake up in the morning spiderpig8, you wake as fit and as healthy as you were when you went to bed.

There but for the grace and all that.

herbietea · 04/09/2011 22:24

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DandyLioness · 04/09/2011 22:24

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2shoes · 04/09/2011 22:26

I never called any one a troll by the way, that woud break the mn rules.

silverfrog · 04/09/2011 22:31

Dandylioness: thankyou Smile

spiderpig - I don't understand why you seemt o be ignoring the descriptions of how exit passes work at Merlin parks now. it would appear to be so that you can carry on being offensive. what an odd way to behave Hmm

unpa1dcar3r · 04/09/2011 22:31

because she is freaked out by your child having a major tantrum is just vile! You should be ashamed

Oh the ignorance keeps right on going doesn't it! She wasn't 'freaked out' in the slightest, she was too busy giggling and nudging her mates and pulling disgusted faces at my son who was incidentally doing absolutely nothing to her to warrant her attitude or her, wrongly assumed, fear!
She was just plain stupid and uneducated. Of course in her case we could make allowances for her young age. What's your excuse?

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 04/09/2011 22:43

Can't be arsed reading this, t'is like groundhog day, same old venom.....

I will say to spider pig tho when a child who has ASD becomes stressed and lashes out it's not a temper tantrum, it can in no way be compared to an nt child stamping their feet over their own way, we call it a meltdown, because that's what happens.

spiderpig8 · 04/09/2011 22:44

You originally said she looked like caustic soda had touched her and now you are saying she was giggling and nudging.Story changing somewhat!

Anyway i'm done now.As a community of mums of SN need children you are not helping your cause at all. You appear to be very beligerent , looking for things to take offence at !

spiderpig8 · 04/09/2011 22:46

There is an article in the TES called 'Too special to queue' Most teachers think fast passes are a bad idea, and SN children should learn to wait!