to have laughed when my fil told my dh

[biddysmama]

that he should stop me from breastfeeding now as dd is too old? (shes 2,ds is 1 and im pg)

do people do what their husbands tell them to? ive got a mind of my own thanks very much

yawn Redsun another record would sound a lot more pleasing to the ears...

I loved feeding my DC....

It was brilliant...

And when i decided to stop it was brilliant too..

Good for you Zukie that you have no regrets. I think we are talking at cross-purposes but not to worry.

Bimbono5 "Mysterious that just sounds bordering on weird tbh"

Excuse, me - why? Why?

Why on earth is it weird that a 13/14-month-old is still breastfeeding? Without further information I will just write you off as completely ignorant. Would it have been okay if I stopped at 12 months exactly? Is it weird because I described that he enjoys breastfeeding? He is a little person, not an automaton - of course it is possible to tell when he enjoys something.

I started breastfeeding with the intention just to feed for as long as I could - first for a few weeks, then 24 weeks was my goal, then six months, then I wanted to stop daytime feeds before work (didn't manage it, expressed for a couple of months), then I thought I'd stop at 12 months. But the thing is, toddlers/babies don't know what point in the year it is. My DS didn't know when he turned one. All he knows is that he's grown up drinking breastmilk and that he enjoys it. If he wanted to self-wean he could've done six months ago, I wouldn't have minded. Fact is, he does feed for comfort and I've found it difficult to stop, but if I wanted to carry on I think that would be fine to continue.

Don't be so goddamned judgemental people. People talk about 'bf nazis' - and then here I am being called for breastfeeding a little boy who's barely over one!

*being called weird

I feel like I have to justify the fact that I'm still feeding with the fact that I'm also trying to stop. There's something not right about that :(

zukie I understand that in your situation F/feeding made total sense.

I think I am coming unstuck with your comment about if you had to you would F/feed again sorry if I didn't quote you exactly.

if you had another baby ,born full term ...would you consider B/feeding?

It appears you still wouldn't? just wondering...

I'm pretty sure that you need to give a child between the age of 1 and 5 cows milk anyway, and up to the age of two or three you'd be using cups with lids so what's the problem of them getting the goodness out of breast milk, than cows milk, each to their own I say, but OP how did you get pregnant twice whilst breastfeeding, I got told that breastfeeding can stop ovulation? Must be one of those old wives tales, oh and good job for keeping it up for so long.

Gossipwitch, I'm not the OP but you are right it is an old wives tale that breastfeeding stops ovulation.

It is unlikely that a new mother will ovulate within the first 6 months if certain conditions are met. I can't remember them all but definitely remember that ..
: Baby must be fed day and night when requested
: Baby receives no other food or nipple substitute just breastmilk
: Mothers periods have not returned.

That said it can and does fail for some people. Some mothers can have periods and are fully fertile nearly straight away and for other mothers. Quick answer don't have unprotected sex unless TTC ;)

I was going to add that there is a breastfeeding while pregnant thread already in the breastfeeding section.

I thought that might be helpful to any posters who have been alienated or just plain annoyed at the post from Fabby which ofcourse she could not substantiate and posted and then did a runner.

Babieseverywhere has so clearly refuted the rubbish that she posted.

MysteriousHamster it really is rubbish that people can not be supportive. It is highly offensive to talk of bfing being weird but I don't think you will get much understanding as to why a poster thinks it is acceptable to come on and attack feeding choices. They have been called on it though.

Zukie I think I got unstuck way back with your comments supporting Fabby and how cups should be used - not breasts. Anyhow it seems like a circular argument to me. We won't agree.

zukie lol...thanks ...I was just wondering :)

Its the way you spoke about him meddling with your breasts/tugging at your top etc and acting like its oh so funny! Thats what I find weird when kids act like their mothers breasts are toys to play with not breastfeeding itself.

Bimbo if breastfeeding offends you then why don't YOU cover up and put a blanket over your head.

BimboNo5, Toddler can be taught good nursing manners. My three year old asks for milk verbally and will wait until I am ready to nurse him. No grabbing etc required.

Nursing toddlers and children is so different than feeding a baby who needs the ilk for nutrients and does not understand limits or restrictions. As your nursling grows the more negotiation can take place. At 3 yo my DS understands that he can have milk after breakfast and at bed time, unless he is ill then he can have more feeds.

DS understands (though he doesn't like) his younger sister has more feeds as she is younger.

Mine all loved pulling playing with my hair and some had names for each boob.

Very true babieseverywhere. Mine learned not to scream for sweets/grapes when we were out shopping in the same way they learned not to fuss for milk.

bimbo toddlers do play with breasts sometimes again perfectly normal and natural.

I agree with math and babies mine have also been taught manners in that department.

I am hoping that today has been an education for you perhaps?

I am also hoping that in the future , you will be able to distance yourself from page 3 tits and understand functioning breasts!

Sorry my blanket over the head comment was too flippant but I've been driven to distraction by this thread.

I never taught my toddler manners in that department but I am wondering who has?

My not yet 2 year old says "milkies please" and then I say "ok" and he says "ok" ever so politely.

He then bfs and when he is done he comes off my breast and covers up my exposed breast and says "all done". He really does insist on covering up my breast afterwards... but I figure that he knows it can be a bit cold otherwise.

redsun that sounds very cute:)

My daughter asks for the "fresh one"

im back :)

right, where do i start?

my diet is ok, im not thin tho lol my midwife knows i breastfeed the both and supports me fully :)

i bf through my last pregnancy and he was born at 40+6 weighing 9lb 4oz so i dont think he lost any nutrients?

thankyou for all the support :)

Biddy-well done, impressed at your tandem feeding :) Yanbu.

And only skim read, but fabby, you say that bf should stop to allow them to grow up...are you not the same poster that has older teenage boys who are unable to work a cooker as you feel it is your job to look after them...?

biddysmama, baby would not have lost any nutrients. When I gave birth to ds, after feeding dd2 all the way through pregnancy, my iron count was 16 (better than many non pg women) and unfortunately, no, I wasn't thin :(

ds1 put on an average of 7lb a week whilst I was tandem feeding his sister and no, I wasn't stuffing myself with cream cake to keep them sustained. It really doesn't work like that.

I wish it did, maybe I wouldn't still weigh 11 stone after nearly 4 years of continuous breastfeeding.

A

NOT 7lb a week - that would be quite shocking! I meant ounces but have been addled by wine

my little ones are fair sized, ds had doubled his birth weight at 6 month when i started him on food, he had only bf before then, tandem with dd. my blood tests all came back as good this pregnancy :)