to have laughed when my fil told my dh

[biddysmama]

that he should stop me from breastfeeding now as dd is too old? (shes 2,ds is 1 and im pg)

do people do what their husbands tell them to? ive got a mind of my own thanks very much

OP most likely ran a mile when her thread turned into a bunfight....

Ive explained my user name on here before now, not that its remotley relevent to this discussion.

Probably, Frigg. Who'd have thought it, a BF thread in AIBU turning into a bitchfest? I've never seen women 'speak' to each other so hatefully as they do when BF/FF comes up on MN.

Peace out!

To those reacting to my posting the Bitty sketch...

I was making the point that it is social commentary (like the clip) that has resulted in some people being weirded out.

Rather than the single factor that was previously stated.

Jeez read the thread - this one is parked now we all understand the point being made.

zukiecat you say "I do think FF is just as good as BF".

You then say "I'm in no way anti BF, however it may sound, I would support and defend anyone's right to BF their child... etc etc etc"

You seem to be contradicting yourself?

Zukie, saying that it was the right choice for you and saying that you don't think it did your children any harm is not the same as saying FF is as good as BF. Surely you can see that? It's only the wording that people are objecting to. If you had posted, FF was the best option for me and my family and I don't think it did my children any harm then THAT would be your opinion and no one would be arguing with you.

Although someone would probably point out that there is really no way for you to know how your children may have been different if they had been BF

Yes bumbleymummy thank you.

But that argument could be turned around, too, bumbleymummy!

The thing i still find strange is the concept that it is a choice. Well, obviously it's a choice but why is it a choice? Why was formula milk invented? My guess would be for medical reasons...if I'm right then why is it sold to the masses? To make money! Not because it is what is truly best for babies!

Another reason to throw in the mix regarding bfing is the opinion of healthcare providers and their views on infant-feeding, which are based on their own, highly personal experiences.

The most important factor influencing the effectiveness and accuracy of a doctor?s breastfeeding advice is whether the doctor herself, or the doctor?s wife, had breastfed her children. Likewise, a midwife, nurse or health visitor formula-fed her own children is unlikely to be an effective advocate for breastfeeding.

So when you comprehend research like that Zukiecat then your no no regrets no issues with FFing might not support bfing.

Inappropriate advice from medical professionals is one reason why, UNICEF started the Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative (BFHI).

It would be interesting to see if any of the anti-bfing posters on here actually had influence when it came to bfing, would they - if they were in a position of influence, such as being a nurse etc interacting with mothers and babies actually be informed about bfing and ffing?

A lot of people are talking about illness and BF. Some saying their children were FF and never ill, some BF and never ill...this is called anecdotal evidence. It is not proof.
Scientific evidence show us that BF babies enjoy better health and less illness(I'm being vague because I can't be bothered to go find the evidence but it's out there). That is fact, not just one persons experience.

Wow... Could the claws on here be any longer or sharper?

Breast v bottle is never going to be a debatable subject for most people, because most people can't look at the the issue dispassionately. Shame that, as if they could threads like this would probably be shorter and less bitchy:/

Completely off topic Bimbo I'm assuming your name is pun on the song mambo #5? Either way, damn you as I have been humming it all day >_

Who has mentioned being ANTI ff Redsun?

I would have laughed if FIL had said it, but not as hard as dh would have.

Fortunately he has always refrained from comment because he's too scared

I bf ds1 until 2y9m and am bfing 16 mo ds2.

And no, I don't do it for myself. In fact I don't particularly enjoy it, but both my dc love bf and make their wishes very clear!

Just in case there are any pregnant worried lurkers on this thread....
the following statement is completely false.

"....by breastfeeding another child she is taking nutrients from the unborn child?"

My midwives were happy for me to breastfeed through my second and third pregnancy. The way nutrients work is the unborn baby takes priority, second is milk production for the nursing child and thirdly is the mothers own body. A decent diet and nobody suffers. A poor diet and the mother suffers.

Sadly even babies born to mothers suffering extreme conditions, in the third world or concentration camps, are born healthy and remain so whilst on the breast. It is the weaned children especially those who wean prematurely when there is little suitable adult food to replace the calories previously gained from nursing.

i.e. No problems in nursing children whilst you are pregnant. Unless medically advised to the contrary of course.

Zukie - But if you come on and continually say that I FF and that made no difference and I would do the same tomorrow then don't you think that could influence someone? Genuinely interested, as why else are you saying it?

bimbono5 I do not understand your question?

Zukie and honestly if you never knew whether your HV or other advisors ff or bf then how can you say that it had no effect on you (subtle or otherwise)?

Correct me if I am wrong but you did say somewhere earlier that it was partly on advice that you decided to FF? Or did I get that wrong?

How do you know? I mean where did you get your ideas on FF and BF being a choice then?

I think its a generation thing to a certain extent with the FIL. My mum said she was treated with disdain by midwives when she actively wanted to breast feed in the 1970s - it was looked on as if only earnest hippies did it.

My MIL did not breast feed and definately thought I was strange to bf to 20 months, I loved it though and still miss it now.

And BimboNo5 I have to say I don't understand why you would actively name yourself a bimbo but hey misogyny, in the guise of entertainment is not my thing.