Partner making snide comments on DDs facebook

[MuckyBogStain]

DD is currently away in London for the week and this morning posted a status on facebook about her breakfast saying it was lovely and the chefs can cook.

DP then posted a reply saying "well that's generally what chefs do". A number of people have "liked" DPs reply which to me is a little like group piss-taking.

He's always doing this though and we've talked about it before and his answer is that she shouldn't post "dopey" status updates which he justifies by saying none of the other 14/15 year olds on his facebook post daft comments like she does and that she should have grown out of it by now.

AIBU to see that he's done it again?

[OneMoreChap]

wineandroses I begin to suspect we share suspicions.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1287338-He-no-longer-likes-my-pet-name-and-other-stuff

Nah, I'm not being sarcastic and obnoxious to those who disagree with me. Their name is legion.

I'm being sarcastic and obnoxious [and if you look carefully being snide about apostrophes, in posts where I misuse them accidentally] to people who spin "sarcastic git, who I have spoken to" into perv or bully.

I've dealt with bullying cases professionally, both where it has been RL and online, and wouldn't support anyone doing it.

Here, where pseudonymity and name-changing abounds, is rather different to the quasi-public arena of Facebook, with its complex privacy settings; however, if the DD wants to shut off DP, little is easier.

As I suggest, I suspect OP is being a bit precious.

[wineandroses]

Onemorechap

It is odd when the OP disappears...anyway, I agree that the short answer to the original question is - block him. Probably a bit simplistic given the relationships etc, but if the DD really is upset/embarrassed by the DP's postings on FB then blocking will solve that particular problem.

Suspect OP may never return.

[flippinada]

So it's "precious" to be concerned when your teenage DC is being upset by your partner.......really?

[Fefeffion]

My dad has always done this to me and still does. On fb I made a comment about looking forward to being 36 (as in birthday). He posted on my wall 'do you mean birthday or IQ??'. He's mean, it's his twisted sense of humour. I felt embarrassed that all my fb contacts (some work) coud see it though. I would never doubt his love for me.

[WidowWadman]

I guess OP won't return. And I suspect now that Kelly is a sockpuppet.

[kelly2000]

Wadman,
Why are you being so nasty, is that how your normally behave if you disagree with someone?

[HerBeX]

I agree with Kelly.

This guy sounds like a creep. Who cares whether the girl is being precious or over sensitive or should be tougher? Why is everyone focusing on her response, rather than his revolting behaviour? He's an adult FFS, she is a child and he has some power over her. My friend had a stepfather like this, he made her life a misery because at 14, 15 etc, she simply didn't have the maturity to deal with the fact that he's a rather pathetic fuckwit. Every time she challenged him on his pisstaking, he claimed it was a joke, but if someone very obviously doesn't like the joke, a normal, functional, decent adult stops fucking telling it - anyone who doesn't realise that, must be a really tedious person and I'm glad I don't work in the same office as some of you. Now that my friend in her 40s, they're quite good friends because she now has the emotional maturity to understand that he's an inadequate saddo and she no longer has to live in the same house as him.

It would have been horrific for her if he'd been able to follow her onto Facebook and invade her social space with his fuckwittery. At least when she was with us, her friends, he wasn't there undermining and taking the piss out her.

[HerBeX]

And no, OP you're not being unreasonable.

Not seeing the constant undermining of your child by an adult as a bit of a giggle, is a reasonable, functional response.

It does rather beg the question of why such a repellent sounding man is your DP though, sorry.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

I agree with those that have said

if she doesn't like it block him