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To be irritated by people who say they can't lose weight?

375 replies

BeerSnake · 24/08/2011 17:00

umm just eat less and get out more. Or am I being unreasonable?

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ouryve · 24/08/2011 23:10

YABU. I've only ever been slightly overweight (highest BMI 32, was 18 for most of my teenage years) and have recently been a "healthy" weight for a few years, but as I get older, I've found it harder to keep it down and since I started on anti-inflammatories for arthritis, earlier this year, my weight has slowly crept up. I'm a stone heavier than this time last year.

I do believe that for every "greedy" person with no willpower, there's many more who find the effort needed to maintain a recommended weight extremely arduous for one reason or another, several who simply cannot do it because their bodies won't allow it and many more who simply have no idea where to start in training themselves to change their habits, even if there are no medical or biological reasons why they can't get the weight off and keep it off.

sunshinelifeisgood · 24/08/2011 23:15

beersnake: your lucky cos I have the hump tonight. My ds went to doctors yesterday after having a lovely weekend away in Spain and realised that she was overweight. Yes she is!!!! however she has tried every diet going but she follows my dad in her statue, She was fecking gutted when the doctor told her she was obese. She eats the minimal food, in fact I eat more than her.. The doctor has told her to come back in four weeks time and if she loses a pound a week she will prescribe diet pills.. So feck of beer you do not know what you are talking about. For the record I weigh 7"6

BakeliteBelle · 24/08/2011 23:21

You know op, I might just get that tattoed on my arm so I look at eat before engaging mouth in doughnut. It's not a bad strapline for fatties like myself. I like it!!

Empusa · 24/08/2011 23:23

"he bottom line as most of us know is virtually no one left Belsen fat"

They were almost dead. I know no fat skeletons either. Hardly a "look what you could do if you put your mind to it" example. Hmm

MrGimpy · 24/08/2011 23:24

No-one came out of Auschwitz overweight. YANBU.

treas · 24/08/2011 23:25

I'm over weight but go to a personal trainer 2x a week and swim 100 length 6 times a week.

Have gone down 2 dress sizes, improved my blood pressure levels which wasn't bad to begin with, lost several inches all over my body except my blooming boobs which seem not to want to go and am within 5% of reaching my ideal body fat mass.

However, my lean mass has increased significantly and so my over all weigh has not decreased as much as I would wish.

So from me Op its a YABU - losing weight isn't the only factor that needs considering.

Empusa · 24/08/2011 23:26

MrGimpy If you are going to troll, at least try and keep up.

Empusa · 24/08/2011 23:26

Make an effort dear.

ouryve · 24/08/2011 23:27

Aaaah. Xenia solves the ills of the world, all over again. Hitler styleeee!

Crosshair · 24/08/2011 23:27

No-one came out of Auschwitz overweight.

Hmm
freddy05 · 24/08/2011 23:28

I started putting on weight aged 10 for no obvious reason. It went on for 16 years, whatever I did I couldn't shift it and having any treats meant more went on. so when i said i couldn't lose weight it was completely true. luckily a few tests and some rather horrid medication and problem solved, Now though I have no excuse so guess I won't ever say it again.

strictlovingmum · 24/08/2011 23:29

Ahhh xenia and another one of her gems!!!!

MCos · 24/08/2011 23:30

Have you nothing else to bother about! Well, just be irritated so.. Silly wagon.

SDTGisAnEvilGenius · 24/08/2011 23:31

You know, I work hard to try to convince myself that the world isn't full of people who look at me and think I am disgusting because of my weight, and then an OP like this one comes along and I am back to square one.

I don't go out much - maybe the OP would like it if I just stayed indoors, so as not to 'offend' them with my size. Sad

Tortington · 24/08/2011 23:39

I really find it irritating when people suggest that loosing weight is purely down to eating less.

the equation for losing weight is a simple one.

there is nothing difficult about this - we can all work out the rough maths.

food is fuel. if you eat lots of it and sit on your arse, you don't burn your fuel

that isn't hard.

what is hard is stopping eating

what is hard is willpower

what is hard is dietary change

what is hard is changing your lifestyle

what is hard is changing your shopping habits

what is hrd is saying no to the chocolates passed around at work.

what is hard is not eating one of the yummy waitrose cupcakes you took in on your last day at work (that was me today that was!)

you wouldnt for one moment suggest to a smoker "aibu, to stop smoking just stop buying them ! after all no one came out of Belsen a smoker"

what we are talking about when losing weight is different strokes for different folks.

so just as one smoker will chew gum, another will go to the nurse, another will put on a patch and yet another will ...not buy another packet.

then people who lose weight need the same choices, to fit with them, to fit with their lifestyle at this time. they may pick up another method another time in their lives.

for some it is classes that they attend
for some its a club they join over the internet
or maybe forum support on a site such as mn
some will buy books, cd, tapes, and suppliments.
some with exercise and like me - some may not

and some.....well some will just not eat as much

we all need different support structures.

this is the one i devised www.carbfree.wordpress.com

AmyStake · 24/08/2011 23:40

No-one left Belsen fat

This is possibly the most stupid comment I have ever read on Mumsnet. Congratulations!

TheSecondComing · 24/08/2011 23:43

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MCos · 24/08/2011 23:54

Ladies, really the only appropriate response to this OP is to F off.
No need to explain or defend yourselves.

jasper · 25/08/2011 00:33

Actually I am considered naturally slim.
I was a size 6 till I had my eleven children. My weight then crept up to a curvy size 8. I breastfed solidly for about twenty years which obviously helped.

Of course it is only "natural" because I eat only when huungry, cook everything from scratch (usually organic). It helps that I expend a lot of energy tending my home grown veg on the allotment.We had a particularly bumper harvest of courgettes this year.My children have enjoyed grating them and combining them with egg whites (from our free range hens) and frying them in olive oil(from our grove)to make delicious courgette fritters.

I do eat chocolate (Green and Blacks) if I feel like it. I savour every mouthful and don't just scoff it like those salad dodgers who have to count calories or go to Weight Watchers.

I also eat cakes and biscuits, home made of course. They don't seem to make you as fat as if you had bought them ready made from ASDA , do they? Must be all those nasty trans fats. We are lucky in that we have our own milk cow so can produce our own home churned butter.

Silly fatties! Don't they realise it is dieting that MAKES them fat? I read it in "Closer" so it must be true.

It must be hard being so weak willed that you end up fat and having to follow a structured plan like Weight Watchers or calorie counting to try to pass yourself off as "normal" and not deeply flawed as you obviously are if you have been so stupid as to let yourself get fat

cadelaide · 25/08/2011 00:40

jasper, until the bit about the cow I thought you were real

(not been on here much lately, really must keep up!)

cadelaide · 25/08/2011 00:43

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jasper · 25/08/2011 00:57
Grin note to self - grow up
fortyplus · 25/08/2011 01:11

I've been overweight at times - I'm not now because I eat a little less than I used to and excercise a lot more. I realise that not everyone has the opportunity to do this.

Weight is simply governed by the laws of physics - if you consume more calories than you use you'll put on weight. What's more your overweight body actually requires more calories than it would if you weighed less.

It's all simple but bloody hard - especially if your self esteem is ffected by your weight - you need to believe that you deserve the slim figure that you want.

Dh once very helpfully remarked that there weren't any fat people in the concentration camps...

Saggyoldclothcatpuss · 25/08/2011 02:02

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MoominsAreScary · 25/08/2011 02:33

I blame it on the marsbars dp keeps bringing home, I do love a marsbar

Also the bulimia I had as a child, I'd rather be slightly over weight like i am now than the self obsessed unhealthy teenager I used to be

Also if you judge people on how much they weigh youare a pretty ugly person imo and I'd rather be over weight than some pretentious twat that thinks theyre better than others just because they are thin

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