to not let my 10 year old DD read Twilight?

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My 10 year old DD is a very keen reader and has read all Harry Potter, some Phillip Pullman etc and is now desperate to read Twilight.

My take on this has been a firm 'no' but earlier today in the library DD had her friend with her (who is 11) and kept on and on about it and that her friend had read it and I caved and let her take them out.

I still wasn't happy about it, my reasons being that I don't feel that books with a 'romantic' theme are suitable for a 10 year old and also that I feel that Twilight gives some seriously dodgy messages for a young girl about what 'love' is and isn't. I also think Edward is a controlling arse and that Stephanie Mayer ought to be shot for teaching a generation of teenage girls that love=control and that life without a boyfriend just isn't worth living. That's just for starters.

My DH agrees that Twilight is unsuitable reading for a child (he used to be a children's librarian) so we have decided that it's best that she doesn't read them.

However I read all sorts of stuff at her age and I'm worried that by banning it, it will take on even greater appeal. So I'm a bit torn.

DD still isn't speaking to me and thinks I'm being desperately unreasonable. Am I?

I think that sums it up well, theyoungvisitor-which is exactly why I have banned films and computer games but not books. (even then you can't monitor exactly what they do at other people's houses-you have to hope that other parent's are likeminded)

Isn't Jacob as bad as Edward in those books? I read the hilarious blog review of a guy who commented on every single chapter of those books and from his blog Jacob came across as really mysoginistic- dismissive and insulting towards the only girl werewolf in the pack, making sexist comments and blonde jokes about one of the Cullen girls etc.
Not to mention of course interfering with Bella's relationship all the while knowing that even if they get together he will one day leave her when he magically imprints on his 'destiny' girl (or mate I should say). Which of course turns out to be Bella's own child. Which effectively makes him into a pedophile.

Lovely books indeed.

Im surprised thats the first time the Jacob/imprinting/Renesmee issue came up.

As for Darcy, I bet you as soon as that ring was on Lizzie's finger he went back to being a pompous git and she had a miserable life poor girl.

Someone mentioned Rochester - he took control into a whole new level (locked in the attic anyone?)

And Max in Rebecca - not the ideal husband either.

For good young adult vampire books, try the Morganville series, Claire Danvers is a good character.

I don't think the Jacob imprinting thing is a big deal as his feelings toward Renesmee aren't sexual. However, it is a bit odd, yes.

The imprinting thing is iffy because it basically implies the imprinted has no choice over this. No choice = no consent.

Huh. Honestly never thought of that. I just thought of it as a sort of destined-to-be-together thing.

It is sort of like fate, only in fate, neither person involved gets to choose. I think it's pretty fucked up if one is in control and the other gets no say at all.

I didn't think the imprinter got to choose either?

There is a series by Aprilynne Pike - 'Wings' 'Spells' and 'Wild' which we market as 'Too young for Twilight? Just right for 'Wings'. It's a faery romance series for tweenies. DD loved them - might be worth giving them a try. Alyson Noel (author of 'The Immortals' series has also written a series for younger girls about one of the characters in her Dark Romance books. The books in this series are called 'Radience' and 'Shimmer.'