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To want to stick his twunting hairdryer up his bottom?

239 replies

ChocolateTeacup · 23/08/2011 16:57

I apologise if the title offends.

I have a (not so D)H who is working very hard at the moment, Leaving the house around 10am back around 10pm

Last night I was feeling very drained from a tough day with the boys aged 3 & 4 as they had been whiny and clingy, I had earlier gone out to the site to deliver donuts and drinks to him and his friends who are working together on a big project. Came home made dinner, put his in the microwave ready for him and sent a message saying I was going to bed. He replied ok

Then he comes in storms in the bedroom ( I was asleep) going why the hell are you in bed?? where am I supposed to get dry after my shower (rather than dry himself with a towel, he spends around an hour with a hairdryer blasting him whilst he fiddles on his phone) I respond, I was asleep it is one room of the house, use a different one, he grabs the laptop slams the door storms off, comes back and says oh I suppose I will have to sort my dinner as well, i say yes its in the microwave

Shower goes on

Then off

Screw you its my damn house and if I want to relax in my bedroom I will.

At this point I move onto the sofa, not wanting to provoke a big row, figuring fine he is just stressed.

So he gets dry (hairdryer turned full whack) turns the hall light on wakes up the eldest boy, who is happy to see him and he him, bangs and crashes about getting his own dinner. We haven't spoken since.

We have been married 7 years and I still hate the noise of the stupid hairdryer, WIBU to respond to any further rubbish with its insertation? There is another hairdryer that lives in the study, so its not as if I was suggesting he didn't use the stupid thing

OP posts:
BigBangersTheory · 24/08/2011 20:35

Perhaps Dyson could make him a giant airblade. Think of the time he would save.

SuePurblybilt · 24/08/2011 20:41

But airblades give you old-lady, wrinkly hands. Imagine that on a whole person. Imagine it on a scrotum.

FigsAndWine · 24/08/2011 21:00

This thread has brought back memories of my decade (in my 20s) spent living in a flat without central heating, where going to bed in the winter was only made bearable by making a tent of the duvet by lying on my back with legs bent, and blasting in hot air with the hairdryer. I did this because I thought that buying a heater would be too expensive in outlay and electricity bills, but I can see in retrospect that I probably spent far more in electricity bills from heating myself with a hairdryer. Hmm Grin

Ooh it was such a lovely warm feeling though....bathed in wonderfully hot air until all limbs were tingling. Horrid withdrawal once you turned off the dryer though....the heat is very transient and cools immediately. Maybe that's why he does it for so long OP; as soon as he turns it off, he feels all chilly.

Thinking about it, my teenage years were spent in a house that had underfloor air heating; there were floor vents in every room that would blow out hot air. In the morning, when forced out of bed by my mum, I would scuttle across to the vent and huddle over it with my dressing gown, letting the hot air blow up and warm me. Then I'd get dressed all huddled over like that. Blush Grin I also remember often wearing long skirts so that if I was chilly, I would stand over the vent and have the hot air blow up my skirt. I still wear exclusively long skirts; maybe that's why? Grin

OP, this thread has been a revelation! Your DP was being an inconsiderate git, btw. I hope he's apologised.

FetchezLaVache · 24/08/2011 21:01

Forgot to mention, there's no way it should take him an hour to dry himself with a hairdryer- it only used to take my ex a couple of minutes to dry his bits. So, if you extrapolate the size of my ex's bits to the size of a whole man- oh sorry, maybe it does take him an hour.

ComeWhineWithMe · 24/08/2011 21:36

I thought my dp was odd because he nearly cries if he has to have a shower (he prefers a bath) but if he is rushing and gets in the shower he puts the plug in and waits for it to fill a bit so his feet stay warm while he showers.

He got out the other day most upset that he had stood on a sponge and cold water went on him.

I don't think I'm going to tell him about hairdryer guy as I think he might try it and like it.

LindyHemming · 24/08/2011 21:42

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FigsAndWine · 24/08/2011 21:44

ComeWhine I also hate showers because I don't warm up for ages (thus defeating the point of having a 'quick' shower) and would also be upset if cold water got on me. Blush

Does he ever have baths, OP? I think that you're properly warm when you get out of a nice hot bath; I bet he wouldn't need the hairdryer to warm up so much....

LatteLady · 24/08/2011 21:46

Am really sorry, but all I can hear in my mind is Alan Bennett intoning, "And Esau was an hairy man."

I have a real planet of the apes vision on your DP in the shower...

landrover · 24/08/2011 21:54

It is indeed very strange, does he spend time with the kids at all? You should take him on a camping holiday!!!!!!

pseudonomic · 24/08/2011 22:13

Can I ask which hair dryer does he have ? Sorry but mine cuts out after about twenty minutes on full bollocks (and obviously bad choice of words) Wink

I think you may well have mistakenly married a siberian hamster. How does he react to sunflower seeds? Grin

GreenEyesandHam · 24/08/2011 22:16

Also, your house must smell of hot air/ hair for ages afterwards.

I can always smell when a hairdryers been on.

Lol at Alan Bennets Esau Grin

heleninahandcart · 24/08/2011 23:32

Perhaps turn the spare room into a wind tunnel. With harness of course Grin

lifechanger · 25/08/2011 00:25

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mumeeee · 25/08/2011 00:27

YANBU. I have never heard of anyone drying themselves with a hairdryer. That is very odd and also a waste of electricity. .

Inertia · 25/08/2011 01:06

Like pseudonomic, I'm amazed he has a hairdryer which will stay on for an hour without cutting out. It cannot possibly take him an hour to get dry- even if he is addicted to the drying, he also seems pretty attached to the phone- the drying time gives him an excuse to be wasting an hour faffing about.

The key issue is his lack of respect for you and the rest of the household, and his aggression towards you- I think that in relationships where there's mutual respect, partners might be cranky/overtired/grumpy with one another, but they recognise where they've been unreasonable and apologise, and try to make it better.

Nottooshabby · 25/08/2011 01:57

This is hilarious, nowt as strange as folk! and do not. use a bit of lube before insertion, and possibly use all 3, although, he may have concealed stock elsewhere. Does he have a particular favourite by the way? I'm looking for a hairdryer, and if your DH's alternative career is hairdryer testing, then chuck a recommendation my way, ta

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 25/08/2011 02:26

Can I just ask, when pictish posted this:

^The reason we started doing it in the first place is because we live in a very old stone cottage, which is fucking baltic in winter.....it came about to warm the kids up after they got out of the bath.....and they love it, so we do it now and then for a treat, and do it in the winter for the reasons above.

My husband is quite hairy, so uses the drier to speed things up.^

Was I the only one who read it as, her husband hops into the dryer after a bath?

OP, the 14 hours a day thing - ok, so he's shifted his working hours back. But that still means he gets home later, right? And then takes another hour and a half showering and drying himself. So he's spending three hours a day showering and drying. Is he interacting with his sons at all? Because in my world, once the WOHP gets home in the evening, childcare is split until the kids are in bed.

NoMoreWasabi · 25/08/2011 07:55

Just on the cost of the hairdrying, could you get an electricity monitor? You can buy them online and it would show you the spikes and how much it is costing whilst ge had it on. I imagine he had no idea.

milkshakejake · 25/08/2011 08:22
TrillianAstra · 25/08/2011 09:06

Let's forget the hairdryer, even without the hairdryer he is BVU

He got back late, knowing everyone was in bed, and made no attempt to be quiet, slamming doors and being generally horrible to everyone he encountered.

That is not acceptable behaviour.

thenightsky · 25/08/2011 09:32

The man obviously suffers OCD. It is having as much a negative effect on his life as much as a real physical disability would. And it affects his family too. This is all very sad. Sad

From NHS website:

How common is OCD?
OCD is one of the most common mental health conditions. It is estimated that up to 3 in 100 adults and up to 5 in 100 children and teenagers have OCD.

OCD usually starts in early adult life, with men tending to report earlier symptoms than women. However, OCD symptoms can begin at any time, including childhood.

The symptoms of OCD can range from mild to severe. For example, some people with OCD will spend about an hour a day engaged in obsessive compulsive thinking and behaviour. For others, the condition can completely take over their life.

Outlook
If you have OCD, seeking help is the most important thing you can do. Left untreated, the symptoms of OCD may not improve. In some cases they will get worse. Without treatment, nearly half of people with OCD still have symptoms 30 years later.

With treatment, the outlook for OCD is good. Some people will achieve a complete cure. Even if a complete cure is not achievable, treatment can reduce the severity of your symptoms and help you to achieve a good quality of life.

A form of psychotherapy, known as cognitive behavioural therapy, which includes graded exposure and response prevention, is a proven treatment with a high rate of success in OCD. This may also be combined with medication, such as antidepressants.

diddl · 25/08/2011 11:30

OCD?

Could be-or just too spoilt & lazy to use a towel?

TrillianAstra · 25/08/2011 12:08

I don't think you can diagnose OCD from one piece of weird behaviour, described by someone else, on an internet forum.

OTheHugeRaveningWolef · 25/08/2011 12:20

Sorry but I'm in hysterics at the idea of a man-sized airblade.

I think my very hairy bloke would love one of them Grin

saffronwblue · 25/08/2011 12:24

What adult with children and a job has two hours to spend on any sort of cleaning and beautification, let alone the ghastly hairdryer ritual? OP I would find the waste of time as intolerable as the waste of electricity. Separately, snarling at you like that is unacceptable and waking up the DCs?
He must be good at something for you to stick around.
Please, please take him camping and leave him at the top of a large mountain.