To want to stick his twunting hairdryer up his bottom?

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I apologise if the title offends.

I have a (not so D)H who is working very hard at the moment, Leaving the house around 10am back around 10pm

Last night I was feeling very drained from a tough day with the boys aged 3 & 4 as they had been whiny and clingy, I had earlier gone out to the site to deliver donuts and drinks to him and his friends who are working together on a big project. Came home made dinner, put his in the microwave ready for him and sent a message saying I was going to bed. He replied ok

Then he comes in storms in the bedroom ( I was asleep) going why the hell are you in bed?? where am I supposed to get dry after my shower (rather than dry himself with a towel, he spends around an hour with a hairdryer blasting him whilst he fiddles on his phone) I respond, I was asleep it is one room of the house, use a different one, he grabs the laptop slams the door storms off, comes back and says oh I suppose I will have to sort my dinner as well, i say yes its in the microwave

Shower goes on

Then off

Screw you its my damn house and if I want to relax in my bedroom I will.

At this point I move onto the sofa, not wanting to provoke a big row, figuring fine he is just stressed.

So he gets dry (hairdryer turned full whack) turns the hall light on wakes up the eldest boy, who is happy to see him and he him, bangs and crashes about getting his own dinner. We haven't spoken since.

We have been married 7 years and I still hate the noise of the stupid hairdryer, WIBU to respond to any further rubbish with its insertation? There is another hairdryer that lives in the study, so its not as if I was suggesting he didn't use the stupid thing

Apocalypse- it only took you four hours to cave and admit. You'd be no good under torture!

selfish bastard.

selfish to you, such applling behaviour and sense of entitlement.

selfish to the children

selfish to the rest of the planet with such profligaate use of electricity, probably so selfish he would not care if ti was pointed out to him.

I got there in the end

Plus i'm a wee bit squiffy thanks to the bottle of rum sat next to me

I once went out with a guy who showered before going to bed at night but didn't bother drying off because he didn't "trust" towels. Said they were full of germs. Instead he would just get straight into bed, dripping wet. He couldn't see why this was odd. He said fidgeting around in the duvet had him dry in a few minutes and what was the big deal?

He has two showers a day? So he spends two hours a day drying himself?

God how boring.

Can you get an industrial tumble drier and just pop him in for 15 minutes? He might shrink a bit the first few times.

This guy has OCD. I bet he thinks towels are dirty so he is not going to use one. Using the hair dryer to dry is stupid and please tell him I said so. Also a 15 minute shower? That's long. He warms his clothes before putting them on? He needs to toughen up. Be a man, not a namby pamby.

Yeah but, I bet he wouldn't do taht to you at 10pm gone at night, would he Apocalypse? Which takes him out of the Complete Fucking Arse category, unlike the OP's H, who is a fully paid-up member.

Towels are great. OP, your H is a knob. A selfish, immature knob at that.

Huh. I just...well, huh.

I'm stumped.

Seriously,I think that he needs professional help.Surely you can see that this is not normal behaviour.I don't mean to sound unkind but why do you put up with this ?Please take the advice that's been offered to you on this thread.I'm worrying about you now, not sure why but something about his wierdness is making me uneasy.Good luck to you for the future. Mx.

I tell you, Mumsnet has opened my eyes over the years, but this...

I can't sleep now because of the crazy image of your DP with a hairdryer. But i agree that its not the issue - he's clearly selfish and disrespctful. I'm wondering if his routines leave any time for you to spend together, and i'm imagining that he can't be doing his fair share of chores or even spending time with the kids.
I am disgusted that he would deliberately stomp about and shout at you when you are asleep - am i alone in thinking this is abusive?

is this what happens to married men? they become unable to read messages, then they start being mean to their partners and using hair dryers to do a towels job?

forget insertion. this geezer needs a kick in the nuts!

now blokes don't usually go around condemning another fellows jewels to a beating but this defo warrants a blow to the balls. do it and then explain your actions whist he is on the floor. negative reinforcement. if he wants to behave like a doofus he should be treated as such.

and

It's not time for his morning shower yet is it? Please film it, then put it on YouTube so we can all watch.

The shower/hairdryer behaviour is odd, obsessive and selfish.
The stomping around, moaning & disturbing you is selfish, disrespectful and damm annoying. He needs to get some help.

Does he go to the gym? Swimming? What happens then? Does he parade around with bits swinging in the changing rooms? What about school? Would he not have got the piss ripped out of him? What happens when you stay with friends/relatives?

I explained this thread to my DH. (when he had just got out of the shower). His reply was "Why? Did they not have towels."

very strange indeeed.

Love the Chewie/hairdryer picture.

Fetchez I cackled at that

why wouldnt you nip this behaviour in the bud the minute you saw him do it - why let it go on for years?

I dont get that

Why are you all so shocked that someone would use a hairdryer to dry themselves after a shower??

What's the biggy?

I think it´s an odd thing to do.

But a hairdryer droning on for an hour-couldn´t cope with that.

It's not THAT odd, as to elicit the responses on here!!

Yeah, it's odd, especially for an hour a day.

Pictish, yes it is.. its just weird