To want to stick his twunting hairdryer up his bottom?

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I apologise if the title offends.

I have a (not so D)H who is working very hard at the moment, Leaving the house around 10am back around 10pm

Last night I was feeling very drained from a tough day with the boys aged 3 & 4 as they had been whiny and clingy, I had earlier gone out to the site to deliver donuts and drinks to him and his friends who are working together on a big project. Came home made dinner, put his in the microwave ready for him and sent a message saying I was going to bed. He replied ok

Then he comes in storms in the bedroom ( I was asleep) going why the hell are you in bed?? where am I supposed to get dry after my shower (rather than dry himself with a towel, he spends around an hour with a hairdryer blasting him whilst he fiddles on his phone) I respond, I was asleep it is one room of the house, use a different one, he grabs the laptop slams the door storms off, comes back and says oh I suppose I will have to sort my dinner as well, i say yes its in the microwave

Shower goes on

Then off

Screw you its my damn house and if I want to relax in my bedroom I will.

At this point I move onto the sofa, not wanting to provoke a big row, figuring fine he is just stressed.

So he gets dry (hairdryer turned full whack) turns the hall light on wakes up the eldest boy, who is happy to see him and he him, bangs and crashes about getting his own dinner. We haven't spoken since.

We have been married 7 years and I still hate the noise of the stupid hairdryer, WIBU to respond to any further rubbish with its insertation? There is another hairdryer that lives in the study, so its not as if I was suggesting he didn't use the stupid thing

shrugs

Think this is a case of Mumsnet making a mountain out of a molehill to be honest.

The problem is his rudeness....fuck the hairdryer - what does it matter?

Sorry, but I do find it odd.

Odd that his dad ever did it-unless there was a specific reason, odd that he carried on unnecessarily, odd that the guy has carried it on himself- and that he does it to the detriment of others.

Do you know someone who does this pictish? :)

On occasion, I have used the hairdryer to dry my kids after a bath...just for the sheer pleasure of it....they love it.

Call the men in white coats immediately.

But why, Pictish?

What made you think "Oh, I´ll dry the kids with a hairdryer?"

Why? Because I want to.

Why do you lot care so much?

Glad you can afford the electricity for it! And it dries the skin out.

Bet you don't do it for an hour at a time though, do you pictish?

So it's two hours of him drying himself a day? Two hours ? I'd go mad.

The reason we started doing it in the first place is because we live in a very old stone cottage, which is fucking baltic in winter.....it came about to warm the kids up after they got out of the bath.....and they love it, so we do it now and then for a treat, and do it in the winter for the reasons above.

My husband is quite hairy, so uses the drier to speed things up.

What lunacy eh?

OK, I can see how it might come come about with kids as part of a game/treat.

But you´re not actually telling them that that is how they now dry themselves for the rest of their lives, are you?

I just have visions of this guy stepping out of the shower saying "I´ll be down in an hour, when I´ve dried myself" WTF??!!

Again....what does it matter?
The issue is the OP's dh's attitude and rudeness. Why are you all being so silly and focusing on the hairdryer?

So he uses a hairdryer to dry himself after a shower....so. fucking. what?!

It's odd and selfish to spend an hour drying yourself in the morning when you could be looking after your children.

The hairdryer IS a problem in itself if he's spending 7 hours a week drying himself while the OP runs around like a chump after the children.

It's even more of an issue if he does it when he comes home at 10pm and wakes everyone up!

Exactly thumbwitch.

So the problem is him being selfish isn't it? Nothing to do with the sodding hairdryer. Stop banging on about it.

Calm down pictish.

99% of mumsnet are allowed to think he's a freak without your permission.

My FIL dries his feet with my hairdryer when he comes to stay. I have to mentally block out the image otherwise I'd have to buy a new hairdryer after every visit.

This thread reminded me of this episode of the Simpsons.

Ha ha haaaaaaaa. Gives a whole different meaning to the term "blowjob".

C'mon Pictish - 'tis a little odd.

I couldn't be with a man like that, I just couldn't. The momumental selfishness of it would have me calling time at day one...

2 showers a day. 14 hours a week drying time

My DP is the opposite of yours OP... he does his longish head hair with a towel ... upto 45 times a day!!!! This is not when wet but when dry - he will get a towel or any material object in sight and scrub at the hair with it until it goes all frizzy and then flatten it with his hands. Going out in public is most embarassing and Im usually marching ahead trying to disown the long haired man staring into the reflective glass of shop windows and scrubbing at his head with one of DDs muslins

Charlie

Has he sought help for that?

Pictish - you have genuine reasons for using the hairdryer on your kids - them enjoying it is a good enough reason for me. Equally your dh using it to speed things up as he's a bit hairy seems fair enough to me.

But neither of these apply to the OP - her dh isn't hairy and he isn't doing it occasionally for fun or because the house is cold - he does it every day twice a day - that cannot be normal surely???

No, you're bloody not U to want it.
YABU to have waited so long though.
14 hours a weeks, that's a lot of hot air. In his head, as well.