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Original poster

to go out because my guests are two hours late?

42 replies

TidyDancer · 21/08/2011 15:20

They have only just sent a text to say "we're on our way, just stopping for food first"?

DS is starving because we were supposed to be having lunch all together, DP is annoyed and suggesting we de-camp to MIL's house for the afternoon and tell our guests we have had to leave. I'm inclined to agree.

Opinions?

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worraliberty · 21/08/2011 15:22

Yep! That's what I'd do but not before telling them they're out of order.

mummyzoe2012 · 21/08/2011 15:22

if the have changed plans and not told ou then i would, i certainly would not of waited 2 hours! go to the mil or a nice meal out the two of you!

bigun1 · 21/08/2011 15:22

I have been sorely tempted to do this in the past, but have NOT doen so especially fi they have travelled...and ended up having a really fun afternoon, worth the wait tbh.

If its beyond thier control..traffic etc then be fair, if its just rudeness and a regular occurence...go out and fuck them.

sunbear · 21/08/2011 15:23

i always want to do something like this but experience has taught me that the guilt i would feel if i went out wouldn't be worth it!

maybe they x wires about lunch, if it were me though i would be there like a shot, free lunch and all Wink

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TidyDancer · 21/08/2011 15:23

They're not usually this rude. They are a somewhat childish couple, but that's usually quite fun! But I don't think it's an excuse to let people down.

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TidyDancer · 21/08/2011 15:24

P.S. I'm not brilliant at hiding my annoyance with this kind of thing.

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ChippingIn · 21/08/2011 15:26

What was the plan?

jazzchickens · 21/08/2011 15:28

Did they know you were all going to lunch together? It seems very rude if they did.

I would text back saying that you had been holding on for them before you had lunch but are now absolutely starving so you are going out to find something to eat.

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TidyDancer · 21/08/2011 15:30

That they leave home at 1pm and come here for lunch. It takes them about 20 minutes to get here from where they live, 30 if there's traffic.

Luckily we haven't done a hot lunch, because it's nice weather here.

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aliceliddell · 21/08/2011 15:30

Where do you live, Tidy? I can probably be there by 5pm; can you keep it hot?

Nagoo · 21/08/2011 15:31

Have you eaten the lunch?

Thumbwitch · 21/08/2011 15:31

Cheeky feckers! I'd text them that you've gone out for food too NOW, since you've been waiting for them to turn up so you could ALL have lunch TOGETHER as was agreed, apparently.

It is NOT all right to do that to people, it's bloody rude.

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TidyDancer · 21/08/2011 15:31

I got no explanation as to why they are late. The plan was clear.

They won't be invited again unless they have a good reason. I will not waste the weekend sitting in waiting for rude people again.

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jumpingjackhash · 21/08/2011 15:32

If the agreed plan was for them to come around at 1pm for lunch together, then they're being really rude, especially with the 'stopping for food' bit, which is completely U on their part. However this makes me think their idea of the plans and yours aren't quite the same!

Why don't you phone them to see what they're playing at, then if you feel it's not just a case of crossed wires, make your excuses and go out?

aliceliddell · 21/08/2011 15:32

x post. Better still, I like salad. Fancy a few prawns? I've got a nice avacado here

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TidyDancer · 21/08/2011 15:32

The stupid thing is, it was them who wanted to make the arrangement to come over.

We're going to go to MIL's I think.

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joric · 21/08/2011 15:33

Text them, cancel and go out.

jumpingjackhash · 21/08/2011 15:33

Sorry, crossed posts! In that case YANBU to bugger off out! The bit about them getting food on the way would really piss me off if I was waiting for them to join my family for lunch!

aliceliddell · 21/08/2011 15:34

Don't listen to Nagoo. I'll help you eat it.

Thumbwitch · 21/08/2011 15:34

If it only takes them 20 minutes to get to yours, why in FUCK are they stopping en route to get food?? How obnoxiously rude are they!!

Yes, go out.

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TidyDancer · 21/08/2011 15:35

You're all very nice. Thank you for replying to me!

I can't really be arsed to leave, but I don't really want to be here to play nice with them.

Grrr, this has really pissed me off.

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aliceliddell · 21/08/2011 15:35

Listen only to jumping and me. The Blue Nun is still cold....

aliceliddell · 21/08/2011 15:37

Tidy - Absolutely. Stay in. I'll be there, don't worry