to go out because my guests are two hours late?

[TidyDancer]

They have only just sent a text to say "we're on our way, just stopping for food first"?

DS is starving because we were supposed to be having lunch all together, DP is annoyed and suggesting we de-camp to MIL's house for the afternoon and tell our guests we have had to leave. I'm inclined to agree.

Opinions?

Are they stopping for food because they were supposed to bring something to contribute to the meal? Still, doesn't excuse them though.

I'd be inclined to text back and say something like 'as you were supposed to be here at 1.00 and it is now 3.30, let's cancel and reschedule for another time'. And then don't reschedule - ever.

Whenever something like this happens to me, I find I'm so cross that I can't enjoy myself anyway whenever people arrive, so best to cancel. It's rude and disrespectful. Definitely not the way friends should treat each other.

I am in the same situation, I was doing luch at 1pm for a friend, but so far she has not texted to say she is leaving. I have picked and nibbled now so not very hungry...think we will BBQ the food in a bit and if she turns up she turns up.

Didn't realise this was such a common problem! If I was invited round for lunch 1-1.30pm I'd be there!

Shall we pool our lunch food and have a big MN party (and drown out my noisy neighbours?!)

Seems very rude to me. No excuse for being that late, unless something really unavoidable like being stuck in a massive traffic jam, even then it's rare to be delayed for 2 hours on a 20 minute journey! And in that case they should have let you know and apologised. They sound completely oblivious to the fact that this might inconvenience you in any way!

I'd go out if you want to go out.

Pack everything up and go fast, before they turn up. I wouldn't send them a message if they're only 20 minutes away. If they contact you, just say, "Oh by 3.30 I thought you'd changed your mind and hadn't bothered letting us know."

Do they mean that they're stopping to pick up food and being it to yours? Picnic style?

I think your DP has the right idea if they've just been sloppy at time keeping and inconsiderate.
If they've been stuck in traffic and are starving then they're quite within reason to stop for food, although in that case I would have expected a call to explain and suggest that you eat without them.
From your OP I would guess at the former.

It sounds a bit odd, did they definitely know you were doing lunch? If so, just go out. Text them back before though

alice why 'hair'? I didn't know it was that kind of party?!

why not just text back" i thought you were eating here" and see what they respond

Wasn't it you with the dodgy cousin? Or am I getting mixed up... If it was then I'd rethink your dinner guests because they're all shite :o

Leave and say you had plans for this time because you assumed they'd have come and gone by now!

You need to communicate that you were waiting for them to eat

Nagoo - you haven't seen it. An atrocity has occurred on my head. Think diseased squirrel. Now think of that same squirrel sitting on a woman's head.

What did you do?

If you didn't have evening plans/they weren't coming to stay I would have text back 'Oh sorry - I thought you were coming for lunch - we've gone out now as we assumed you'd forgotten when you weren't here by 2'.

There's no way I'd want to be playing nice with them this afternoon!

Hi everyone, back home now!

I cancelled on them and went to MIL's. We had a nice meal, but had to get back to do bedtime for the LOs! Have had sporadic texts from them since then, they don't seem to get why I'm annoyed, even though I have said it's because there was no explanation. I don't mind changing plans at the last minute, shit happens, but the lack of a reason as to why annoys me the most!

Gwen, yes it was me with the dodgy cousin! I am devoid of normal and socially compliant family and friends!

thread hi-jack....

alice I demand further details about how you came to be host to diseased squirrel hair.

There is a man down my road who always wears a wig so cheap it looks like dolls hair.

Good for you.
What did your text say and what did theirs say ?