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Would this annoy you, re. taking treats into work?

103 replies

pinkyredrose · 19/08/2011 08:45

Don't know why this annoys me but it does. Sometimes at work, usually a couple of times a week, I or someone else will bring in some cookies or sweets or something for eveyone to share.

One co-worker though when she gets her share often says 'oh I 'll take it home for my daughter'

I feel like saying 'I'm bringing in things for us to have at work not to be taken home for children, if you want her to have treats buy them yourself'

I know it's only petty but it's annoying me!

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catgirl1976 · 19/08/2011 08:50

Maybe she's on a diet? Or maybe she can't afford treats for her daughter so takes stuff home? Bit odd but not the end of the world.....

honeymom · 19/08/2011 08:50

Maybe she's on a diet. What ever as long as she brings in her fair share of the treats what does it matter what she does? Maybe she acts all saintly in front of you. I couldn't possibly eat something naughty. And then scoffs it down in her car when no one is looking? Maybe she has an eating disorder ? Maybe she doesn't.

kittensliveupstairs · 19/08/2011 08:52

Wouldn't annoy me as long as she brings her share in rather than just taking out.

sausagesandmarmelade · 19/08/2011 08:52

Strange.........

AnyFuleKno · 19/08/2011 08:53

If it's her share and she takes it away with her in her hand or her stomach what difference does it make

Are you the one that puts a note in everyones diary at work to clean desks once a week? Just guessing Wink

GwendolineMaryLacey · 19/08/2011 08:55

Wouldn't bother me. What she chooses to do with her share is down to her and as long as it's all even. I often bring things in but I'm a fat pig but our office has changed and is full of horrible people now so I only give to the nice ones. No one else bothers to bring anything so I'm sure as hell not going to keep them in fruit and nut.

DizzyKipper · 19/08/2011 09:02

I don't think it's unreasonable to get annoyed, particularly if she does this all the time. If she doesn't actually want any then she could leave them for other co-workers who DO want them and who will enjoy them (and the occasional treat like this must help to lift the mood up at work). I suppose she feels as though she isn't taking anything away from anyone as she is only "having her share" though, but if everyone did this (and surely other people have children there too) then the majority of treats would probably be going to kids and rather defeat the point of your bringing them in.

I suppose if I was in a similar setup then I may feel tempted to sneak things home for my daughter too because I wanted her to share in something nice, but I would probably do it sneakily and not let the person know - as they'd want to know that I'd enjoyed it, not my child. And I would only take one thing for her, not "my share". I also have too much of a sweet tooth not to indulge in some of the treats myself anyway (but wouldn't take too many, as in the back of my mind I'd be feeling a little guilty about sneaking that one piece home), and would also be reciprocating by bringing in tasty treats for my co-workers as well.

SuePurblybilt · 19/08/2011 09:03

I used to work in an office where the management were forever sending in treats, I would often take half of a (huge) cream cake or something home for DH. He worked at home, we were doing a self-sufficiency thing and never had treats so it was a nice surprise for him.
Half or whole of your own treat taken home is fine. Taking an extra treat to take home is BU, obviously.

NewlyConvertedFordLover · 19/08/2011 09:08

YABU

I love baking and decorating cakes which I take into work fairly regularly. I would much rather someone take a cake home for their child, than the lady who looks at them like toxic waste and says, 'Oh I won't take one, I'm being good' Hmm

Disclaimer- my cakes are pretty good, and most people do appreciate them!

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pinkyredrose · 19/08/2011 09:12

She's definately not on a diet! Her partners just had a huge pay hike so they can afford treats themselves.

Thinking about it she never brings things in to work to share either!

I agree it's not the end of the world, it just bugs me a bit.

Maybe I should eat all the cookies myself?

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pinkyredrose · 19/08/2011 09:14

Oh she did actually offer me something once, it was some weird meat product, still not sure what it actually was, it looked like pickled brains.

I declined but maybe I should've taken some home for my cat.

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catgirl1976 · 19/08/2011 09:21

You are now NBU just becuase she tried to feed you pickled brains :)

Sewmuchtodo · 19/08/2011 09:22

My DH's work often take in treats to share in the staff room, and one guy always happily takes but never brings so much as a digestive biscuit!

My business partner and I have a shared love of all things yummy..........this is not good for the waistline!

PrideOfChanur · 19/08/2011 09:37

Perhaps though she is trying to be appreciative for the treat without actually wanting to eat it herself?

I feel a bit like this now - I really appreciate the thought when someone buys a treat at work,but I don't want to have to eat something I don't fancy at that moment or don't need to eat just because someone else has brought it in.
And if you are trying to watch what you eat for any reason it is hard to do if you are faced with a constant stream of extras at work,particularly if you don't feel it is polite to keep saying "no,thanks" to everything.

KurriKurri · 19/08/2011 09:37

I think you should say to her 'either you eat them all now, while we're watching Missy, or you don't get any, got it?'

Or maybe just let her do what she wants with her share of the sweeties.

pictish · 19/08/2011 09:41

Yabu. God.

doesthisseemright · 19/08/2011 09:44

Sometimes if we have a sweet tin at work, I do take one (quality street or suchlike) and say "i'll take this home for ds". Its kind of nice to bring a wee surprise from work for him. People in my office dont mind. In fact most are grateful for peopel taking the sweets and chocs away as they find it too much of a temptation and arent keen on constant sweets and biscuits around the place.

doesthisseemright · 19/08/2011 09:45

Oh and I find it displaces the gesture to be monitoring whether people have their "share" or not. Hmm

WibblyBibble · 19/08/2011 09:46

Yeah, YABU and incredibly petty. Get a grip?

ragged · 19/08/2011 09:46

Seems pretty obvious that she is being greedy with a pretense of taking some home for someone else, but I wouldn't find that annoying, only sad :(.

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pinkyredrose · 19/08/2011 09:47

She's not watching what she eats, she's got an amazing figure but can seemingly eat whatever she likes, she told me the other week she's always been like that.

She could just say no she doesn't feel like it at the moment.

I think I'm a bit peeved as she took the last chocolate brownie home for her daughter yesterday and I had my eye on it.

Well off to work now, might pick something up on the way!

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motherinferior · 19/08/2011 09:53

'she's got an amazing figure but can seemingly eat whatever she likes, she told me the other week she's always been like that'...

I bet she is actually very very weird about food.

TheRealMBJ · 19/08/2011 09:57

As long as she isn't taking her own share and then extra to take home YABU , especially if you've already eaten your brownie and then was hoping for the extra one.

tethersend · 19/08/2011 10:01

There is no daughter. She is eating the treats alone, in the car, in handfuls.

supercal · 19/08/2011 10:06

If she is taking stuff 'for her daughter' all the time, and never bringing in stuff for everyone to share (bar the weird meat), then I would agree with motherinferior that this woman is likely to have big food issues. I suspect she takes these portions home for herself and eats them in secret.

Does she ever eat treats in front of you, OP?