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AIBU?

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Would this annoy you, re. taking treats into work?

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pinkyredrose · 19/08/2011 08:45

Don't know why this annoys me but it does. Sometimes at work, usually a couple of times a week, I or someone else will bring in some cookies or sweets or something for eveyone to share.

One co-worker though when she gets her share often says 'oh I 'll take it home for my daughter'

I feel like saying 'I'm bringing in things for us to have at work not to be taken home for children, if you want her to have treats buy them yourself'

I know it's only petty but it's annoying me!

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motherinferior · 19/08/2011 10:12

I would guess she doesn't eat. That it's very, very important to her to have people think she can 'eat whatever she likes' but actually she's obsessed with not eating.

doesthisseemright · 19/08/2011 10:19

God, an eating disorder is a bit of a leap isnt it?

I genuinely do take a few treats for ds. I hope to god my work colleagues arent all assuming Im shoving handfuls of quality street into my gob in the car

KurriKurri · 19/08/2011 10:19

Given what you've told us 'she often says 'oh I'll take it home for my daughter', I think its fair to assume that this woman has an eating disorder, or a mental illness of some sort, failing that she's obviously a complete bitch.

She's probably a hoarder, go to her house and you'd find room after room filled with old sweets and rotten brownies. Somewhere deep in the middle of the filth will be her daughter, begging her mother to get help.

I'd say its a case for SS, or at least a channel 5 documentary "When sweets go wrong; the desperate tale of a woman who broke the sharing rules"

MumblingRagDoll · 19/08/2011 10:25

You're being mean.

supercal · 19/08/2011 10:33

I just think that's it odd if she does it all the time.

And actually OP, I don't think YABU. I think if treats are brought in to share amongst work colleagues, I think it's a little mealy-mouthed for someone to insist they have 'their share' and take it home. People are providing for their friends, not their friends' families. IMO it should be a case of being shared out amongst people present, not seen as a collection of individual portions.

Different if it's the company providing cakes or things for their employees though.

motherinferior · 19/08/2011 10:51

Oh, that's just my guess based on the utterly weird eating habits of loads of women. Especially ones who make a big point of 'oh, I can eat whatever I like': then eat the damn cake, woman, don't stash it away for your daughter.

bibbitybobbityhat · 19/08/2011 10:53

I would do that if I was your co-worker. I don't like sweets, cakes or biscuits but my dd loves em .

TheMonster · 19/08/2011 10:54

It would piss me off too. When I take stuff into work, I take it in to be enjoyed with th people I socialise with at break time. It annoys me when I take, say muffins in, and someone puts one aside and says 'I'll keep this for so-and-so because they go to the other break room'. Erm, no, if they want to socialise with others then they aren't here to enjoy the calorie-laden goodness!

Continuum · 19/08/2011 11:39

dh brings work treats home for ds! Never thought it would be an issue!

He also takes treats into work he's baked, but has never commented on whether he's policing who takes them and for what purpose!!

TheMonster · 19/08/2011 11:42

It's a petty thing, but it's what happens

knittedbreast · 19/08/2011 11:45

why on earth do you care? if you bring them in its up to the people you hand them to what they do with them.

muminthemiddle · 19/08/2011 12:35

Kurikuri pml

I think YABU. I sometimes take things home for my dcs. Only MY share though and after everyone else has had some. Otherwise certain people will gorge themselves silly and eat the lot. That's my excuse anyway!

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 19/08/2011 12:39

YABU - if we did this at work and as long as I contributed too I would take cookies etc home for DS!

Not really sure why you care but if this is all you have to get annoyed about then lucky you :)

Ephiny · 19/08/2011 12:45

I would find it a little bit odd and not really in the spirit of the thing - but not worth getting annoyed over. If it upsets you so much then just don't bring stuff in any more. If you do, you have to accept that you can't police exactly what everyone does with it!

mamasmissionimpossible · 19/08/2011 12:46

Kurikuri - pmsl

what a stupid thing to get worried about. Why does it matter if she takes the cake home for her daughter. If she hadn't mentioned it you would have been none the wiser.

cat64 · 19/08/2011 12:46

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LadyClariceCannockMonty · 19/08/2011 12:48

Can people please stop being so bitchy about this woman? Particularly:

I would guess she doesn't eat. That it's very, very important to her to have people think she can 'eat whatever she likes' but actually she's obsessed with not eating.

I bet she is actually very very weird about food.

Why on earth would you say these things? Because she has 'an amazing figure'? FYI, I am thin and always have been. I eat plenty of 'healthy' food but also plenty of cake, puddings, cheese etc. It makes no difference to my weight. I get sick of people assuming I'm a veggie, that I have an eating disorder, that I must live on water and dry bread for my body to look the way it does. Some woman doesn't conform to what you think is the 'right' way to behave about treats at work, so she must be a food weirdo?

Sorry OP to hijack, but this really pisses me off. Don't women already come in for enough stick about their bodies from elsewhere in our culture?

alemci · 19/08/2011 12:50

I think it is a bit rude unless you have suggested it. Out of interest is it always you who brings treats in or do other people reciprocate because TBH I remember where I worked, it was always the same people who brought stuff in and some people never brought anything in but would always take some.

Personally I would feel embarrassed if I never reciprocated.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 19/08/2011 12:55

YANBU. This would annoy me no end but then according to DH I get annoyed easily .

LineRunner · 19/08/2011 12:57

I'd have her followed by security to see if she eats it in the carpark, and then arrested for theft.

In fact I'd start preparing my affadavit now.

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 19/08/2011 12:59

LineRunner

WannaBeMarryPoppins · 19/08/2011 13:06

I actually don't think you are being unreasonable. You bring the stuff in for your co workers. If one person doesn't want her share there is more for everyone else.

I am trying to lose weight so sometimes I take stuff I am being offered, sometimes I don't. If I recline because I don't want it then I do not think that I even have a fair share. I would if I would like to eat it, but this way I don't.

If this lady doesn't like sweets/treats, maybe she can bring in something else to share with everyone.

ChippingIn · 19/08/2011 13:09

LadyClarice - that you're veggie.... that made me laugh, when I was vegan people would look at me and say 'You don't look like a vegan'. I'm overweight, was over weight when I when I was vegan - it's not what people expect then they'd kind of realise what they were saying and sort of shuffle and mutter things about how lovely my hair looks (another vegans have limp hair myth) and you glow (another vegans are pasty myth)... very funny

OP - I wouldn't care if she ate it or took it home, but I think it's rude to take treats all the time and never bring anything in - especially if the things people are bringing in are bought (rather than baked) you tend to assume if they are baked that people enjoy doing it and want to share - not quite so much pressure to reciprocate as long as you tell them how lovely it is and bring a treat in every now & again. I miss working in a big office!

limitedperiodonly · 19/08/2011 13:11

I forgot how much fun it was to work in an office

MamaLazarou · 19/08/2011 13:22

YABU, but I think you know that.

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