AIBU to start getting angry at comments by dhs family about this pregnancy

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i am pregnant with dc 5. There is no reason for anyone to be anything but overjoyed with this news. We love our children we look after them, we have a good relationship we work and have enough money etc to support another baby (well we woukd like more but we survive). We told dhs families recently after our 12 week scan. MIL told dh he should "go and have the snip or I'll come here and do it for you" then said they though he had mumps as a child (turns out he didn't) but it was a shame he didn't as then he wouldnt have so many children ( I assume mumps makes you infertile from that comment but I have no idea if that's true).
No one has congratulated us people are rude about it and I am at the point of just screaming op "oh will you fuck offffffffff".next time someone suggests "getting the bricks out" or the like.

I amm seriously considering asking dh to tell them that if they don't start either not commenting at all or saying something nice if they cam bring themselves to do so then they are not welcome in our house.

Aibu.

Congrats on your pregnancy, ignore the haters! Get your husband to have a quiet word yes!

yanbu, tell them if they can't be happy for you, then fuck off with their negativity.

Yanbu but what does 'getting the bricks out' mean??

They sound awful

You need to say something or they will think its acceptable, and continue...

We had something similar when we announced we were having dc4. For some reason, some people can't get their heads around the idea that you might want more than 2 kids.

Tell them that the socially acceptable response to a pg announcement is 'congratulations'. If they can't manage that, then stfu.

Congratulations btw. Hope you have a lovely, easy pg and birth!

Yadnbu , I have 5dcs and I hate the way everyone and their uncle feels they have the right to comment . As long as you and dh are happy then sod the rest well that's my coping technique

You are being completely reasonable and I think it's a damn shame that after a certain number of children they could arbitrarily decide that that was enough. It's none of their business.

Some people's mouths completely outrun their brains.

Oh love - i totally get where you're coming from.

We've just announced that i'm pregnant with a very much wanted DC5, and have hostile responses. And the comment about manshape having the snip. And the housebricks.

Manshapes mother even asked if we didn't have a TV, i said of course we did, we just preferred having rampant sex...

Congratulations - and chin up!

Yanbu. Enjoy this special time and don't let them ruin it.

YANBU. If they can't be positive why can't they just say nothing.

Congratulations! I had this when pg with ds3, from my mum, she did come round after a few weeks but I totally understand how horrible it feels.
Ignore them, and tell DH to have a word, the most important thing is that you and your dh are happy.

Congratulations ! I'm pg with dc4 but noone knows yet! the registra did ask me if I'd like to be sterilised during my csection!

Unlurked - I have no idea it not something I have heard from other people but it seems to be the same as MIL saying "she will be round her with her clippers".

Registrar even!

The bricks thing means that they will give your dh a vasectomy with 2 bricks bashed against his nuts. Charming eh?

Oh dh balls in-between to bricks, bang em together job done!

Hmm

I'll ask my mil at the weekend. She knows ALL the sayings .

Congratulations!

I'm confused about the housebricks too - I thought the standard (lighthearted) comment was 'Haven't you heard of Horlicks?'. Not nice to have your family being so negative.

'Getting the bricks out' - to smash his knackers.

Delightful phrase.

YANBU, how rude.

Bricks refers to rather crude method of castrating animals... bringing two bricks together onto the baws, no baby animals.

Argh! I actually wouldn't have guessed that. Quite glad I dont have to ask mil!

My sister's got 4 and she waited 5 months before she told anyone about her last pgcy cos some of her DH's family and 'friends' are really negative about it. Just goes to show some people just can't be happy for other's news. It's so sad because having a baby is a really special thing to the people who are having it!

YANBU, they sound horrible.

Well we are thrilled and my sister is thrilled. My dad is his usual no committal self but even he has said congratulations and not said anything negative at all.
Bugger them I don't care.

YANBU and congratulations

Thanks for all the congratulations btw it makes a lovely change to hear!