Marks and Bastard Spencer have RUINED ds2's birthday

[Greensleeves]

ds2's birthday tomorrow, he's 7

it will be the first birthday dh has ever been away, so I have busted a gut to make it special for him

I ordered something off M&S online which he really, really wants and opted for the extra charge to have it delivered today, in time to be wrapped etc

They said the payment wouldn't go through, there was a problem with the card etc, I put it through over and over again

eventually dh phoned them, from Brazil, and gave all the details over the phone and double-checked with the woman that it had gone through and would still be delivered today, 18th August

so I rang up customer services today to ask if they had an approximate time as I have to take ds1 out to a party later

they said it hadn't gone through and was marked as not paid for

eventually after more schenanigans it turned out that it was because our visa debit card is a co-op bank card - they accept visa debit cards but not visa electron (which ours isn't) - apparently, this woman laughingly told me, the first four digits of the co-op cards are the same as electron cards, so they don't work! nobody asked dh whether it was a co-op card ffs

so the present isn't paid for and won't be arriving after all

I know it sounds trivial but I am SO upset, it has been a tough two weeks without dh here anyway and I really thought I had done a good job of making his birthday lovely

BASTARDS

Gawd i truly wonder how some people would cope if they had real tragedy or something really terrible happen in their lives

i go by the motto what doesnt kill you makes you stronger

Even a very swift glance has informed me the previous title was todo with fucking and arses

What was the present?

Fucking and arses is NOT ALLOWED.

I think Greeny has had quite a shit time in the past Fifi, so why don't you stop judging long enough to realise someone can be a little pissed off that something went wrong so came on here to vent like 99% of mn users do sometimes.

I'm gettting really sick of people been told they should know what a real tragedy is when they post a rant.

Fifi

I have had sone real tragedy in my life. I am still perfectly capeable of being deeply upset by triva.

Jeremy Kyle philosophy aside, everything has it's place.

Unless tragedy means I am not allowed to be upset when I stub my toe or my child is upset?

Pag, some people don't even have toes so you should be grateful.

Glad to hear it all worked out in the end, greensleeves. Hope DS has a lovely birthday tomorrow despite DH not being there.

I have had something very similar happen to me when I ordered something for dd for Christmas. It was something she asked for off Santa so was kind of expecting and the order got fucked up. Don't get me wrong I was mighty pissed off but as it wasn't midnight on Christmas Eve (though not far off) I knew I had the chance to get something else (actually found something better and cheaper) and that Christmas wasn't going to be ruined. It is the over-reaction that got my back up. There are some things that will ruin a birthday but having to nip to the shops the day before surely isn't one of them. M and S have been incompetent but the OP has been a total drama queen (reinforced by the other 'please stroke my ego and beg me not to leave' thread).

Oh FFS, it's like it's on a loop.

Fifi, you can have known great sadness and still be upset by something small. You can have experienced great happiness and still be made happy by something ordinary. This 'is that all you have to worry about' crap is getting tiresome, particularly on an anonymous forum where we have no idea if that is all the poster has to worry about. Sometimes it's just what they're worrying about right now and that is just as valid.

The day after my grandad died my grandma had a massive rant that Take The High Road had been taken off air that day.

Fifi..... MQ...

Really? Surely MN is just to make a fuss about the, seemingly trivial (although a bday present for a 7 yr old missing their Dad is not trivial) rather than going nuts in RL?

OK I will remember that the next time anyone is totally over-reacting in their OP. I mustn't point it out on the off chance they actually do have something to rant about but haven't mentioned it

Made my day this thread.

Well fair enough if it's the same rules for everyone but another poster would have been ripped to shreds for going off on one like that when the child was obviously going to have a present - just maybe not the exact one the op wanted.

I am perfectly able to point out that someone may be over reacting. Is it beyond anyones wit to do that without being mawkish about the tragedy in other peoples lives.

This is the biggest lot of bullshit ever. MightyQuim you are spot on.

I didn't mention tragedy actually. Other than that the OP was making a tragedy out of a minor inconvenience. I was just shocked with the offers of help and sympathising with a post that would normally be met with sarcasm on here. And from the same people talking about Nethuns as well!

Hang on a minute, I have children who have been without Daddy on birthdays, it's hard. I think planning a present you think will partly compensate and planning the day helps get you through. I empathised with the OP, once I realised the child wasn't one. I don't think it is fuck all, many posters could feel her frustration.

I too know a woman who lost her husband through cancer a week or so ago with five days warning....doesn't stop me fretting about my cold.

And I don't think any poster would be belittled for feeling shit about it.

Fair enough Mighty. But I wasn't referencing your post.

I think I am more sympathetic to the 'oh fucking arse' reaction when it happens real time. I have a lot less tolerance for ' I am fucking fuming that three days ago xyz happened'
But maybe that is just me.

And I hate competitive tragedy. Perhaps because I did it briefly when life was
shit and regretted it terribly. And my sister does it all the time. It is horrible

But no other poster did post with that thread title. ('Fucked ... up the arse'.) Greensleeves - whom I know not - did, and it caught my eye, as did her 'Fuck you' response to the mawkish deflection attempt.

'Fucked ... up the arse' survives in another form as another thread title, just without M&S as the subject of the verb.

Seriously - a poster could be belittled on here for anything at all. Depending on who she is.

That's the point - not the content of the OP, clearly it was a rant.

It's the buggering about, pretending that she wasn't being treated differently because she is well known name.

Well I do.
I don't think that having whatever delight it was from Marks and Spencer instead of another nice present would make it any easier that a parent was working away - do you?
The drama here was that the OP had to go to the shops.

Quite agree Pagwatch.

This thread was clearly just a momentary 'aaaggghhh' moment.

And I've never got top trumps with misery/tragedy - its just pointless.

I mean real tragedy is the fact that my much wanted new jeans are lost in the post somewhere and the company who sent them won't do anything until they've been 'missing' a month! And they just don't care that I wanted to wear them on my birthday on saturday - its hard I tell you And I'm a tiny bit older than 7.