to think I should not be threatened with a ban for questioning the use of offensive language?

[thefirstMrsDeVere]

I am a member of a very heavily moderated website. Swearing is not allowed at all, threads are pulled regularly if people are mean to each other, not threads about threads are tolerated and you are not allowed to mention anything said before on the boards at all. All these things will result in deletion and warnings.

I have been a member for years (before mumsnet even). There was a particularly nasty thread that was allowed to go on for pages which ended with a woman referring to children with LDs as 'being tapped in the head'..

I started a seperate thread wanting to discuss the use of disabilist language on the site and asking why words like bitch, whore and piss were not allowed yet retard, mong and spaz were.

I was told that some people might think it was ok to use those words so they couldnt filter them out, it wouldnt be fair.

I continuned to question this in a firm but polite manner and have now discovered I have been sent a message telling me that my style of posting is offensive and I have been taken straight to a final warning!

Not that I give a toss, the site is crap. I guess I am taken aback that you can be pretty much threatened into silence if you dare question the mods on this HUGE and well known site.

Its an issue that means a lot to me. If it was a site on which everything went language wise I wouldnt have bothered. But on this prissy site where you cant say bugger - you can call something retarded or monged out with no bother.

I think its bollocks and makes me glad I have mumsnet to come and tell people to fuck off on.

Fuck me.

Am v v v with it now and almost in tears. My DS1 has been tortured by people shouting "retard" at him in the past. We have then had to deal with massive violent meltdowns because of this!

Some of the comments on there are beyond unacceptable.

Oh not again The last time we invaded NM we had weeks of new members here posting shit about shit.

I'm so late to the party Mrs but if you need me to do anything just shout Hunni x x

notQuite I totally understand why you are upset. I am shocked at the poster saying disabled people basically just have to suck it up. What the honest hell?

So, who of you is the LIER??

Why, thanks kindly

It feels so safe and fucking lovely over here

Losing it big time - need to stop looking

NotQuite I'm not surprised you're so

NotQuite, you poor lovey. And your poor DS1 [fuckers]

Will have to namechange now as I forgot to use a silly name on there!

Let us kick some arse on your behalf. Don't click on them anymore Fuck it, I'll keep on at them on your behalf.

Cunts

So angry for you and anyone else who has had this vile shit directed at them

NQSD, I hope you are ok

don't be upset, only pillocks think like they do x

Thanks, everyone, calming down a bit now. But if you had seen the fallout we get when something like this happens to DS1....

nightmare!

Oh, three people liked my last post. I like the like function over there, haha. But I bet it was all people from here.

The ignorance is breathtaking fucking idiots

NQSW - well intentioned and un-mn hug coming your way

Have had to come back here to bang my head against a wall. There is some appalling stuff coming from some posters. Basically 'man up' and stop being offended? What the actual jeff?

"liza" seems ok

the site isn't very user-friendly though, so difficult to have a proper convo (never been there before)

Have to say ,as riots go, this was pretty pish. I never even got a pair of trainers!

I've had to wlk away.

It is jawdropping the faith they have in their righteousness.

I'm not as eloquent as you lot, I'm just switching them off.

They seem to think that if they went to the doctor's with a SN child, they would get a diagnosis of 'retarded' - because it's an actual condition innit.

So if it's OK for the doctors, it must be OK for them to use it to.

I am seething as well, so seething that I would not be able to write anything legible if I posted on that site

If they believe that the original definition is what counts when defining someone and the 'new' meaning should be ignored as its the individuals perception of the word that causes offence to them, I wonder if anyone would be willing to walk up to a black man and call him a (forgive me typing this) nigger, I believe that the word actually means black skinned person ( or something like that)

I hope that makes sense, my blood is boiling which makes it hard to think straight

The issue of old-fashioned racist words was raised with them, but has been ignored.