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AIBU?

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To be furious with school over this?

270 replies

pink4ever · 15/08/2011 15:18

My dc is starting school on wednesday. A few weeks before the end of the summer holidays the school gave out the uniform order forms. They had to be completed and returned with payment by a certain date. However due to many parents failing to do so by said date we did not receive our orders in time. We were assured we would get them before school returns.

I go to school this afternoon to collect mine and hear a mum in front of me querying that there is no blazer in her pack. I decide to check mine, Hey ho-no blazer. When I ask about this I get told it is nothing to do with office staff and I have to speak to head of pta. I am also told that I should have had a phone call informing me of incomplete order. I hadnt(order has been paid for in full btw)

I phone the women supposedly in charge who doesnt seem to know anything about incomplete orderHmm. She tells me she is trying to get to the company who supplies uniform this afternoon and that I hopefully will be able to pick up order tomorrow.

I am beyond furious. At the parents who handed orders in late,at the pta who dont seem to have a clue what they are doing but mainly at the school for their shrugged shoulders attitude.

I want my dc to have the proper uniform for the first day-it is an important moment. Also as I said I have already paid for it so as far as Im concerned thats theft-they have not supplied what I paid for.

So am I BU?

OP posts:
SayItLoud · 15/08/2011 16:04

Why are you being so rude to other posters, OP? You have asked if you ABU, you quite obviously are, everyone has pointed this out, can't you accept it? Petty insults just seem unnecessary, especially given the scale of your problem.

RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles · 15/08/2011 16:05

SiamoFottuti Grin

BuntyPenfold · 15/08/2011 16:06

Reducing a volunteer on the PTA to tears for giving poor service - sounds like bullying to me.

seb1 · 15/08/2011 16:06

Pink, you will probably need a duffel coat and raincoat based on the weather forecast Grin.

Shoutymomma · 15/08/2011 16:07

Good luck to all the wee ones starting school tomorrow.

OP: Try to let things slide - this issue is actually pretty trivial. You don't want to get into the habit of over-reacting or you will be in danger of becoming an embarrassment to your kids. I think you are probably more stressed about this important occasion than you realise. Chill and enjoy your little one's big day.

pointydog · 15/08/2011 16:07

lol @ he has been known to reduce people to tears.

It must wear you both out, getting so very cross.

Sparkletastic · 15/08/2011 16:07

Go to &S for blazer then and cancel order made via school. Or get a cardie (and a life).

zukiecat · 15/08/2011 16:07

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Sparkletastic · 15/08/2011 16:07

M&S obv

pink4ever · 15/08/2011 16:08

sayitloud-have you read the thread before posting? I think you will find it is people being rude to me not the other way round.
I asked if I was Bu-you lot say Yes. I still say no. Hey ho-I will live.

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Overcooked · 15/08/2011 16:08

I would be livid!

This really is not on, your poor child is now likely to freeze, it will be micked by all the other children (even though they do not have balzers either), it will effect the child's schooling and as a result your child could end up with no qualifications and no prospects.

Before you issue legal proceedings do make sure you spend some time doing proper calculations of your losses - they may run into millions (DH can help you with this obviously)!

Chestnutx3 · 15/08/2011 16:08

Get a blazer from M&S and get your money back simple. Aren't you the one that your DH won't give you any money to spend on yourself or your kids and use your child benefit to pay for everything? I think the blazer is the least of your problems.

LineRunner · 15/08/2011 16:09

Tort 101.

Ormirian · 15/08/2011 16:09

I hope you are proud of your DH's overwhelming self-righteousness that he can reduce poor performers to tears Hmm

I think I'd feel a bit uncomfortable about that TBH.

Pandemoniaa · 15/08/2011 16:11

Grin @LineRunner

RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles · 15/08/2011 16:11

Well don't fucking post in AIBU if you don't think you are then? What's the point in asking the question if you refuse to accept that you are. Knob.

TandB · 15/08/2011 16:11

OP, a child starting school for the first time is no doubt stressful enough without working yourself up over something which, in the greater scheme of things, really doesn't matter.

Late delivery of goods does not constitute theft, as your solicitor DH will presumably tell you.

And as long as your child has a coat of some sort, and it sounds like she has several to choose from, then there isn't really a problem. If the school take issue about her arriving in a non-uniform coat then that would be something to legitimately take offence about.

I would strongly advise that you get this in perspective before having any dealings with the school about it. You really don't want to start off with a reputation for over-reacting about minor issues. Otherwise when you really do have something to complain about (and I can't imagine you won't need to complain about something over the entire school lives of your children) you are unlikely to be taken as seriously as you should.

pink4ever · 15/08/2011 16:12

siamo-again with the spelling? I have dyslexia-its a condition. I cant help it. I also dont always pay attention when I type. So sue me. I hope it makes you feel really good to point out my mistakes.

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thesortinghat · 15/08/2011 16:12

Its an inconvenience, nothing more. You'll get the blazer or the money back, either way you won't be out of pocket. Please take a step back and look at this for what it is or actually isnt.

AuntieMonica · 15/08/2011 16:12

I would not even let him contact school or pta as he has been known to reduce people to tears when he has been given poor service.

but it's not the school or the PTA letting you down is it? it's the suppliers. go rant at them, you'll be doing the school a favour too, i'm sure they really want to be accused of theft on a public forum Hmm

activate · 15/08/2011 16:12

you are so going to have a miserable time for the next 13 years or so if this makes you cross

it is not earth-shattering

it is a school - this is the way they work - frequently

and children stopping you join the PTA is a paltry excuse - you take them along - all parents have children - most have more than one - if you don't want to put any time in then don't but stop being ridiculous

I am going to laugh for ages now

I love ranty weird new parents

I love meeting them a few years down the line too when they are a bit more normal

your child is 5 - so a light summer jacket to duffel will be fine until the blazer turns up - and it may not even turn up till next year

AuntieMonica · 15/08/2011 16:12

arf at 'so sue me' Grin

ChippingIn · 15/08/2011 16:14

Gee - he must be a Very Big Man then if he feels the need to get his kicks by reducing someone to tears over something so minor Hmm

No solicitor I have ever known would furious over a blazer that is a day late being delivered, no so broke... a solicitor - I doubt it.

seb1 · 15/08/2011 16:14

In support of the OP the weather forecast for am Wed is 9deg C, a bit chilly for just a cardy. We don't all live in the hot and sweaty south[ hmm]

BuntyPenfold · 15/08/2011 16:14

Maybe some children of PTA members don't have a blazer either? Just a thought, that there might be a general shortage.
I think though, they may be reduced to mirth, not tears, in case you hadn't realised.