The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 6

[Teaandcakeplease]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tiredmum, Elmo, valiumredhead and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

Hello

The big clean up is still on-going . Some roads are still blocked off but it's much better . We were very lucky as our house is slightly up a hill so the water didn't get into our house (except a little leak in the attic) .

I'm sooooo tired today . DD is having Night Terrors and is waking up several times each night . I couldn't get back to sleep at all last night & my head is pounding today . She has a night light in her bedroom and i leave the big landing light on all night for her too (her bedroom is facing the landing light so it really shines into her room) but still she keeps saying "she's scared & her room gives her nightmares")
Anyone got any ideas ? xxxx

tea [hugs] Sorry you are having a hard time xx Stay strong lovely x

Will be thinking of you Tea, hoping everything goes smoothly on all fronts.

Sucking up sawdust? Renos must be moving along well then Fearful?

Sounds like fun Valium, minus all the rain of course! :)

Poor DD, Elmo. :( Are they nightmares or actually night terrors where she's not really "awake"? DS had a short phase of nightmares, helped somewhat by a comfort item in bed that we made a really big deal about protecting him, but mainly I think by getting him a bright lamp that he could control. Nightlight wasn't enough. He turned it on all night for about a week, don't know how he slept! But he stopped turning it on after about a week and has only had one since (maybe a year?) and is fine with just the nightlight now. No idea why, other than that it occurred right after he had been quite ill and I think he was really tired. Hope it improves soon, you both must be exhausted.

Thanks Gomummy

I'm not sure weather they are nightmares or night terrors tbh Sometimes she screams out for me but she is still fast asleep , other times she is wide awake & terrified I have to promise to leave her main bedroom light on as well as her night light & the landing light and i promise to stay awake all night to mind her and only then will she nod off back to sleep .
She keeps saying over & over that her room makes her feel scared She Will not go to bed until all the window blinds are pulled down past the windowsills and all curtains are closed as she says "i don't want any one's eyes to see me through the window"

I wonder if she's seen something on tv she shouldn't have Elmo and it's put the ideas in her Being a church girl, I'd be praying through her room, use oil and if you find any horror books or similar bin them all. That may sound extreme but DD had a stage of awful dreams, it was ExH's dodgy videos, books etc that were all binned. None she'd ever seen but I was determined to sweep everything from our place that was horrid after 3 weeks of her dreams and nothing had helped we'd tried. After that the dreams stopped.

People talk about dream catchers - worth a try, if my idea isn't suitable?

Today was ok. I'm exhausted and off to bed. D day tomorrow.

I have a dream catcher in the window above my bed, Tea. After my divorce I had terrible nightmares and someone gave it to me. I don't generally believe in things like that but the nightmares stopped that night. Always thought it oddly coincidental, but kept the dream catcher!

Hope you find the key soon, Elmo, you both must be shattered. :(

Good luck tomorrow Tea, supportive vibes coming your way!

It went great ladies

The topic in the news section I began about co sleeping to age 3 is busy.

{hugs} tea Sooo glad it all went Well and as i think you may have solved my DD's night time worries . I read your post on here this morning and it makes a lot of sense that she has maybe seen something she shouldn't have so i did a little investigating . I had a nice chat with dd alone while i dressed her up in her princess costume this morning (fancy dress day in school ) I asked her why is she so scared at night time ....... and i asked her if something on the TV might have scared her and she went very quiet (she only ever watches c-beebies /nick jr etc but then she told me that DS has been playing dh's war games while we are in bed on Saturday Mornings (ds gets up around 5.30am on weekends i get up when dd wakes, but on this occasion she went straight down to ds) He is not allowed to play these games as some of them have Zombies in them (these games are "hidden" so i thought up in the top press in the kitchen cabinet. So it has come to light that DD has seen ds play this game and now is worried a red eyed zombie is going to break the window and come into her room . She says she hears noises in her room [imagination maybe ? ] which kind of makes me nervous tbh as i often feel uneasy here at times and have had the odd weird experience myself .
Ds has just been given a 1 week ban on the PS3 as he knows full well he is not allowed to play those war games and dh has put the games away in his wardrobe . It's mid term here now until NOV 7th .
I have never heard of a dream catcher but it sounds great It might help dd and i'll try anything at this stage .
Thanks again to you both for the great suggestions xx
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Might order this for dd
www.amazon.co.uk/Make-a-Sparkling-Dream-Catcher/dp/B000FCM09C/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1319812544&sr=8-2 we can make it together .

Here Elmo :) You and DD could make one together if you wanted. There are a lot of Anishenaabeg (Ojibwe) people in Minnesota, so there dream catchers have become part of our culture too.

Thanks Cheerful Just saw a cute one on Amazon i might order for her . We can make it together and hang it on her bed .

Oh, x-post :o That sounds like fun!

May retreat to the bench as there is a thread that is upsetting me

What is it?!

Someone is being unnecessarily harsh to the OP in relationships, when she's already a mess No wonder I do not venture there much these days.

:( Tea, sorry you're upset, and hope the OP is ok. I rarely venture into relationships, it seems to be a minefield!

MN can be a strange old place sometimes, can't it. I received some amazing advice and support on here a few years ago as a serial namechanger, it was what got me "addicted" to MN in the first place. Yet sometimes I see these threads where posters can be downright mean. We all come here with our own baggage I guess. I know I made a post that (for me) was strongly worded recently, due to my personal hatred of drunk driving. Lots of posters were more brutal on that particular thread than I was, but still I wondered afterwards if I'd have said the same without the history.

What are you all doing for Halloween on Monday?

Oh and just thought you'd all like to know that we've had snow today.

Snow? EEEEK!

We are having friends over for a halloween tea then going out trick or treating - which I HATE but it is quite tame here were we live now and not menacing like in the city.

Clocks changed last night - always throws me!

I won't be doing anything for Hallowe'en here. The kids are young still bless them and I doubt we'll have trick or treaters in our little flat block. So we shall carry on oblivious here

Yes it can be a funny old place. I used to spend a lot of time on the relationship boards. Nowadays with my 2 children it's a bit too hectic to spend lots of time on there. But the level of vitriol now being aimed at the absent OP (she won't come back now ) is surprising. I do not do personal attacks, I'm a kind person but I'm definitely stepping away from the thread now. The OP is long gone and I hope she has some support in RL, as this weekend will be so hard on her and she cannot talk on mn about it

Love the fact you have snow GoMummy, how lovely. Although I'm sure by December it won't be lovely for you

That's awful Tea . I hate threads that go that way. :(

DS has his dress up party at school tomorrow. (They aren't allowed to dress up as anything scary.) He is going as a spy. And we are making "spider treats" to take to his friends. They start with premade cakes so should be easy. :o

We will go trick or treating to a few houses tomorrow night and then call it a day. :)

LOL, Tea, as I scraped the windshield I thought of putting it all in a cooler to ship to you! Melted now, thankfully, but a reminder that it won't be long now. Still slightly warmer than usual, so I am grateful for that. The snow I can take, it's the cold I dislike.

We have an "autumn" dress-up event to go to tomorrow, which should be fun for DS, then will be in for the evening. I don't know if trick or treaters will come. DH hopes not as if no one comes by 10pm he gets to eat all the candy. :) I sort of hope not for different reasons. I am always a bit unnerved when adults come trick or treating. Where we live obviously everyone has to drive from house to house. Most times children get out and come to the door. But sometimes, it's groups of older teenagers or even adults (as in, with no children). Something about answering the door to a fully grown man in a mask doesn't sit well with me. Perhaps I am a party pooper?

Making a big batch of chili right now, feels like a comfort food day.

Happy Halloween everyone [hsmile]

tea Maybe you could send the op a supportive PM ?

I'm up since 6am {new time} as i forgot the clocks went back last night , so have done lots of cooking & cleaning nice and early this morning . We have a few people coming over for tea tomorrow evening .

Snow already gomummy

X-post gomummy

There's no way i would open the door to an adult wearing a mask on Halloween night but then again I'm a big coward

we've just made the pumpkin!

Um, no. I get a bit when I see teens trick or treating, would definitely think an adult very very odd!

I'm in the middle of making "Halloween Critter Treats" for DS's class tomorrow...like so many things, they do not look as fabulous as I'd hoped! :o Ah well, the kids will like them.

I've posted on this thread, starting on page 3. I started talking about my brother and it's all just coming out....I feel like a total mug for putting up with him.