To think that DH shouldn't automatically expect a bonking session just because the DC won't be at home...

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because it's really pissed me off!

We have a pretty good sex life although he's always had a higher libido than me - ie he would be at it every night if I was up for it. We don't get to have the house to ourselves very often because we have DC, one of whom is a teen so is up till quite late in the evenings; even more so at the mo with it being the holidays.

I was speaking to DH at lunchtime today and told him my mum has offered to have the DC stay at hers tonight. His reaction was 'oh good, we can have a bit of 'fun' tonight then' - which translates to a bonking session. My heart sunk because I was thinking, ooh good, a night off from the DC, I can be lazy, sit in front of the TV, have something easy for tea, watch what I like on tv and just chill out. But his assumption of a bonk night just makes me think that now I have another 'job' to do

Is that terrible of me? I do enjoy sex, and the chances are we would have ended up doing it anyway, but the way he just assumes that we will has turned me right off and now we'll probably have a night of me being in a huff and him sulking. I just hate the whole idea of 'planning' a shag - surely it happens when you're in the mood. Taking away any spontaneity just makes me think 'meh' and reach for my fleecy dressing gown.

Ha ha! Does your nan wash, dry and put away each teaspoon immediately after stirring her tea? I had a flatmate like that.

Probably though, if I had a proper husband I would be sick of him cluttering up the place and just the sound of him breathing would get on my nerves, and I would spend all my time clumping about tutting about the state of the house.
I just can't remember what being married is like!

Have you been married a long time ilovedora?

Yeah my nan is like that! Its so annoying. Weve been married 7 years and living together for 9. We got married at 19 and 20 though so I dont think you worry about things in the same way when you start living together young

It's not unreasonable of him to hope some action might be on the cards, but the way he brought it up (or the fact that he brought it up at all) was annoying. My DH does this kind of thing and it makes my teeth itch. I hate forward planned sex! It's spontaneous or nothing for me.
It's not very romantic to say "we can have a bit of fun" and he assumed that you'd definitely be up for it, which is very presumptuous. If he hadn't mentioned it and you'd spent a relaxed evening together then you would probably have been a lot more receptive, being informed that you will be having some fun later has had the opposite effect.

oh for heavens' sake it's got nothing to do with ironing. Or dishes.

I might want to read a decent book, though.

Omg reading this thread all I keep thinking is how I so wish this was me.

My OH is on Navy opertations and we have had no contact for 6 weeks and won't for another 8. Missing him massively

Glad you had a good night though OP ;)

Ha ha, men are SO predictable! YADNBU

Books shmooks.

I have read 2 whole agatha christie books since last Monday. I just do that anyway and dont need time off to do it, you can read why your kids play on the floor or when your out and about.