to be pissed off with my husband booking me a GP appoinment

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He thinks my depression is back, I think he is right but i am trying to cope without them.

4 weeks ago i was on 30mg of citapram but i came off them without seeing the doctor.

He said "i am becoming very worried", as i am going back to where i was 6-7 months ago. where i was at my lowest.

he has just told me this over the phone, and he book the appoinment on wednesday. so my appoinment is now tomorrow.

aibu to be pissed off he has gone behind my back

I used the term 'taking responsibility' because that is what Ormirian said.

Ah ok, sorry for the confusion. It was your use of the phrase 'taking responsibility' but you've explained now.

As for the light-hearted comment, well, sorry if I missed the funny side of it. Like Ormirian and Cinnabar I've had perfectly normal, healthy emotional responses disregarded because of MH issues. Never did find it funny. I'd better leave the thread alone if I'm overreacting to stuff.

Plenty Perhaps I should've used 'nudge in the right direction' with regards to the appt?

I did take exception and think people were getting at me all the time when I was depressed - I made that comment about myself, I certainly wasn't laughing AT anyone.

Edit - wasn't laughing at anyone but myself!

Of course families of people with depression don't have an easy time and I'm not suggesting that the OP should be mad with her dh or anything. He may well have been at a loss at what to do for the best. I just don't like the fact that suffering from depression leaves you relegated to the position of a child/someone in a comatose state in that your next of kin needs to make decisions for you.
Like a pp has said making the OP feel even more powerless and trying to push her into decisions is not necessarily the best way to go about things.
I can see where the op is coming from but I'm not suggesting her dh has done anything through anything other than love for the op - just imo it was misguided.

Mighty Quinn, I can see where you're coming from but perhaps the OP's DH has been here before and perhaps did not want to wait until OP gently came to her own conclusion about making an appt herself. In the meantime, it's the DH who has to pick up the slack and take on any burdens OP may not be up to doing right now.

I don't blame the DH. I currently look after my depressed DH and it took a very very long and miserable time before the penny dropped and he realised he needed help. They were dark days and if I see us going back there again and more to the point, see those dark days approach before he does, I would probably do the same.

This is not dis empowering him or infantilising him or taking away his power or his rights. it's just an appointment. It is called being proactive when a problem approaches and there are children to think about. My children have soaked up enough silences and atmospheres and tears behind closed doors. I won't let that happen again. If that means treading on DH's toes I would do it.

You never go cold turkey on anti=depressants, you have to be weaned off of them, what you have done could cause huge ramifications in so far as your depression could come back twice as bad as you had it initially.

Never ever decide for yourself to stop taking medication that basically helps you live day to day. It takes up to 12 months to come off of 30mg of citalopram properly an be recovered.