For not wanting to look after my best friend's daughter??

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Name Change because I already know I'm being a nasty bitch but

My best friend of 15 years has just landed herself a job after years of trying. She can get childcare, but not until September. I'm free until September so naturally she asked me. The thing is although I love her to bits I just can't stand to be around her DD

The DD is 7 and has been spoilt rotten from the day she was born, she even has a "spoilt" sounding name which I'd love to share but don't want to be TOO obvious. The girl is rude and demanding, sits there on the sofa with her glass in the air which means she wants it topping up. The last time she was here she whacked my puppy across the face with her sandal because he SNIFFED her doll. She has been brought up to believe that EVERYTHING should and will revolve around her and she expects it from other people too, not just her parents. She turns my TV over without asking because at home, she rules the TV. She helps herself to food out of the cupboards whenever she feels like it and screams at the top of her voice if anyone so much as says no to her. I know its the way she's been brought up and I shouldn't blame her but I just can't stand being around her. She spoils every day out we go on by demanding and whinging and complaining and even even spoilt DSs birthday party by screaming because we wouldn't let her open half of the presents (this also meant that the video footage we took of DS with the presents is ruined.)

I know she needs me but the idea of taking this child on full time for 2 months fills me with horror. But she KNOWS I have nothing else on so excusing my decision is going to be so hard.

She's probably a really unhappy child underneath it all - imagine being in charge at 7???
Having said that, you cansay a plain, firm no or a yes on your terms - not your friend's. So do the days that are OK for yuo, don't be emotionally blackmailed into doing more and make sure that the little brat darling child knows your rules and don't give in to her. As another poster said, it may just be the best thing that ever happened to her.

So many mistakes - sorry!

I am godmother to a child a bit like this and although he usually only visits with his parents (who say "no no no, oh alright then", so we have to put up with the tantrums and then the fact that the tantrums will be repeated as in effect he has been brought up to believe that "no" means "in a bit when you have made enough of a fuss").

That said he does occasionally come and stay for weekends on his own and I make it clear that his usual behaviour is just not an option and so far touch wood he has accepted that very well. He does need a lot of distracting techniques but I am with Lesley33 that at least I feel he is learning how to behave some of the time (even if not at home).

Suggest a trial as others have said on the basis of "my house my rules" and if either Mother or Daughter won't accept that, at least you have not turned her down flat.