To be pissed off by the way my daughter's nursery worker just shouted at me....

[NotTooPissedOffButEnough]

Ok, so I'm 3 months pregnant (which is no excuse), but I was reversing out of the front of the nursery and accidently scratched the side of her car. I know it's my fault. I know I did something wrong and bad and ruined her car. I 100% know that I made the mistake.

What I am pissed off about is the way she started shouting and swearing at me infront of my daughter and also infront of other people on the street. Then she started asking me for my insurance details, so I told her I don't have them to hand and I could go home and get them if she wanted them - to which she replied "You are not fucking leaving and goin home".....(Like I was really going to do a runner, and disappear off the face of the Earth, when I send my daughter to this nursery everyday )...All this infront of my daughter. All this infront of my daughter that she had spent the day looking after. She took my Licence plate number and phone number and I am sure my insurance will pay out to her. I am so shocked at the way this woman shouted at me infront of my daughter.
If it was out of nursery, I wouldn't have cared, but ON NURSERY GROUNDS, and she was still at work, and INFRONT OF MY DAUGHTER.

My daughter got scared and started crying on the way home asking me what happened and why X was shouting at me. Now she's telling me she doesn't like X. No one has ever shouted at me like this infront of her before. My husband and I never argue loudly infront of her, and she doesn't understand why the woman who cares for her during the day was shouting at me.

What should I do? I tried to phone the nursery to complain to the manager about her behaviour but no one was answering. What do you think? I know I made a mistake, but was she right to shout at me like this? I don't think she was seeing as she was still at work.

Knittedbreast did you get your car scratched this morning? I don't think shouting and swearing is a normal reaction at all, it just exposes a woman who has no control over her foul temper.

poor nursery worker. she gets her car scratched and now might loose her [hsad]

knittedbreast - not sure how you can defend the woman swearing in front of the child tbh. I swear but I don't do it in front of my kids and I would be livid if dds teachers did in or out of nursery. It's not like one swearword slipped out in anger. She was effing and jeffing in front of the child - not on at all.

I wouldn't want my children being looked after by a person who thinks swearing and shouting at a pg women in front of a child in her care is an ok thing to do ! As for knocking you out , what sort of person even thinks like that? Def not a person who should be incharge of children IMO

A scratch on a car is not justification for shouting and swearing at someone, wherever or whoever they are.

It's only a flipping car with a scratch, and it's insured, there is no need to get angry at all if the driver stops, apologises and accepts full responsibility. I had my car written off when I wasn't even in it, I had no transport for weeks and was massively inconvenienced, but I didn't react like that.

It was only a scratch, and the OP was more than happy to give her details - you don't need "insurance details" in this situation anyway, just reg plate, name, address and phone number. There was no need to start screaming and shouting like someone died or something. Good grief.

poor nursery worker ???? Really??

She might lose her job because of the way she chose to behave. That is her responsibility, no body else's.

She deserves to lose her job working with children because she has shown herself to be someone who cannot control her temper!

Working with children can be very frustrating at times. Most of the time they are cute and lovely, but some of the time they are not. She is only human, and for that reason, there are probably one or two children that she looks after that she doesn't particularly like. I know there are one or two in my nursery that are quite difficult to like. So what happens when she has had a row with her boyfriend, then one of those children that she has no natural affection for spends most of the day displaying naughty behaviour and refuses to do as she tells him/her?

It wouldn't be ok for her to lose her temper and scare that child because she has a justifiable reason to feel angry would it?

If you work with children you have to have patience, she obviously has very little patience and therefore would be doing herself, and the children in her care a massive favour if she found somewhere else to work.

To be honest I think the fact that she works with children is just the icing on the cake. NO ONE should speak ? well, shout and yell ? like that in a situation with someone they work with or are professionally associated with. 'only human' and similar arguments do not cut it.

Exactly ladyclarice. The woman obviously has a temper problem. I have known some of the workers there for over 6 years, as my nieces and nephews went to the same nursery and not once have I heard them do anything like this. They are all mild mannered and calm - like nursery workers should be. This woman has been working there for 4 months and she's done this. People with with a temper problem can't hold back their true colours for long.

Also, she is 24 years old. The manager tried to tell me she was a bit young, but I told her I had graduated, worked, got married and had had a baby by 24. 24 is old enough to learn how to control your emotions and any hormonal problems you may be going through. She is only 4 years younger than me, so young age is no excuse for her disgusting behaviour.

Thanks everyone for your supportive comments. It really helped me build confidence about this. I spoke to my friend about it today aswell and she told me that what I did was absolutely correct. So feeling a bit better. Hopefully I'll have a peaceful night's sleep tonight.

She seems unhinged. Imagine, if these like this over a piece of metal, what is she going to be like around lots of children? I would ask her if she got her nvq on the back of a cereal packet.

People are very strange when it comes to driving. You had an accident and you admitted it was all your fault, unfortunately, for tossers like her, they get off on you grovelling. I would have taken your daughter back inside and read the riot act to the offending twunt.

In some peoples' world, you're not allowed to make mistakes. I remember scratching the side of this gentleman's car, whilst trying to get past him at gas station. I got out ready for him to start balling at me, and he calmed me down, said it really didn't matter in the grand scheme of things and bought me a can of coke from kiosk!

OP, don't worry. She will be feeling a lot worse about this, than you are :)

"knittedbreast - fair enough if the first thing she said was 'You fucking hit my car'. That's excusable - it's just a gut reaction. "

No it's not

How could it ever be excusable to open up a discussion about a scratched car in such an aggressive and offensive way. Even if there were no children anywhere within earshot I would still be appalled at someone who thought it was OK to kick off like this.

But if she has so little self control that her knee jerk reaction when anything annoys her is to reach for profanities then she is certainly in the wrong job. I would not want her having any part in looking after my child.

5foot5 - As you must have read my post, you know the next line was "To continue to shout and scream though is completely repugnant behaviour considering her role and the location."

All I was suggesting was an immediate, heat of the moment expletive is something any reasonable person can forgive. We've pretty much all agreed what happened to the OP was much more than that, and unforgivable.

However, whilst we'd all prefer a perfect, calm world, if you can't forgive a person having a little hissy fit peppered with a single f-word if you'd scratched their car then that's a bit too sensitive in my opinion.

If she is too young to control her own behaviour, then she is too young to be a room supervisor at a nursery.

i work in a hospital, and on the rare event a partient do stress me out ( normally the ones shouting about the long waits in a&e) , so i leave the ward take a deep breath and then return. I would never dream of yelling, shouting and directing my stress out on a patient...i am 25 so age is not an excuss

I think her language in front of your child was unreasonable. But also do remember that by the fact that she has been involved in an accident, she will have to declare this to her insurers upon renewal and her insurance will likely increase regardless of whose fault it was. I would be mightly annoyed at that but like to think I wouldn't start yelling at someone.

Wouldn't most people expect trouble with their boss if they shouted and swore at a customer while at work? Most of us are simply not allowed to have hissies at work.

Sacking offence.

She needs to learn to control her temper or she's simply not someone you want working with children.

So sorry for you OP. Must have been very upsetting experience.

Whats happened this week op? Anything resolved?