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Original poster

to absolutely veto DDs plans for Newquay after GCSEs next year?

106 replies

AtYourCervix · 10/07/2011 21:54

Apparently all teenagers go to Newquay after GCSEs. Absolutely everyone.

I have said 'No'. I mean No.

I am a neglectful relaxed kind on mother but Ithe line must be drawn somewhere and this is it.

AIBU?

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EricNorthmansMistressOfPotions · 10/07/2011 22:17

Well - she's mature and sensible, so she will probably be fine - but I don't blame you, why not suggest she and a few of her friends go to Glastonbury or another festival in the summer instead?

RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles · 10/07/2011 22:17

poncey apparently 'butterz' is in fact a word that you could have left in your sentence (obvs with the z on the end). I am reliably informed by my 16 year old DD2 that it means one is very ugly Hmm.

ATC I wouldn't let them! But, on the other hand, I live in Spain and DD2 has just flown out from school today with 9 friends for her first 10 days of their summer holidays. Some might argue that's along the same lines, but as we live here and DD and her friends are staying within annoying parent distance from me, I think not. not least because I can keep tabs on booze consumption

squeakytoy · 10/07/2011 22:18

Fabby... there is letting apron strings go, and then there is the knowledge that this sort of experience is totally unsupervised and very likely to get messy, and kids of 16 are not able to cope with it.

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AtYourCervix · 10/07/2011 22:19

bloody glasto not on next year.

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maypole1 · 10/07/2011 22:19

I went to Newquay when I was 24 its lots of sex sex and stoppers and more sex they have no refused for legal age limits he will be vale to get in to all clubs all strip bars and bay all the drink he wants

Personally after I have been their myself will NOT be letting my son go it's basically magaloof but colder

The only compmermise is that you all go rent a shally and he can come and go please don't don't let him go

LittleMissFlustered · 10/07/2011 22:21

Book her a trip to New Quay in Wales. Act innocent when she rages home [hgrin]

TheArmadillo · 10/07/2011 22:22

YAnBU

They are really cracking down on drunken teenage behviour in Newquay apparently so if they are planning on getting wasted there are going to be problems. Lovely article in our local paper about some 16yo girls who had gone down there, got drunk and incapable and the police made their parents drive thhe 200 odd miles to collect them.

They have cracked down on pubs/off licences selling alcohol under age and apparently man the train station with sniffer dogs and confiscate drugs and alcohol. Also they like to prosecute parents who provide their underage kids with alcohol which is a common problem apparently.

Despite all that with what goes on in Newquay I would still not let a child of mine go at that age.

I went to Brean at that age and got drunk/stoned but we weren't particularly disruptive but we still got up to things I'm not sure I'd be happy my child doing.

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AtYourCervix · 10/07/2011 22:22

Maypole - I have no idea what you are saying but it doesn't sound my cup of tea.

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PigfartsPigfartsHereICome · 10/07/2011 22:24

Well I grew up in Newquay, did my GCSEs there. Never took any substances, went clubbing, did anything naughty at all- in fact I had jobs since I was 13. Please don't tar us all with the same brush!

BabyDubsEverywhere · 10/07/2011 22:25

I went to benidorm on an 18-30 holiday with my 22 year old boyfriend! (If you were over 16 but not 18 yet then you had to have a responsible adult sign a permission form for them to let you go - my boyfriend!)

We booked for a week but stayed for a month!

My poor Mother! She was quite supportive though, dont see what she could have said really, I was old enough to leave home so vetoing a holiday wouldnt have got very far!

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AtYourCervix · 10/07/2011 22:28

no pigfarts, not the locals i have problems with, bt the millions of jack wills/hollister dressed 16 year olds vomiting and shagging and making me drive 2000 miles to balil out.

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maypole1 · 10/07/2011 22:30

i went to Newquay at 24 its lots of sex, sex and more sex, strippers and more sex they have no regard for legal age limits he will be able to get in to all the clubs and strip bars and buy all the drink he wants.

Personally after being their myself I will not be letting my son go their its like magalof but colder

The only compromise I would make is all go down their on holiday and let her out then back buy a certain time

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AtYourCervix · 10/07/2011 22:33

she's not really in to strippers but i do have a problem with the drink, drugs, puking, arresting and shagging around.

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BornSicky · 10/07/2011 22:33

YADNBU

The residents in Newquay are getting pretty sick of the end of term piss up across their town every year and the town is getting trashed too. There's lots of negative feeling and don't expect anyone to look out for her if there's a problem.

It's a hellstorm and I wouldn't want to let my kid go.

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AtYourCervix · 10/07/2011 22:35

i shall offer her a surfboard and a weekend in Llangenith.

was good enough in my day.

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KittyBump · 10/07/2011 22:35

Christ, I went to Newquay after my GCSEs and I'm now 31, I had no idea it had got so wild! We went to clubs etc. but there were no drugs involved or apparent and no sex either, just a bit of innocent kissing (we were all very sensible too :) )
Tbh I'd be more dubious of a festival than a girls holiday, lots more opportunities for drugs and sex ime!
If she's sensible enough for a festival she's probably sensible enough for a girls holiday too. Though maybe you could suggest a different location?

DialMforMummy · 10/07/2011 22:35

YANBU. If you'd let me go on my own at 16, I would have been up to no good. And I was a (reasonably) good girl.

maypole1 · 10/07/2011 22:36

Sorry about my first try ladies I get so muddled some times.

Also I was aware their were a lot of drugs about even though people say the police are clamping down their are 100s of police but 1000s of kids I would bank on a few police men to look out for the welfare of. 16 year old

mickeyjohn · 10/07/2011 22:36

I went to Newquay after my GCSEs and we had a FAB time!! (this was back in 1992 when Rythym is a Dancer was number 1, mind!!) Let her go! What's she going to do there that she won't do at sixth form parties or 2 years later when she goes to uni/travelling/etc? We didn't shag anyone, just got drunk on Malibu and Coke, went to the (cold and windy) beach, and ate lots of chips. Brilliant time that I would have been GUTTED if my mum had veteod!!!

vegetariandumpling · 10/07/2011 22:37

I want to say that yabu and that if she's normally sensible then she will almost certainly not get arrested/pregnant/thrown off a cliff buuuut....I know what it's like there. So yanbu.

When I was that age, we talked about going, but so many of my friends' parents had already said no that I didn't even need to ask mine. So fingers crossed none of her friends end up going anyway!

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 10/07/2011 22:42

mickey things are different now - kids have died and the whole thing is completely out of control.

muddyangels123nomoreHPforme · 10/07/2011 22:42

I did & had a great time.
Staying in a windy tent, rain pouring down,living off of cold beans & cider,BBQ on the beach. It was one of the best weeks of my life.
But that was 24 years ago, mind you, i still have my fat willy's hoodie in the loft!![hgrin] I was a rebel in those days. heeeeeeeeee

I know i wouldn't let my DC go now. There's more alcohol around,drugs etc..
& teenagers are alot more grown up nowadays!!( Gosh, i sound old!!)

muddyangels123nomoreHPforme · 10/07/2011 22:45

Thearmadillo, Brean, was good too!![hgrin]

Cars on the beach, oh the memories!!

freedom2011 · 10/07/2011 22:47

YANBU. Have you got any relatives/friends somewhere exciting she can go for a holiday on her own. My parents sent me to spend the summer working with older but responsible cousins when I was 16. They were young enough to be fun but still a safe environment. Or point out the advantages of getting a summer job bagged quickly.

xylophone · 10/07/2011 22:49

I went to Newquay after my GCSEs (ten years ago now). I remember a youth hostel with not enough beds for the number of people staying, lots of mixed-dorm shenanigans, a seemingly endless supply of white lightening - possibly provided by the youth hostel caretaker - lots of weed-smoking in the dark by the sea, and the helicopter rescue of some guys too stoned to notice the tide coming in. Of course, we had a great time...