to be sat here crying

[biddysmama]

i have a 10 month old,a 27 month old and a 9 year old and im 10 weeks pregnant

my 9 year old is in the middle of getting his aspergers diagnosis, i know he has it, teachers,educatuional psychologist knows he has it, all we need is for the peadiatrician to officially say he has it..

he gets no help yet because theres no diagnosis, hes having a really bad time atm, everything is a fight, he wont get up, he wont go to school, school cant handle him, i cant handle him, he wont wash, he wont sit and eat and he wont go to bed at bedtime, every trip out of the house ends in meltdown, he has a meltdown every day, screaming at me that everythings my fault, im horrible,im mean, he wants to play wii, he wants to play out (we live on a busy road and obviously he cant go on his own)

i just feel like i cant cope anymore, no one can help me cos if i send him to stay somewhere he comes back 50x worse, summer holidays are coming up and i am terrified! im his mum, i love him and i should be able to cope but im just exhausted

Anyway i'm off to work (but obviously not in SW).

Big hugs and good luck with the pregnancy

Weirdly enough I spent 6 years in CP sw myself, but left because of my girls needing me here.
Slightly off topic BUT children with SN are are the highest group at risk of abuse BUT have the lowest level of being on CP register. We are too quick to assume that because a family has a child with SN that the levels of care should not be the same as those with NT children!! Sad and true fact

As a parent of a child with SN I despair. This is why life is so hard and shitty for lots of us, because many folk out there don't have a fucking clue what they are on about.

To those of you who are judging the OP from your seat up on high - this could be you one day. No one knows what the future holds for any of us. DH's can leave or god forbid, die, people who were fine can get sick and wind up with a disability, children included. I only hope that it doesn't happen to any of you because clearly, you are not equipped to deal with the situation. If you did end up in OP's situation, desperate and upset, I only hope that you will not be given the working over the OP has had today. I'm sure that made her feel so much better about her circumstances. How about a little compassion and understanding and if you don't feel able to give it, find another thread to rip people apart.

OP, I would suggest that you start a new post in SN, where you will receive more compassion and help.

I wouldn't know .... What is this respite you talk about

birds i am also a cp sw and am very glad i dont have your attitude.You did suggest the op shouldnt have had more children and used yourself as an example as you have a child with sn and so chose not to have anymore,that is very good for you but are you as happy with your decision as you make out. Btw are you a sn sw or cp cos they are generally different departments.

she said shes cp

differentnameforthis Well done for spectacularly missing the point. I now get why you at childish remarks.

Surely to God there must be something for you? Try Surestart? My dd was suspected ASD, turned out not, but we went to the ASD group at Surestart attached to her (fantastic) primary. Social Services? Homestart charity? Hope it's better today and you get what you need.