to think lots of people are "heightist"?

[MardyBra]

On the MiL from hell thread someone stated that the groom wasn't much of a catch because he was a short-arse. I'm shortish and my DH is v short for a bloke. Doesn't make us (automatic) mingers. Why do some tall people have a misplaced sense of superiority.

5'10 is not short! I think thats the perfect man height. Its not necessary to be 6ft or over, although tall women always impress me with their capable aura.

I'm sure I read something years ago about some research showing short women were more likely to go for tall men and vice versa. The theory was to do with a genetic drive to create more average height offspring as apparently they were most likely to survive.
Or some such.
Definitely get what others are saying about small men not seeming very masculine.

I am smallish and it has been a problem are in the supermarket but then it could just be a nice excuse to ask some tall, passing hunk to reach something on a high shelf for me.

But most of all I felt it when I was working in a City type job, struggling to be taken seriously anyway as a 20 something high flying sort. For example, I distinctly remember walking to some meetings with two very tall male colleagues and feeling like they were my dads. It must have made it hard for them to take me seriously.
And in lifts, lots of times this sort of thing happened - I'd stand next to colleagues or clients who were tall and feel like a little kid .

On the upside, other than the plane seats being less cramped etc. there's also I think a thing around people perceiving shorter people to be younger than our years.

[takes me back too to being a short kid and my parents pretending I was a couple of years younger than I was to get cheaper tickets to things - I HATED it - anyone else have that?]

Oh I did dump a guy once as he was over a foot taller than me and I decided we looked ridiculous together so I'm heightist the other way.

I'm 5' 9 1/2", and DH is 5' 10 1/2", so we are very well matched he has no problems with me stepping out in 4" heels either!
Our DD is 6' tall (14) and people comment all the time. When she is in her army cadet uniform she is another 3 inches taller
DS is 12, and is 5' 8, and his only goal in life seems to be "over taking" DD

I dated a guy who was 5' 8" in high school, and while I had no issue with it, he made it into an issue. He was very insecure, which made me feel like he was always appologizing for me

"I might be accused of being paranoid, but I think sometimes tall people don't even 'notice' short people... for friendship I mean."

Yes, you are being paranoid. All my friends bar one are shorter than me. I am friends with people who are nice, regardless of their shape or size.

I quite like short men, especially when they are really muscular, very sexy in a 'solid' looking kind of way.

I do think being very short must be a pain in the arse because the world is very much set up for 'average' as far as self height, chairs etc, though I suppose the same applies to being very tall.

I quite like short men too, in fact I find very tall men (e.g. over 6') quite unattractive. DP is about 5'9" and that's pretty much the upper limit for me. If someone's too tall it's difficult to make eye contact or even have a proper conversation, and to be honest I just feel like they're a different species from me and the thought of any intimacy is a bit repulsive.

I do like men to be 'masculine' but for me that's more to do with a nice strong solid build, rather than being tall.

I'm 5'2" so I suppose quite short, never really found it a problem.

I knew there'd be one person bunbaker!

But no seriously, these aren't observations made hastily. I did say Sometimes. But yes, there are tall people who won't even make small talk with small people. You're not one. Well done.

I guess there are some people who wouldn't make small talk with fat people.... people are flawed. Shocker.

Oh no I don't notice short people at all. Well only when I have to clean them off my shoes when I get home.....

i am 5'2. for some strange reason i have always attracted tall men they have all been 6ft + 6'2 seems to be the average height. have never been attracted to shorter men and i do not seem to be attractive to them, though i would not say no to Al Pacino

i like being my height, i can not wear the same clothes as some of my taller friends and look so good but i do get people being protective over me

Ormirian Just caught up with your comment: "I've just realised that you are actually serious mardy I had assumed this was a joke thread. May I counter with the 'why do some small people have to be so aggressive' argument."

If you read my post you will have seen that I'd been physically dominated only on a couple of occasions by tall blokes - not all tall blokes, just a couple of prats who tried to use their physicality to dominate. The one instance I quoted where I told him to back off, I was being assertive in response to him being aggressive.

It was a fairly light-hearted thread, but I do think there are some serious points to be made about heightism too.

Maybe my user name is a bit of a misnomer - I'm not usually that mardy. (It takes quite a lot to rile me now I'm getting old and decrepit more mature.) It was a reaction to a previous user name which was a bit too fluffy (and no, I wasn't hunnymummykins or something like that).

I'm tall for a woman 5'10

its a cement rule that my DP had to be taller