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AIBU?

to think lots of people are "heightist"?

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MardyBra · 04/07/2011 09:07

On the MiL from hell thread someone stated that the groom wasn't much of a catch because he was a short-arse. I'm shortish and my DH is v short for a bloke. Doesn't make us (automatic) mingers. Why do some tall people have a misplaced sense of superiority.

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giveitago · 04/07/2011 13:41

Sea - with you on the shoes - massive sales bargains as I have tiny feet and hence the cheapest and best stocked shoe cupboard inthe world. I also wear kids's shoes sometimes.

My mum is your height.

However, there is a strong link between height and income. That's just down to discrimination.

MrsTittleMouse · 04/07/2011 13:43

Ormirian - that's not a height issue. I'm a short-arse and I had men constantly talking to my breasts when I was in my twenties.

oohjarWhatsit · 04/07/2011 13:43

im 5'2"

i find men who are small in height and thin a real turn off :) i like a man to be a man - over 6ft and in proportional chunkiness lol

happy2bhomely · 04/07/2011 13:46

I'm 5'9 and DH is 5'7. I like my height, but if I'm honest, I would prefer my DH to be taller. Ideally, I would like him to be 6' and bigger built. If he was totally honest, he would prefer to be 6' and prefer me to be 2 inches shorter and 2 sizes smaller with bigger breasts! But, hey ho, we love each other and find each other attractive. I have had other men comment that he is smaller than me and I reply with a wink that he is big where it matters most-that normally shuts them up!

mumblechum1 · 04/07/2011 14:06

I'm 5ft 4, so average, but the other night we were in a Thai restaurant and I was towering over the waitress who showed us to our table, who must have been about 4ft 10 and very delicate.

I liked it, I wish I was about 5 ft 9.

Seabright · 04/07/2011 14:08

Also, on the (very rare) occasions I meet someone smaller than me (an adult, I mean) it feels really weird. I feel very "out of place" or maybe "out of scale" would be a better description

SexyDomesticatedDab · 04/07/2011 14:31

Bernie Ecclestone attracts tall women - but maybe they just like the size of his wallet

JollySergeantJackrum · 04/07/2011 14:32

I'm 5'1. It's very rare for me to meet anyone as short as me under 50. DP is 5'11 ish.

I heard that there was a study that showed that a woman was most likely to marry above her social class if she was tall. Education, hair colour, waist size were irrelevant compared to height.

On the subject of clothes, nobody makes clothes for people my size either. Trousers are fine, but a combination of my height and my massive norks mean I can't fit in pretty much any dresses or tops.

I rarely notice my height however it's not fun driving a baby car seat trolley in the supermarket as I can't see over it. I also feel short if I end up in a lift with a few people over 6ft.

Other people generally don't notice my height either until I stand next to them. I figure it's because I don't act short. It's the same with short men - their attractiveness for me is about how folk act, not how they look.

Empusa · 04/07/2011 14:36

"Whenever I see a good looking short man, I always think "Aww it's a shame he's not taller"

Then again, I've never known a short man who didn't want to be taller."

There's probably a correlation there. I know DH (before he met me) encountered those problems.

I had a weird conversation with a friend once, she was going on about how she could never date a bloke who was shorter than her, I pointed out she was daft, so she said "well you've never been out with anyone shorter than you!"

I'm 4'10"

MardyBra · 04/07/2011 14:42

It's odd isn't it that there are very few prominent politicians who are short. The only two I can think of is John Bercow (who had some "dwarf" jibes in Parliament a few months back) and Sarkozy (5ft5"), whose height is frequently referenced in the press. Cameron is 6ft, Obama is 6ft 1". There is some evidence that we are electing leaders based on height rather than policies.

Re the Randy Newman song, I have to admit I hadn't come across it before, so without hearing it, it's hard to appreciate any irony. However, try inserting another group of people in the lyric "---- got no reason To live"
and see how it feels.

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MardyBra · 04/07/2011 14:43

I once went out with a bloke who was shortish and ginger. I like bucking a trend, me.

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MardyBra · 04/07/2011 14:47

For what it's worth, by the way, I can fully understand people having preferences for certain body types - sure some people fancy tall/short/big/little/blond/dark etc etc. I also appreciate that there are drawbacks to being tall, which some people have outlined.
What gets me is parts of society assuming tall=better and this translating into higher salaries and the like.

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MillyR · 04/07/2011 14:52

I am 5 foot 10 and DH is shorter than me. I have never been in a relationship with a man taller than me, nor do I find tall men attractive. Perhaps people want their kids to be ordinary and that is the underlying reason. My brother is 6 foot 8 and it is a big hassle - shorter men will attempt to draw him into physical fights so that they can prove something. I would rather have children of a normal height, and there are too many tall genes in my family without me marrying a tall man as well.

meravigliosa · 04/07/2011 15:14

My DH is 5' tall and lovely. I am 5'4.

Spuddybean · 04/07/2011 15:17

Buying shoes is also a hassle if you are tall. Size 8's are rare and i often have been told they don't go above a 6 or 7 in the woman's dept.

Once in barratts; when asking for an 8 in a pink shoe with ribbons, the assistant laughed in my face as if i were joking. Then when he realised i wasn't he told me they didn't come in bigger than a 6 and i should try the men's dept!

Bra's are also a nightmare as being tall and athletic i have a broad back but small cup (i know, really feminine and sexy!). I cried last week in John Lewis when they told me (while looking at me like i was a freak) they didn't do a 38a. I tried LaSenza the girl laughed and looked straight at my tits and sneered no.

Myla don't do it, neither does agent provocateur - by poor dh has traipsed round all the shops trying to get something pretty and sexy for me and they think he's trying to buy it for himself!

If i ever do find anything it is white cotton sporty undies - It's like i'm too manly to have anything feminine.

Empusa · 04/07/2011 15:20

"Buying shoes is also a hassle if you are tall. Size 8's are rare and i often have been told they don't go above a 6 or 7 in the woman's dept."

I know how you feel, though in my case I need a 2 and barely anywhere goes below a 4. :(

TeenieLeek · 04/07/2011 15:50

I am about 5'4. I have dated a 6'6 man, a 6'3 one and two who were 5'2. One of the shorties was a serious boyfriend and my Mum, lovely supportive lady that she is, one referred to him as "that midget". My current chap is about 5'8" and I think will only just scrape acceptance in her eyes. This is despite the fact that my Dad was exactly that height. Her Dad was tall, go figure.
The "midget" went on to marry a girl who was 5'9. I Hope her mother is nicer than mine.

The other short guy was very fortunate in the trouser dept. The 6'3 one not so much.

MardyBra · 04/07/2011 15:54

"The other short guy was very fortunate in the trouser dept. The 6'3 one not so much."

Maybe that's another thread: Can you predict todger size from height?

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Insomnia11 · 04/07/2011 15:56

I was shoe size 2 when I was 7. Same as Y2 teacher.

My feet "only" grew to 6.5/7 though. DD1 seems to be going down same route - size 13 already and 6th birthday next week.

Insomnia11 · 04/07/2011 15:58

"Can you predict todger size from height?"

No - feet to height ratio.

DH is 5'11" and size 11/12 feet - that's quite a good ratio by the way :o

MardyBra · 04/07/2011 16:00

What about feet to willy ratio?

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Bandwithering · 04/07/2011 16:24

The fact that somebody (can't remember who) had "you don't act short" said to them is what I find depressing.... I'm an adult. I'm not aggressive, I don't bounce around like tigger trying to be noticed... What is acting short?!

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Bandwithering · 04/07/2011 16:24

somebody on this thread I mean! not just somebody out there in the world!

bandgeek · 04/07/2011 16:36

I'm 5'10 and not had any nasty comments about my height, people seem to be more jealous of it. I wear heels, sometimes high ones and people so count on that 'you don't need heels' etc but I know I don't NEED them - I just want to wear them as I like them.

DH is 5'11 so not much taller than me, and he loves my height too, although I have mostly been attracted to shorter men!

Empusa · 04/07/2011 16:42

"somebody (can't remember who) had "you don't act short" said to them"

Years ago I met someone who I'd been chatting to online and they said, "oh, you didn't seem short!"

Um.. how are you meant to tell someone's height fom what they say?

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