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to think lots of people are "heightist"?

162 replies

MardyBra · 04/07/2011 09:07

On the MiL from hell thread someone stated that the groom wasn't much of a catch because he was a short-arse. I'm shortish and my DH is v short for a bloke. Doesn't make us (automatic) mingers. Why do some tall people have a misplaced sense of superiority.

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Bandwithering · 04/07/2011 16:48

........... at this point in my life, having recovered from a tall bastard I'd be attracted to just a nice man!! Anything over 5'5''. Grin Not too thin. Sorry I am skinniest when it comes ot men and will hold my hand up to that. A man HAS to weigh more than you. If you have one, please send him on.

Ormirian · 04/07/2011 17:01

spuddy - have you had a bra fitted properly? I used to think I was a 38B. I got a fitting and now wear a 36C and look and feel much better.

Spuddybean · 04/07/2011 17:06

Ormirian - yes that was my fitting result. i am often told by shop assistants to try 36b instead (i now have a drawer of them) and i am in pain all day and when i take it off i have indents over my back. the cups are also baggy.

Actually when i was a little heavier my fitting said i was a 40a! but i may as well have just tied hankies to gether rather than the humiliation of asking a sales assistant!

Original poster
MardyBra · 04/07/2011 18:17

Does anyone else hate it when a tall person uses their size to try and physically dominate them in a confrontational situation. It's happened to me on a couple of occasions (only with blokes oddly). The last time I told him to back off. (One of my mardier days obviously).

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Ormirian · 04/07/2011 18:42

I suspect in those situations it's was the fact that they were blokes that was the issue, not their size mardy.

I've just realised that you are actually serious mardy Shock I had assumed this was a joke thread. May I counter with the 'why do some small people have to be so aggressive' argument.

FabbyChic · 04/07/2011 18:48

Im 5ft 2" small I however wouldn't date anybody below 5ft 11"

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/07/2011 18:54

Spuddy i'm not tall (far from it!) but I feel your pain before my op I was somewhere between 36 and 38 A. Had to wear B cups and put up with the gaping.

NettoSuperstar · 04/07/2011 18:54

I'm 5'2, which is short for a woman, my exbf (now a good friend) is the same height.
When I see him, I wear heels or not, as I feel like, he'd have me always in heelsGrin
It has never bothered me, or him, bit it really seems to bother other people, which is odd.
I've been asked by women what I see in him, and by men if I'd rather have a real man. Real man? WTF?

Sure he's been known to annoy me, and we can't make a relationship work, hence we are no longer in one, but he's a good guy, great in fact, I'd recommend him to a friend, and his height has never been an issue for either of us, well other than a source of hilarity when we see random people discussing it when we're out together.

kickingking · 04/07/2011 18:58

I'm 5'1". I don't mind it, but it does get commented on. "You should wear heels". Er, why? Also been asked exactly how tall my mum, dad and all my siblings are Hmm. Doesn't get commented on nearly as much now I'm in my thirties mysteriously. Perhaps the addition of offspring convinced people of my adult status?

My DH is over 6ft. A tall friend, whose mum is also tall, told me her mum gets angry if she she sees a short woman with a tall partner. She doesn't think short women should 'steal' tall men. wtf? I didn't seek out a tall man on purpose to spite her!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/07/2011 19:00

I'm sorry but WTF? Steal tall men? the woman is off her rocker!

kickingking · 04/07/2011 19:03

She's not very attractive, if I'm honest. Maybe she is just insecure generally?

NettoSuperstar · 04/07/2011 19:04

Steal tall men?
How weird.

I once dated a guy who was 6'7.

I couldn't care less about a guy's height.

Spuddybean · 04/07/2011 19:06

AmazingBouncingFerret - what was your op? breast enlargement?

I have considered it and it's been suggested quite rudely by people - 'oh you are so tall and curvy you look like you SHOULD have bigger boobs but you don't, why don't you get them done' was the latest froma friend of a friend i had only met twice!

I even had the consultation but when i asked for a b/c cup they were really rude, saying, being as 'big' as i am i should go for dd's as anything less would look odd...er, thanks, i am already an a so i must already look really odd!

i also just get into size 14 tops/dress because my back takes up all the space so if i had bigger boobs i'd be so top heavy.

AND apart from clothes issues i actually love my figure, when i am naked i am happiest. It's only when clothes are introduced i start to feel like an alien!

kickingking · 04/07/2011 19:06

Oh - this is a odd one. My SIL told me she had never thought of me as short, because I have a 'tall personality'. What??

My height, of lack of it, is often the first thing people notice about me. If someone describes me, the word 'tiny' is often used (am skinny as well). I can't believe she had never noticed I'm short.

And what the hell is a 'tall personality'?!

kickingking · 04/07/2011 19:07

AN odd one...

CrapolaDeVille · 04/07/2011 19:08

I love being the height I am, I'm 5'2"....I'm not fond of short men or blonde men, or skinny men.

However I have five children, one is little for their, two average and two tall. I cannopt abide people who crap on about their huge children as if it's something to be proud of or that they had anything to do with it. And when the same people who talked with great glee about their tall children it really did piss me off when they commented on one of my dcs being little..... 'good job he's incredibly good looking' was my retort.

Spuddybean · 04/07/2011 19:08

Yes, that's right you mustn't steal tall men. There are only a finite supply and us freaks tall women need to have them allocated to us, otherwise we look even more freakish...dontchaknow.....or something like that which my mum also thinks!

Ormirian · 04/07/2011 19:09

IME tall men often seem to be attracted to small women.

Ormirian · 04/07/2011 19:10

And, as I mentioned earlier in the thread, I seemed to attract a series of small men. Odd really,.

kickingking · 04/07/2011 19:12

Sorry, Spuddy Blush

People did used to try and set me up with really short men.

kickingking · 04/07/2011 19:13

All my boyfriends have been quite tall...

I wonder why tall men would like short women? Hmm

Spuddybean · 04/07/2011 19:16

Kickingking - are you shocked at my stealing short men post? if so my tongue was firmly in my cheek about how bizarre the rationale would be. Or are you shocked at my description of mutated undressable body? Wink

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/07/2011 19:16

Spuddy I had my spine straightened before and after pics are on my profile. Grin

Asinine · 04/07/2011 19:17

YANBU

Most models have to be above certain heights, for example

When I met dh we were both 5'9

now I am 5'8 and he is 5'9...

unless he's not around in which case I'm 5'9 again

Apparently you are tallest when you wake up, and gradually get smaller as the day goes on, as your discs in your spine are slightly spongy and compress through the day.

Spuddybean · 04/07/2011 19:19

AmazingBouncingFerret - i hope i didn't offend you by inferring you may need cosmetic enhancement i'm sure you are perfect the way you are Blush

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