DP going on about my name being "common"

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Namechange as I'm revealing my real name in this thread.

So basically my first name is Tracy. DP always goes on about it saying it's such an awful name and makes me sound like a fishwife, drug addict or prostitute. He says his mum would NEVER have chosen a name like it for her daughters and keeps asking if I'm embarrassed by it and asks if I got bullied at school because of it. I don't like my name all that much either but I can't be arsed with the faff of changing it, it would take so long for everyone to revert to calling me something else and the paperwork, certificates etc - just not worth the hassle. But with him going on about it constantly it's making me really self concious, especially so as when I was 16 I was dating a lad who told me his mother had already decided I was "a bit rough" because of my name yet she'd never even met me (and never did come to think of it) !!

I don't think DP realises how much this is starting to get to me. AIBU to really kick off everytime he mentions it? it will cause arguments but he's never going to shut up about it otherwise.

Leave him. Now.

Thank your lucky stars you aren't married to him.

Show that you have some self-respect.

Well, Timmy-Wimmy, I'm being bullied about it now, aren't I?

The name Tracy is synonimous with Essex and the classic Essex girl, it goes hand in hand with Sharon.

It's not a terrible name at all, it is your name.

Your OH sounds like a pig.

DP takes the mick out of my first name and my surname. he says my surname sounds like the name of the chauffeur's help.

I think Grace Kelly played a Tracy Samantha or a Samantha Tracy in one of her films (High Society maybe?) and at the time the film was made it was an unusual and classy name. Edit: (she did here )

I'm related to a Tracy and she is lovely. She doesn't like her name either though, mainly because of people like your 'D'P making stupid comments about it.

If you want to change your name then change it, but only if it's to make you happy. Personally I think you would be better of changing DP's for someone who doesn't seem so determined to insult and bully you though.

I like the name Tracy. I ALWAYS wanted to be called Tracy.
I was born in the 70's and my name is very flower child hippy, to the point that East Kent Hospitals Procurement dept know me by my first name only. I don't even have to tell them what dept I work in!!! (and I have only rang them three times this year - I rang them up with a query this morning and ALL I said was, Hi its S** when they knew who I was it really freaked me out)
I would MUCH rather have your name. In fact I always wanted to be called Tracy as a child, its painful growing up with a weird and wonderful name when you was as shy as I was as a child.

How long have you and DP been together?

The man's a prick. And there's every chance that if he gets away with this sort of behaviour, he will start chipping away every other aspect of your personality and character. And things will get far, far worse.

Didn't he know your name when you first met or did you call yourself a very nice name according to him and now he's found out you are called Tracey?

I grew up and live with a Shakespearian monstrosity although as an adult I quite like it and it has become a little better known in recent years because of certain popular films. As a child I would have killed to have been called Susan (or Tracey, Helen, Jane, Karen, Cathy, Fiona, etc.). FWIW I knew a Tracey in the early 80's - for her wedding her mother had the silk for the marquee dyed the same shade as the wedding dress and the total bill (in 1982) was 27,000. Don't begin to ask about the samll estate on which the marquee was erected - it certainly had nothing to do with the local authority or what your husband associates with "Tracey". Do tell him to grow up. And by the way my children have very easy, simple and traditional names because of what i was lumbered with.

Nevermindthegap makes a very good point. (DH is from working class stock and I must admit they also have great fun taking the mickey out of my name so perhaps it works both ways too).

Sorry...but if he has to be so condescending and unaccepting of your name then it doesn't bode well.

I wouldn't be with someone like that.

Not read all replies but i am wondering.
Does he feel the same about Olivia Evie Ava Emily Lily Jessica Chloe Grace Amelia ???

How rude and unclassy of him to say such a thing. You know, you could easily change your name by ditching him and reverting back to your maiden name!!

I have a pal called Sheron who changed one letter in her name from Sharon to avoid the gags but at the end of the day, it's the person that matters and not the name. Nothing wrong with your name - it's your husband that's the problem IMO

Where has the OP gone?

Names go in and out of fashion all the time.
In 10 years time or so it'll be top of the list again.

Where has the OP gone?

Look, if it's good enough for Katherine Hepburn and Grace Kelly (High Society was her last film before she became a princess) then he can get over himself.

I can't believe the 'my mother would never give one of her daughters that name' - for some reason that once comment stands head and shoulders above everything else in just being really, really awful.....

i hated my ex's name (kevin) and had it tattoed on myself! thought about calling my ds kevin so could say the tattoo was of his name but couldnt bear to call my child that! got the tattoo covered (wtf i was thinking in the first place is beyond me!) kevin was a horrible horrible man who done everything to lower my self esteem 'what man would be interested in you because of blah blah blah' i ended up in a womens refuge! every woman in there had the same problem with their oh wether they were violent or not its abuse! GET OUT