to say no to taking a friends son to school two days a week?

[carocaro]

DS2 starts school in Sept, one his friends also starts and his parents both work (I will work from home) and have asked if I can take him to school two days a week so they can get to work. Reason being the see it a waste to pay for before school club as they would drop him with me at 8.20 and we leave at 8.35. I will get a weekly bottle of wine for this apparently.

I just think two days a week is too much, I don't mind one day (have older DS to take to school as well). Also what about car seats, three won't fit in the back and I don't want DS1 to sit in the front (he's10 and can't anyway can he?). PLus all the faff of getting them in and out; will the get another seat or have to pick the one I use up everyday?

I just don't feel happy about it, just because I am always going to be going. How can I explain this to them?

AIBU?

[lachesis]

Oh, I see your wee one hasn't started school yet! So much for ending it at end of term.

Think you'll have to suck this up now.

Learn not to be a mug, though.

[LolaRennt]

Passenger seat is not as safe as back seat, and if he doesn't already sit there I wouldn't push him to the fron if you aren't comfortable with it. You'd feel horrible if somethign happened. Also who doesn't offer petrol money?? Wine is not petrol money

[anonacfr]

I don't get it. Are you actually expected to take this DC to school because his father can't be bothered to get up in the morning and they don't want to pay for pre-school thingie two days a week?

If that is the case then they are seriously taking the piss, specially seeing as you're not even friends, only your kids are.

[AxlRose]

I wouldn't do it. I'd help out anyone I could short term and wouldn't expect anything in return - but I wouldn't want to be part of a permanent childcare arrangement. I wouldn't want the extra responsibility.

[Animation]

They are seriously AVIN a LAUF!

[hormonalmum]

I would offer to help out in an emergency but not as a long term agreement.

[wakeupandsmellthecoffee]

if dads sleeping in then I would really say no

[zipzap]

Also what is going to happen for the very first week or two at school?

Do you have one of those silly staggered or gentle starts where you don't go in full time for the first week or month or term? Make sure that the child does go to school on the same days and times as your dc so you don't end up having the child for the am because he's only in for the afternoon and you can't wake up the dad he's hiding under the pillow Or that they expect you to take him because they haven't made other plans even though you are only going for afternoons.

I'd also expect the dad to take him in for the first week or so, as he is around, to make sure he is settled, that the dad knows the teacher etc so that you don't have to settle their dc when you will want to be able to settle your child if there are any problems... That first week or two can be really important in getting the child settled happily for the rest of the year.

[perfectstorm]

"it's tough that the Dad works late and wants to sleep (he has the rest of the day to do it)"

That's the point at which I lose patience completely. I think after the trial you need to say, "sorry, not working for me." You need the hassle and inconvenience so he doesn't have it? I've hardly had an unbroken night in 3 years - DS sleeps badly (he's small, and asthmatic, so wakes wanting water/comfort... and every 10 days or so will cough so badly he vomits everywhere and it's a complete change of, well, everything in the early hours) but I still have to get up and function. It's tough, but hey, that's parenting. If he can roll out of bed, throw some jeans and a shirt on, and get his kid to school and then go back to sleep the minute he gets in - that's hardly a massive hassle, is it? And his poor kid, being taken to another house and another routine at the busiest time of day, or to a breakfast club, at 4 years old because Dad is a lazy arse.

[Teachermumof3]

God-I missed that bit about the dad wanting to sleep! They are taking the p£$% a bit!

The trial would not be working for me even just thinking about it!

Are your children in the same class? As Zipzap says-many schools start new intakes in all manner of different ways; will your children be doing the same hours?

[CurrySpice]

DP worked shifts and when the kids lived with him he would go to bed at 7am, his DD would wake him at 8:15 with a coffee, he'd do the school run and then go back to bed.